All the Single Ladies

Beth Cone Kramer

Ghosted: When the guy(or perhaps girl)  you've been texting, IMing, messaging, Skyping, Whatsapping, and/or having a consensual "naughty" relationship with no longer returns your attempts at communication.

Maybe you've even gone on a few dates before the not so significa… Read full post »

MARCH 18, 2014 5:34PM

Spring Cleaning: Past Flings

  Spring Cleaning. If you've been slushing through the barrage of snowstorms or even if your closet holds a small section reserved for those infrequent rainy days amidst 360 days of sunshine, you are no doubt making room for a cute Shoshanna sundress, maybe some new strappy sandals. If… Read full post »

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We've all head the pronouncements that one in three couples headed down the aisle met online. Maybe like me, you've encountered some Mr. and Mrs. whose first encounter was a wink on some dating site.  Match, eHarmony, and a bunch of boutique sites have changed the landscape of… Read full post »

You've seen the ads for with the adorable couples who plunked down the subscription fee to meet the one, laughing over cocktails, women sporting that exhilarated glow during a post date interview.  Or that little girl tattling on her teacher who didn't meet her fiance on eHarmony.

Acc… Read full post »

AUGUST 29, 2013 10:37PM

Match or Not: Advice from eHarmony


How many dates before you decide he or she is not the one, even for tonight?  eHarmony's Dating with Dignity blog counsels daters to meet and repeat at least two to three times before deleting his or her contact info from your phone. 

 The blogger's got to be kidding,… Read full post »

AUGUST 4, 2013 2:39PM

The Virgin


Last week, I received a curious message on OkCupid from a 24 year old dark-haired guy about to start med school.

 "I really want to lose it to you. You are perfect."

 I responded because this seemed like a bad teen movie.

"You mean as in lose it?"

Yup.… Read full post »

JULY 11, 2013 11:17PM

Pimping Out the Profile

Remember that guy who rented out his forehead as advertising space? Supermarket carts and bus benches are fair game for realtors' faces.  When you're browsing for fall shoes or a red pencil skirt at Nordstrom's Half Yearly, the objects of lust show up moments later on a dating site or your… Read full post »

Since I've dipped my toe into the post-divorce dating pool, I've thought of Plenty of Fish as one of those above the ground aluminum contraptions compared to the country club's sparkling blue waters or even the community pool. POF isn't all that easy to navigate.  The questions include… Read full post »

JUNE 19, 2013 7:23PM

Martha's On Match: Who's Next?


Martha's on Match.  The doyenne of Type A domesticity, 71, is seeking a 55-70 year old, within 50 miles of New York, income $150,000 or above.  Tag words: Curious, Intelligent, Hard-Working, Entrepeneurial, Fun, Adventurous. 

Not surprisingly, Stewart's profile doesn't i… Read full post »

In the past week or so, I've noticed this glaring question pop up when I log on to my Facebook page.  I've added all the requisite information.  Hometown.  College.  Major.  Jobs.  But, I've always stepped away from the single, in a relationship, engaged, it's co… Read full post »

MAY 7, 2013 3:22PM

The Virtual Cuddle

I've observed there are two camps, post divorce or loss of a partner.  The Noah's Ark crowd who pair up when the ink is dry.  And the rest who exist in subsets of the unattached who snuggle under the covers with a good book and the rest of us for whom… Read full post »

MAY 4, 2013 6:25PM

Sexy Girls

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A few years ago, I blogged about woman vs. girl.  Less to do with age.  More to do with Jan Brady vs Holly Golightly.  Tankini vs. string bikini. Cropped cargo pants vs. skinny jeans.

Following a brief conversation at a birthday get together with a woman in midst of… Read full post »

APRIL 20, 2013 1:42AM

Single Apartment for Rent


On the way home from my Tuesday/Thurs/Sunday yoga class, I have been passing this rather bizarre rental sign for the past few months.  If you're at all familiar with L.A., this sign is located along a commercial strip called Ventura Blvd. in an area populated with a few sex shops,… Read full post »

APRIL 2, 2013 12:18AM

My Year on Match, Revisited

Writer Anne Lamott recently memorialized her "year on" on Salon.  My aunt forwarded the blog post to her daughter and me. We form the triumverate of unmarried hotties in our extended family.

Lamott, a successful author who seems to have a rather full plate with "a cherished family, a g… Read full post »

MARCH 27, 2013 3:36PM

The Date Ditch

 Remember when your mother or some well-intentioned friend with a ring on her finger advised you to keep an open mind when you're looking for love or maybe even a standing date for Saturday nights?

Now, I've heard a fair number of stories from people who weren't initially attracted to a… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 17, 2013 3:29PM

Virgin Bachelor?


I confess.  I used to set my DVR to record The Bachelor during its first few seasons.  Till I realized the truth in the addage insanity is repeating the same mistake and expecting a different outcome!  The reality show is a mildly entertaining concept.  Gather a bunc… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 8, 2013 12:10AM

Deal Breakers?

According to a survey published in USA Today, anyone in the dating pool better possess a full set of teeth, stay away from using "ain't," and have a decent head of hair.  The paper ranked the dating preferences of men and women when judging potential dates.

 Of the 5,000 unattache… Read full post »

If you’re single, divorced or otherwise unattached, you’ve most likely cruised around a dating website. Maybe you’ve just checked out your options. If you’re insecure, you may even have checked out the competition! Perhaps you punched in your credit card numbers late one niRead full post »

OCTOBER 10, 2012 4:18PM

If the Glass Slipper Never Fits...

Larry Greenfield: bad luck or bad in love?(Dennis Clark/Polaris)


Former Wall Street exec Larry Greenfield has paid six matchmakers and gone on 250 dates to find the “skinny Jewish non-alpha woman of his dreams.” He says he looks at finding a wife as a job. Big mistake!

Look, Larry, 250 hand-selected dates? Sure, you have… Read full post »

Emotional Infidelity: 18 Signs You’re Crossing the Line

Huff Po’s “Divorce” section this week included a “listicle” or blog of 18 signs “you’re crossing the line” into those murky waters of infidelity. Will she or won’t she?

Huff Po is a mi… Read full post »

At first glance, I thought maybe some long-gone relative was sending messages from the grave. In IRS parlance, I’m an “unmarried woman” which means I experienced the whole dating/meet the parents/the four Cs/bridal registry/walk down the aisle thing.

I married for timing more thaRead full post »

JULY 10, 2012 8:15PM

Overly Emoticon

Remember the days when you’d lock eyes with some attractive potential date, experiencing the frisson of mutual attraction and possibilities? If you’d get to the initial exchange, you might meet up for drinks and a conversation, giving you a window to decide whether to date or dump.

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If you’re unmarried and over the age of consent, you’ve probably joined one or more online dating sites. Now, lots of people start out punching in the credit card digits, expiration dates and security codes to join, J-Date or eHarmony. You check off those little wiRead full post »

Rick Santorum to Start Dating Site for Single Moms

I had you going there for a minute! Not since Dan Quayle’s rants against Murphy Brown have we seen a GOP prez hopeful blame the ills of the world on unmarried and divorced mothers. Guess we were wrong when weRead full post »

OCTOBER 18, 2011 3:23AM

Falling for Me

To love others, you must first love yourself.” If you are old enough to remember the catfight between Alexis and Krystle or have ever worn linebacker shoulder pads, you might recall Leo “Dr. Love” Buscaglia to whom we owe this quote.

You’re either on the “that’s aRead full post »