It's Always Something

loose threads from a tightly wound mind.

Nikki Stern

Nikki Stern
Princeton, New Jersey, USA
April 10
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Author of "Because I Say So: The Dangerous Appeal of Moral Authority" ( and "Hope in Small Doses" and busy blogger at


DECEMBER 15, 2009 9:57AM

Happy Anniversary in a Parallel Universe

broken hearts December 15 is the anniversary of the marriage that no longer exists. The marriage no longer exists because the husband no longer exists, having died eight years ago, which begs the question: does the anniversary still exist? Or perhaps the question is, how do I acknowledge its existence… Read full post »

ScroogeWhile I have yet to achieve curmudgeon status, I suspect I'm well on my way, particularly at this time of year. So much happens in December to contribute to my crabbiness: the cold, the shorter days, my once-upon-a-time wedding anniversary, the insistence on excessive consumption (f… Read full post »

DECEMBER 2, 2009 10:06AM

UPDATE: Dumb War?

"I am not opposed to all wars; I'm opposed to dumb wars."
 then-candidate Barack Obama, March 26, 2008
ObamaAfghanistan is a war which we didn't start but which we will end. We have twenty months (more or less) to do so. Before we end it, we will provide… Read full post »

It's Monday. It's raining. I just finished the umteenth read-through of the final layout of the Book That's Just About Ready to Go to the Printers Any Day Now But Feels Like It Never Will Be. I'm tired. I'm bored. I'm...on Open Salon again with an idea. writer

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breast My 44-year old friend Natalie looks great. She is half way through her radiation treatment for a malignant tumor found so far back in her breast no self-exam would have found it. Hopefully she'll be able to avoid chemotherapy. She had no family history of cancer, no genetic or… Read full post »

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NOVEMBER 18, 2009 10:47AM

My Heart Belongs to Bruuuuuuuce!!!

The first time I saw Bruce Springsteen live was in 2002. I'd already lived in New Jersey for eleven years at that point. I knew he was the boss. I owned several CDs. I'd met a couple of his sidemen years before when I was eking out a living in New… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 17, 2009 12:57PM

Going (Not So Very) Rogue, part 2

As promised, here is my take on both the Oprah and the Barbara Walters interviews. There are or will be differences of opinions or perhaps just various shadings. Read everything you can. An informed public is, well, informed, even if, at this juncture, we're all just throwing out our opinions. T… Read full post »

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NOVEMBER 16, 2009 10:21AM

Sarah Palin Goes Rogue in New Book: Part 1

FR0I6-cp7ukJSarah Palin's new book hits the bookstores tomorrow, just after her much anticipated appearance on "Oprah" and her slightly less promoted appearance on "Good Morning American" with Barbara Walters. Can NPR be far behind?

Since I'm an average Jane, just like former Governor Palin, I will have… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 10, 2009 1:37PM

Cliff Notes Op-Eds (aka My Two Cents)

I've been sick with a head cold which a massive dose of "Emergen-C" has probably prevented from turning worse.  I'm still tired, stressed, and more than a little cranky. I'm also behind the curve in terms of current events commentary, so I'd thought I'd play catch-up by offering my unsolici… Read full post »

  churchlady02 copy"scary"

My next door neighbor's son Jason was crestfallen when he got the memo  from school about this year's Halloween celebration: no vampires, no zombies, no monsters, no devils; no swords or stakes or axes or ropes or hockey masks with breathing holes. Forget the fake blood or… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 27, 2009 7:30PM

No-Go Joe: Lieberman Shows His True Colors

How could you not like this incredibly succinct lede from the Christian Science Monitor: "Public likes public option for healthcare. Joe Lieberman doesn’t."


The Independent from Connecticut isn't particularly interested in polls showing a majority - slim but ever-present - of… Read full post »

OCTOBER 15, 2009 2:40PM

Shooting Fish in a Barrel

our Afghanistan policy can't possibly be simple 

According to the weekly news index from Pew Research, Afghanistan has become the focus of both old and new media – at least until some cute video of a pet or a baby starts circulating or some reality show contestant starts complaining, at wh… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 8, 2009 4:14PM

Sex Sells: We'll Worry About the Details Later

 (the information contained herewithin may have been altered to protect the innocent, protect the guilty, or enhance the plot line)

271297       My part-time friend and sometime literary agent Adele called me in the middle of a full-blown meltdown. "No one wan… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 1, 2009 12:34PM

Twittering a Miscarriage: Full Disclosure or Overexposure?

twitterblackberryUSEA friend of mine alerted me yesterday to the hoopla surrounding a tweet from entrepreneur and career counselor to young women, Penelope Trunk, who posted the following last week: "I'm in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because there's a fucked-up 3-week ho… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 22, 2009 5:38PM

Can't Men Control Themselves?

Several recent stories have prompted some deep thought about a subject that bothers me: Are men in many societies so out of control that special protections, not to mention numerous restrictions, are required for women all over the world? Is it that difficult for men to get a handle onRead full post »

SEPTEMBER 15, 2009 1:41PM

Uncivil Society? Oh Shut Up!

Today’s headline in USA Today reads as follows: “What Happened to Civility?” At the risk of sounding rude: hahaha, oh that’s a good one, RAFLOL.


Our current rash of incivility is nothing new but it does seem at times to be particularly threatening. Once thought to be th… Read full post »