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Author of "Because I Say So: The Dangerous Appeal of Moral Authority" (www.nikkistern.com) and "Hope in Small Doses" to be released June 1, 2010 by Humanist Press.

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JANUARY 28, 2011 1:04PM

The Kids Aren't Alright

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           RECORD LEVELS OF STRESS FOUND IN COLLEGE FRESHMEN

Jan. 27, 2011: The emotional health of college freshmen — who feel buffeted by the recession and stressed by the pressures of high school — has declined to the lowest level since an annual survey of incoming students started collecting data 25 years ago.

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The counselor glanced often at large Westinghouse alarm clock sitting implacably on the desk that separated us. I was perched on the edge of an uncomfortable chair in her severely lit office, trying to quell both my anxiety and my irritation.

"So you feel as if you're stuck with a black cloud over your head," the counselor insisted.

"No, no, it's like a black hole, a sort of traveling abyss. You know, bottomless." Now I was getting impatient. Was this woman even listening to me?

At long last, the alarm clock went off, in retrospect an incredibly rude signal that our session was at an end. I ran out of the office and into the temporary comfort of a beautiful late autumn day. I never went back.

The year was 1968; the location was the Administration building on the main campus of the university I attended. I had just seen one of only two or three counselors assigned to help the freshman and sophomore classes navigate the treacherous shoals that represented post-adolescent, away-from-home education during particularly turbulent times. Forget flower power and bell bottoms.  The boys in my class were terrified of being drafted and sent overseas. The girls in my class were contending with the reality of questionably safe birth control and illegal abortion. Nearly everyone was experimenting with drugs of one kind or another. With three political assassinations behind us, an endless war upon us and an unpredictable future ahead of us, we were contending with a tsunami of political, cultural, and emotional ambiguities. And we still had term papers to turn in.

Less attention was paid and much less time invested in the mental health of college students when I went to school than it is today, notwithstanding the fact that several of my classmates took swan dives off buildings or hung themselves in dorm rooms or group homes. One guy--someone on whom I'd had a colossal crush who'd finally asked me out--never made it to our first date. We found him three days later adjacent to a kicked-over stool. Closed garage, St. Louis summer, might have been an accident...but then he and I had served on an all-student panel that was asked to decide whether four students who'd participated in in the torching of an ROTC building should be permanently kicked out of school. That was an awful lot of pressure to bear--from peers, faculty, administration, parents, and local and federal law enforcement.

The annual study referenced above began twenty-five years ago during the halcyon days of the Reagan administration, when our country was in the midst of (perceived) economic growth and opportunity and women were perhaps still basking in the glow of post-feminism.  Economic insecurity plays a role in the current results, with students worried about their college loans and their future prospects. It's disturbing to note that women students surveyed in 2010 seem altogether less confident about their emotional well-being than they did in 1985.  stressed-student_primary

Of special note is that a number of students come into college already stressed from the burden of scholarship mixed with extra-curriculars they carried throughout high school. They are also enormously tough on themselves and bring with them a set of expectations and concerns about competition that weigh heavily. Finally, as is continually pointed out, they are susceptible to an enormous influx of opinion and information coming at them from all sides at all hours of the day and night. There is little quiet time in the head of a college student.

Given how different our times are now from how they were in the eighties, I'm not surprised at these survey results. We are a nation under stress--and thank goodness we know it.  The fact is, we're more attentive to our emotional well-being than ever. We offer more services, more medicines, and more training. Since 9/11, we've developed new protocols for responding to immediate traumatic grief --I know because I was involved with New York City agencies tasked to work on some of these . Mental health professionals are more common in the workplace, including the military, and more treatment options are available. 

Of course we make mistakes, miss problems, fail to treat people who go on to hurt themselves or others. But we're now addressing issues that we weren't twenty-five years ago when times were good, or forty-two years ago, when they weren't, when an anxious and fearful nation sent its young off to college or to war to face their own black holes.

photo: Washington University (which happens to be my alma mater)

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It's bad now...as it was then
College student stress has been around for decades (at least since I was a freshman, a few years ahead of you). But yes, we are addressing it now and people are more aware of the problem instead of just enduring it. We just need to be able to afford complete treatment for all people who may need it, not just those with insurance.
Hey! I just read a post on this! Your treatment was very nice on this topic and more in depth, though that takes nothing away from the one I just saw.

Well done, Nikki!
you think the 80s were also stressful? try the 60s....phew.....
Nikki, this is a very informative post. I didn't have the same experience with college stress in the '70's as my daughter does now. But I was a bit of a slacker and she is not. Thank you for this perspective. ~r
Doug-thanks.
Lea--my friends with college-age kids think it's worse. But my flashback reminds me it's been there for some time
Elijah-exactly
As one who has a daughter currently studying in the university system here in Canada while also working in the Communications office of the same institution, I can say the waiting lists are sooo long to get an appointment for mental health counselling. You have to be "in crisis." If not for matters of confidentiality I could give a couple recent examples. Suffice it to say for some students it is just too late. Being more aware of the problems is advancement for sure, having the resources to cope with the sheer numbers that need help is another matter. So yes, I suppose same then as now.
Thanks for your recollection of seeing a college counselor in 1968: that was my Freshman year. Later I saw a couple of college shrinks and they were useless (in one case worse.) On that account things are better. AS far as the country and the times, not so sure....
It's true! I see it often, but I guess I never thought it was worse or more. I work at a college and we've seen an influx of students needing counseling (veternans, homeless, laid-off). However, we've seen an influx period. I think we see this at the college level because of the surrounding factors on our economics. Anyway, there is hope and it starts there inside those institutional walls.
I think life is stressful in general.. anything !!
Can you see me shaking now??
Rated with hugs :)
I'm afraid it's only going to get worse for them as they move out into the world.
Nikki, it's hard to for me to find empathy on this subject. There are a lot of kids who aren't in school post high school, and the stress and economic pressures on them is even higher. This is a trendy subject. So what?

I think about the children of my peers, whose every move since preschool was choreographed, and micro managed by their parents. The play groups, the club teams, the endless focus of building that resume to get into a "good" college.

These 18 and 19 year olds have never had to take responsibility for themselves until now. They can't handle it.

My adopted two younger daughters could not academically achieve past high school. Emotional and other issues (not financial) keep them from being in college. They work multiple jobs, have mortgages and car payments, as well as children to care for.

The stress in their lives is manifold what the typical college freshman faces. So forgive me for not wringing my hands at this trivial problem that has existed for generations.
gawd, i wish i had been that conscious, but wasn't. thanks for putting this out there.
Nikki,
As someone who lives in a college town that has a reputation for suicides, I'm not sure we are taking care of the students the way they need to be. Too many of them are still falling through the cracks. Some of my colleagues have said that it's not their responsibility to keep an eye on their students' mental health, which I think is part of being a professor. You're the bridge from being parented to going out in the real world, and I feel it's my responsibility to stay aware of what's going on.
Very timely and important stuff here. I know from many of the college age kids that I see, one of the biggest stressors is student debt - and their parents struggles financially...this puts an additional load of anxiety on these kids.
r
My college has four therapists on campus. Multiple times, I have taken a student by the hand to their office. Probably half my students–maybe more–are suffering from depression. Some of it may be college stress, but I fear much of it is these times. They don't seem hopeful and idealistic as we were. Peace signs are decorative fashion doodads, not an innocent belief.
My daughter refused to go to college after high school, but after three years at deadend jobs, is a freshman. I think the main stress comes not only from the loans, but from the uncertainty of the job market.

Will it be any better when she graduates? She's bi-lingual and majoring in linguisitcs.........so maybe for HER there'll be work, but what about the rest of these kids? Boy-howdy, I feel sorry for them.
As one who teaches freshman composition at a university, I can attest to the finding of the study you cite, Nikki. Students typically crowd my office before essays are due, asking me to read and comment on drafts, to make sure they're doing it "right"--and the look on their faces, the tone in their voice, betrays their intense anxiety. Maybe it's that so much of their identity is bound up in their writing. And I think you've analyzed the current situation quite well. During the last two years, the only area here where hires have increased is in student support services. I was a student in the 60s, and it was just as you said, Nikki. I'll never shake the image of my advisor constantly glancing at his wrist watch as a struggled to put together a coherent class schedule.
I don't remember stress like this when I was a freshman in college in 1965. I went thru some intense times tho. Growing up is never easy in any era. But now, it seems more crowded and messy.
They know they have an outsourced, debt ridden future to look forward to. They suspect we've lready peaked and are probably right. The boomers chowed down and all thats left for them is crumbs and a bill.
it feels like stress has woven its way into everything. my son is in a doctoral program at BU, is he as stressed when i went to college? i bet he is and more so.
I work at a major state university. Like the author, I went to college (here) during the late sixties/early seventies. I thought we had it tough, what with the war, the drugs, the sex, whatever. But kids nowadays are struggling in ways we couldn't imagine. They have always had everything and now they're being told learn to tighten up. They have always been attended to and now they're being ignored. They have always been sociable and now they're finding that same sociability can come back around to haunt them when it comes time to find a job. The stress is incredible. I feel so sorry for them.

Then again, I know from my own stressful but exuberant college days, that old adage is true - what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I hope our current generation of college students understands that this stressful time in their lives is only temporary, that what you do for a living is NOT who you are. They may find that simple things they never noticed give them great satisfaction someday. They may find that what you do for a living is not nearly as important as what kind of person you are.
I'm afraid the the worst "stress" is to come, when they have to pay back their enormous loans (unless they are lucky enough to have parents who can afford to foot the bill) and then the poor job outlook. I just stayed stoned through my first year of college (1969); so I think they have it much worse. Great discussion.
Stress comes with every decade of life, but I wish that college years could be more about enjoying a wider view. Excellent points.
This is a harsh reminder of reality for those times I ponder the "golden days" of college. Stress is easy to forget about when you're coping with new stresses you never expected back then you'd be facing one day.
Excellent article, Nikki. The kids aren't alright anywhere.I attended the Annual Meeting of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatrists. All the young psychiatrists seem to know how to do is treat kids by drugging them. The foreign psychiatrists obviously thought that somehow over the Atlantic a portal opened and they were trapped in a demon dimension.

Danish psychiatrist: "I have treated children for 35 years and I have never seen a case of childhood bipolar disorder. What do you mean?" The middle generation admitted to a dilemma. Often they don't think the kid referred to them need drugs. But the parents demand them. If they refuse, they will take their kid to a psychiatrist who will probably overdose them on terrible drugs. If they accept the kid as a patient, at least they can use the less dangerous drugs on lower doses and that practice polypharmacy.

People don't realize that some kids are arriving in college in bad shape precisely because of the excessive psychiatric treatment they have been given. This idea that psychiatric drugs are a lifesaver that works is bizarre. End of rant.
Having one college-aged daughter and one just past, I know this truth all too well. It's not just the pressure of the schoolwork, it's the pressure of the economic uncertainty with which we are all living. We have more help available, but it's far from ideal, and there's still some stigma attached to seeking help.
nikki this is brilliant thank you r.
I don't agree necessarily that university students have it worse today than we did. The pressures are different, not less. Students expect more in the material sense, and work outside school more, which is a large stress factor, but I find in general that those with the most responsibilities outside of school are more organized and focused. The students who have the most difficulties tend to be the younger, sheltered ones who start to realize that they're competing in a larger fish pond, and someone isn't there to hold their hand every step of the way. Debt is a concern, as are jobs, but for me the biggest difference is that students consider themselves to be consumers of education, not learners. That creates the mindset that they "deserve" top marks, that teachers are "working for them," and administrations are going along with this attitude since they depend on corporate funding for so much of their budget. The consequent lack of effort that goes into much of their work, and the lack of respect for teachers and the value of knowledge, adds to the general sense of malaise and frustration in a lot of classrooms. My generation was much more idealistic and although I worked my way through school, full-time in my last year, I was more worried about paying off my loans than I was in finding a job. Luckily, jobs were easier to find and most people I know didn't have to have the latest in TVs, cars and houses the second they graduated. It was expected that you would work UP to those things. Now, it's all about the instant get. Gawd, all of this makes me sound so old.
I found your post to be interesting and almost intriguing because when I look back to my college years, they were some of the best years in my life. Perhaps it's because I was a commuter student and instead of living among my peers. I found my 40's to be the most stressful. Teen years and early 20's a breeze.
How would you like to be graduating with a degree in journalism, something I always wanted to do. You might as well be waiting tables. A Shame!
Great post, Nikki. As I read and remembered and thought about it then read through the comments I concluded several things: One is the significant observation on your part that we are more on top of problems than we ("they"?) were in the 60s. Another is that, as emma peel 2 suggests, there is more of an entitlement mentality than when you (or, earlier, I) were in school. I found my way to the school therapist then too, because I was faced with a practical decision that would turn my higher education into a piecemeal affair spread over decades. The pressure was there then, too, but there is now both that entitlement problem (for some) and even more an acceptance of education as a commodity, a means to an economic end, and not for the love of learning or learning to learn. Many of these students have grown up in unrealistically materialistic surroundings, too. It cuts both ways for them. But it also may be that like the medical field generally, the more we know, the more we know is wrong. Only one of my kids has gotten even a BA, and went on the get her MA so far. There was no particular sense of stress for her, since she knew early on we were a shoestring operation, flying on a wing and a prayer. She took that to heart early on and arranged life accordingly. But she's also 30 now. The current crop are under more perceived pressure (perceived by them and their parents and society) to become some sort of money machine instead of a student. I favor a liberal arts education over most of the more "hard" disciplines. We have an abundance of professionals but few people who can think critically and have learned to learn and to love that above all else.

I am not a practical man. I also go on and on and...on.

Bottom line is, for many reasons, the kids are not alright. It begins with the stress of believing they must be able to shoulder responsibility for their parents' dreams and ideals. We do know more about what may go wrong due to these stresses, but unless the entire paradigm is changed it won't matter much, because many of these kids are now looking down a black hole of meaninglessness and trying to figure out how to finance their way into the void. This is the greatest stress I could imagine, and I will always be thankful my schooling was interrupted, a la George Bailey, but never really ended.

Excellent post. Rated
For many of us, our college years were some of the hardest times of our lives. I really suffered during those four years. But the cool thing about our culture now is that it's far more acceptable to ask for help and more help is available. Leaving childhood is never easy.
You've sure evoked quite the range of viewpoints Nikki. I guess I accept the premise of the article as I don't recall my own university days (freshman in the early 70s) as being unduly stressful. What stress there was was deadline related. Essay due by this date, another a few days later etc. For me they were glorious days and I sensed that they would be about the best years of my life (they still rank right up there).

As for today, I was most struck by OESheepdog's and emma2's comments, not that they have much in common. But economic factors could be behind both. As OE states, try out the stress of having a crap job or two where you're one setback away from missing the mortgage, where big pay raises only happen to people you read about and where promotions are either non-existent or amount to lots more responsibility for a 5% increase.

The more desperate economic conditions can also account for the consumerism in today's students that emma2 remarked on.
There is so much stress out there. It comes with all the change, the knowledge, the world we cannot control and everyone's expectations of us, what we need to achieve, what we must achieve. Then in the 70's, now and every year in between, there was and is no utopia. We insist on trying to create it, impose it on ourselves and then we open our eyes and poof, there is more to do, more to conquer, more to be judged by. There are drafts to avoid, wars to be fought, politics in our work and out, we are a stressed out band of creatures and this does not surprise me. Well done and thank you for posting. I have three in college as we speak and I still remember how I was and for them, it seems different, yet the same, stress.
Oh, I think it's worse now. What no one seems to talk about is the increasing rate of suicides among college students. Back in the day, if it got too overwhelming...we just quit. Kids today don't seem to feel they have that option.
thanks for your comments, all and as abrawang pointed out, quite the range of viewpoints. I'm especially interested in those of the teachers who went to school in the late sixties-mid-seventies and are now teaching on campus.

But emma2 was brave enough to point out something I probably skirted a little. Is there (unintentionally or not) a sense of entitlement that accompanies students? Is that coupled with a sense of responsibility to live up to or surpass the dreams of the parents? Does that, plus the ridiculous cost of living these days, make things "worse"?

I walked out into the world with a masters' degree and no immediate job prospects. I temped and waited tables for three years before I landed a "real" job. But I didn't go into college anticipating that would happen.
This paints a very gloomy picture for them. Kids are exposed to everything and expected to be busy from morning until night getting ready for college...what happened to childhood? Seniors think if they don't get into the perfect college their life is over. I wish adults would quit participating in this sham. There are brilliant students at every school, including community colleges, and excellent teaching at state schools and community colleges. Maybe we could start looking at college as education in life.
We force kids to focus too much on exams, grades, rote memorization and cramming, than we do on the development of real intellectual abilities, curiosity, imagination, creativity and real "understanding." Its as if corporate concerns for productivity and results have replaced the orginal purpose of the university: a place where you can gain greater knowledge and understanding of the world we live in.

Today, its more of high-stress, fast-paced vocational institution.

I think we have forgotten what real universities and colleges are supposed to be like. Amazingly, I often encounter the most intellectually curious and passionate folks in my local public library or public park, playing chess, than I ever did in my university or grad school. Professional career-driven meritocrats are often times the least intellectually curious people around...
I wouldn't want to be a young person in this sorry job market, but stress has always been a big part of college life. That's one reason college students drink so much.
Nikki, timely commentary but I'm glad I didn't know then what I know now... that it only gets worse as time goes on. As difficult as the 60-70's were... I found the 80's, 90's and now even more so, (and I had a tough major and worked 3 jobs in college). Life is hard and then we die. Who said that?
I can't imagine being so young and dealing with the wide information stream that comes in every day from the internet, Twitter, RSS, etc. We used to listen to records and smoke dope and occasionally notice a newspaper. The politically aware read their own types of publications: The Nation, newsletters, etc. And we knew that we would have 2 choices in life: to sell out or NOT sell out. Why should these youngsters not have stress upon stress--they don't know if they already have sold out or won't be able to sell out or have been sold a crock by everyone who is an authority. A few may feel confident that Daddy and his friends will fix them up with a job after college, but the rest may feel that the future is dark and unknown, with a war that just keeps going and going.
Yikes. I brought a typewriter and a turntable to college.

If you can't be happy in college, life will be un-good.

Sobering.
Excellent description of our college years, Nikki. Reminded me of my own experiences, and, well, "The Big Chill." Back then, the word "turmoil" was used to describe the chaos of the era, but it was also a perfect reflection of our inner selves.

Now the designer word du jour is "stress." It still describes the same sense of fear, confusion, overwhelming responsibility, anxiety, pressure for public and personal best. That was our son's experience 2002-2006, but I think because we'd 'been there' ourselves, we were better equipped as advisers and supporters than our own parents.

Yes, many of us also had fun in college, many of today's kids still do. But I submit that especially at a highly competitive school, 'fun' is and always was laced with frantic, chaotic urgency, just like the rest of university life. These days, sadly, just like life out in the world too.
My one and only panic attack occurred then. Well, actually in my Sophomore year. Remember being told these were going to be the best years of your life by some old geezers, thinking they had faulty memories, and then later finding that they w e r e the best?
Lots of pressure, and it's hard to know where it's coming from (generally) because it's coming at each student from individual viewpoint.

As has been so virulently highlighted by the Tiger Mother controversy, as a parent it's hard to know if push is necessary or damaging. Dealing with individual children, we're all left on our own -- at the mercy of our own faults and misinterpretations. Are my children hippie artists/sailboat rats because I didn't push hard enough? Or is this who they are meant to be?