Yesterday we headed to Toronto's Harbourfront area to check out a combination Vegetarian-Jazz festival. It was my wife's birthday and it would have been a tragic waste to spend one of the last warm days of the season inside.
We're not vegetarians by any stretch. I'm a stubborn carnivore; however I'm trying to become more aware of what I'm putting into my body. I found the veggie booths interesting, although my palate requires a major overhaul in order to enjoy most of the protein replacement foods that were offered. Ugh! hemlock oil... still can't get the taste out.
But we did enjoy the music portion. I don't like all jazz music, but this was tasteful. Some jazz is over the top. I can't get into a piece that has no melody, and if a solo consists of a player endlessly running through crazy scales to impress the audience, they've lost me.
I was impressed by this band which consisted of young players in their early 20's, very accompliced musicians for their age I thought. They played interesting jazz renditions of songs by Radiohead and Red Hot Chili Peppers.
Harbourfront is an interesting place. If you ever spend any time in Toronto, its well worth checking out. Restaurants, pubs, street magician's, bands, booths, a sailing school and of course great shopping all great highlites. The area draws people from all walks of life. The rich, the not-so-rich, and the unfortunates.
It was when the family all sat on the green synthetic grass lawn enjoying the music that I first noticed him. He took off a slightly shabby jacket and spread it out close us. There was something about him that distracted my attention from the music.
He looked homeless. It seemed it may have happened recently. His ballcap was slightly worn, as were his shoes. His pants and shirt weren't clean, but not filthy. He looked to be a young man in his early twenties. As he sat watching the band and listening I saw a slight smile cross his face. He was enjoying himself.
Corn on the cob was available in one of the booths. As the music played people slowly realized this and one by one went to pay $2 to get their own.
I watched him as he watched others eating their corn. After a time he took scant change from his jeans pocket and sat their counting it out, deliberating with himself.
He got up and for the first time communicated with anyone around him.
He asked me, "Could you please watch my jacket for a minute, I'd like to save my spot?"
"Sure, no problem", was my response.
He returned a short time later with his corn and sat back down on his jacket. His consumption of it seemed beautiful somehow to me. I was surprised at how slowly he ate the rows one by one. There were long paused between bites. There were times when he seemed to study the cob. At times he placed the cob on his shirt so he could politely applaud when a song had ended.
After a long time his "meal" was over.
I wondered at what cost was his meal? What proportion of his "income" had he utilized?
My soul was warmed realizing he was able to enjoy the festival, music and beautiful day along with the rest of us. I also thought about the coming winter months and the challenges faced by those who, either by choice or circumstance live on the streets of our cities.
When the jazz was over everyone slowly dispersed.
A little later we were entertained by a street magician; my kids giddly after being selected from the crowd to assist.
When the day was over we walked along the waterfront towards our van, and I couldn't believe what I was seeing and hearing.
Teenage girls standing by a park bench yelling, "Take a picture of us with the bum Daddy! Take a picture of us with the homeless guy!"
And there he was, laying down on a bench in the shade not bothering or hurting anyone. The young man from the festival; victimized by heartless young girls for their cruel entertainment.
He sat up, embarassed, staring at the ground. He rose to his feet and disappeared into the crowd.
I stood there and wept.
I do as I write this....


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What a sad, sad story.
I felt like the wind was just knocked completly out of me.
there can also be a state of mind that gives permission to ignore the needs and wants of living things that we share our lives with at any given time and make them something we use and cast off because to stop and care will somehow dirty us.
R.
A heartbreaking comment on the lack of value some place on their fellow humans. heartbreaking.
Beautiful and heartbreaking
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The guy on the bench is us, godammit. We have to find a way to help or else we are part of the problem.
This just frustrates the crap outta me.
And I too, want to know what the parents did. How horrible if they let it be....
To him an ear of corn was a gourmet meal; a luxury.
The crassness of those girls is beyond disgusting. I know for a fact that my son knows better than that, as he sees the struggles we go through and realizes that we are one sickness, one accident, one turn of bad luck from being out there too.
I wonder if I would have had the courage to say something to them or if I would have been too stunned to even open my mouth. I hope I never have to find out.
What is happening to the kids out there? How do we wake them up?
I used to be one of those little girls.
When my sister and I were girls our parents would take us up to Chicago for a weekend to see the sights. We were probably 10 to 12 years old. (Not yet teenagers who were too cool to spend a weekend in the city with the folks.) I remember one time outside the Water Tower, my sister and I were running around, being goofy kids, when we came upon a homeless man who had obviously suffered severe burns. His face was a contorted mask and he was totally hairless. Being kids from the suburbs, we'd never seen something like that before except in movies. When Brooke and I ran around a pillar and came face to face with this poor man we both gasped quite audibly and ran back to our parents in shock. They shushed us and explained to us as well as they could. Once we had some time to process it we both felt awful. But I will never forget the look in that man's eyes. I've never seen such sorrow in a pair of eyes. We broke his heart. I can still see that look today, and so can my sister. I can only hope that those little girls remember that incident and use it to find compassion for those less fortunate. I know I did.
I've also always had deep feelings for the homeless. Their survival skills are legendary. Most would likely parish to walk a mile in their shoes, yet so many don't realize that they are so close to that becoming their own reality. The ranks of the homeless get larger by the day. It requires a whole new learning curve for those without some sort of safety net.
We have a huge influx of homeless that head to Florida each winter from all corners of the country. I long ago coined them the Invisible Americans.
Many hide the best they can while 'Civilized" people turn their heads when confronted by them so as not to meet their eyes. Others find pleasure in verbal and physical abuse of them. It is a pathetic sight to behold and makes one wonder about the future of the human race.
The father of the children should be ashamed, as the girls should have been, but I'm afraid that cruelty to others is not something that we will see an end to anytime soon.
A great piece of writing about an age old problem. I tip my hat to you.
what a sad sad commentary on how the next generation is being raised. haven't we had enough with the rude, compassionless group already?
any of us could be that guy.
Rated 100 times if I could, but once for sure
This is a horror story, made out of real horrors.
I had no idea when I went to work in the back of the shop that these would be waiting for me.
Some have asked about the response of the parent. Unfortuately, I don't know. As quickly as the young man faded into the crowd, so did the family.
However, my wife and I did use this as a life lessons opportunity for our girls. I can only hope the same for the dad in question.
John Blumenthal's dog comment reminded me of something else yesterday. A vegetarian booth displaying a poster with the following statements: YOUR FOOD and then YOUR PET
Above each caption was an image of the same rabbit.
Tragic irony that some forget about humanity while claiming to be humane.
i am sorry for you and for that man and for those girls, too - to not have been taught better. but not for the parents who failed to teach them. hideous.
Great and very touching post..
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Sentimental and true.
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~rocco and rusty
The thing is, no matter how many programs exist to provide shelter and treatment ( for mental illness, alcoholism and/or drug dependency), there will always be some who reject all help, either because of pride, the illness the suffer from, or fear. That those teenagers should ridicule this unfortunate soul says much about the terrible rot of their own souls, with their parents and our society at large. While there is a huge and growing gap between the rich and the poor the line between having some and having none is thin indeed, for many a mere paycheck away, or a course of unemployment that has run out. Look around at all the foreclosures, or the families that are now living in 25 foot rvs that used to be their vacation vehicles.
the guy should have put his arms around the young girls and smiled for the camera.
Im impressed that the girls found him entertaining and not depressing. can the same be said for you? and others in the comments?
It's not enough to deplore the madness that goes on around us; we must be willing to take steps to end it when we can, on whatever level we can.
There are far too many on our streets these days. At the very least, if I cannot stop or if I do not have change at the ready, I always make a point to look them in the eye and acknowledge their humanity. There was a woman who used to stand on the corner of Danforth and Broadview. She admittedly had some mental health issues, but she was bright and cheery and we always talked. From talking to her, I knew that she had a permanent home and some help with her meds etc. She's been gone for awhile, but I think about her everytime I pass that corner.
You sound like a good dad. I hope you pass your humanity on to your kids...well, I am sure you will.
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And you, of tender years,
Can't know the fears that your elders grew by...
And vzn, what planet are you from? Your comment is beyond inappropriate; you just don't get it do you?
People never cease to disappoint me.........
This is not my earth, my place, my people. I do not understand. I am baffled.
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