In the past week or so, I've noticed this glaring question pop up when I log on to my Facebook page.  I've added all the requisite information.  Hometown.  College.  Major.  Jobs.  But, I've always stepped away from the single, in a relationship, engaged, it's co… Read full post »

I've observed there are two camps, post divorce or loss of a partner.  The Noah's Ark crowd who pair up when the ink is dry.  And the rest who exist in subsets of the unattached who snuggle under the covers with a good book and the rest of us for whom… Read full post »

A few years ago, I blogged about woman vs. girl.  Less to do with age.  More to do with Jan Brady vs Holly Golightly.  Tankini vs. string bikini. Cropped cargo pants vs. skinny jeans.

Following a brief conversation at a birthday get together with a woman in midst of… Read full post »

On the way home from my Tuesday/Thurs/Sunday yoga class, I have been passing this rather bizarre rental sign for the past few months.  If you're at all familiar with L.A., this sign is located along a commercial strip called Ventura Blvd. in an area populated with a few sex shops,… Read full post »

Writer Anne Lamott recently memorialized her "year on Match.com" on Salon.  My aunt forwarded the blog post to her daughter and me. We form the triumverate of unmarried hotties in our extended family.

Lamott, a successful author who seems to have a rather full plate with "a cherished family, a g… Read full post »

 Remember when your mother or some well-intentioned friend with a ring on her finger advised you to keep an open mind when you're looking for love or maybe even a standing date for Saturday nights?

Now, I've heard a fair number of stories from people who weren't initially attracted to a… Read full post »

I confess.  I used to set my DVR to record The Bachelor during its first few seasons.  Till I realized the truth in the addage insanity is repeating the same mistake and expecting a different outcome!  The reality show is a mildly entertaining concept.  Gather a bunc… Read full post »

According to a Match.com survey published in USA Today, anyone in the dating pool better possess a full set of teeth, stay away from using "ain't," and have a decent head of hair.  The paper ranked the dating preferences of men and women when judging potential dates.

 Of the 5,000 unattache… Read full post »

If you’re single, divorced or otherwise unattached, you’ve most likely cruised around a dating website. Maybe you’ve just checked out your options. If you’re insecure, you may even have checked out the competition! Perhaps you punched in your credit card numbers late one ni… Read full post »

Former Wall Street exec Larry Greenfield has paid six matchmakers and gone on 250 dates to find the “skinny Jewish non-alpha woman of his dreams.” He says he looks at finding a wife as a job. Big mistake!

Look, Larry, 250 hand-selected dates? Sure, you have… Read full post »

Emotional Infidelity: 18 Signs You’re Crossing the Line

Huff Po’s “Divorce” section this week included a “listicle” or blog of 18 signs “you’re crossing the line” into those murky waters of infidelity. Will she or won’t she?

Huff Po is a mi… Read full post »

At first glance, I thought maybe some long-gone relative was sending messages from the grave. In IRS parlance, I’m an “unmarried woman” which means I experienced the whole dating/meet the parents/the four Cs/bridal registry/walk down the aisle thing.

I married for timing more tha… Read full post »

Remember the days when you’d lock eyes with some attractive potential date, experiencing the frisson of mutual attraction and possibilities? If you’d get to the initial exchange, you might meet up for drinks and a conversation, giving you a window to decide whether to date or dump.

I&rs… Read full post »

If you’re unmarried and over the age of consent, you’ve probably joined one or more online dating sites. Now, lots of people start out punching in the credit card digits, expiration dates and security codes to join Match.com, J-Date or eHarmony. You check off those little wi… Read full post »

Rick Santorum to Start Dating Site for Single Moms

I had you going there for a minute! Not since Dan Quayle’s rants against Murphy Brown have we seen a GOP prez hopeful blame the ills of the world on unmarried and divorced mothers. Guess we were wrong when we… Read full post »

To love others, you must first love yourself.” If you are old enough to remember the catfight between Alexis and Krystle or have ever worn linebacker shoulder pads, you might recall Leo “Dr. Love” Buscaglia to whom we owe this quote.

You’re either on the “that’s a… Read full post »

The notion of soul mates is essentially the “lid for every pot” notion of relationships.  Now, I can appreciate the whole romantic aspect.  But, like my ten year old daughter who questioned the existence of Santa after discovering the jolly red man had borrow/… Read full post »

Recently,  Salon’s  Tracy Clark-Flory blogged about Why It’s Healthy for Couples to Stay on OKCupid.   The relationship/sex blogger quoted some other relationship gurus who noted the natural tendency to comparision shop to validate one’s choice of mate.

Lots of O… Read full post »

Now, I’ll be the first to admit I am not much of a sports fan. During the Super Bowl, I don’t even turn on the TV till the half -time show.

But, I would suspect the game is longer than the pre-game show.

I do stay glued to the TV… Read full post »

Tracy Clark-Flory’s Salon interview with evolutionary biologist Justin Garcia presents The Argument for Sexual Exclusivity.  SUNY/Binghamton Doctoral Fellow Garcia has focused his academic career on the notion of romantic love, mating behavior, pair bonding, and yes, monogamy. Not surprisi/… Read full post »

Before TV veteran Sherwood Schwartz brought us Bob, Carol, and their blended posse, the sitcom maven created an unlikely group of castaways lost on a “three hour tour.”  Sherwood passed away July 12 at the age of 94, leaving a legacy of syndicated shows and what US News… Read full post »

 In his recent blog on The Frisky, blogger John DeVore theorized about "Why Men Cheat Redux."  Apparently, DeVore has made a habit of examining this topic which either incites ire or excites, maybe a bit of both. DeVore chalks it up to “people are jerks.”

I do not agr… Read full post »

When you are raising daughters, it can be difficult to separate your outcomes from your hopes for your children.  According to Freud, repetition compulsion leads us to repeat patterns in relationships until we get them right. I suspect one reason we decide to procreate is to get a few more chanc/… Read full post »

 Sex, Lies, and Politics

Just on the heels of the Governator/Baby Mama/Domestic scandal, we were hit with a one-two punch, with the indictment of John Edwards and Twitter Boy Anthony Weiner.

Now, for the disclaimer.  I am not going to feign I am above an occasional TMZ troll.  Sure,… Read full post »

In the time since I last posted about The Governator and Maria, we’ve learned he sired a son with twenty year domestic employee Patty Baena who like everyone else in this soap opera has hired an attorney. Welcome to L.A.  The internet is filled with photos of Arnold boogying… Read full post »