..It's All About The Journey...

Mother’s Day – I knew it was coming – The reminders have bombarded my email inbox for a few weeks now.  Proflowers has been reminding me of Mother’s favorite bouquet – and did I know I haven’t sent her any flowers in a while?  See’s candy reminded m… Read full post »

Susan and I celebrate 32 years together on this day, May 1, 2013. We chose May 1 for reasons that we have chosen to keep between each other, just know that if we could have 32 years ago – we’d have a marriage license and a wedding album full of photosRead full post »

According to the online Wikitionary: To come full circle means:  To complete a cycle of transition, returning to where one started after gaining experience or exploring other things.

This is what I did last weekend -  I came full circle in my life that started here in San Diego some 32… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
JANUARY 14, 2013 4:47PM

Who Are You to Judge Jodie Foster?

I’m sorry, I don’t understand all the fuss about Jodie Foster and her alleged “coming out” at the Golden Globes last evening. Gay writers and bloggers are angry that she didn’t come out 15 – 20 years ago; she could have done so much for the gay community, blah, blaRead full post »

As a woman who will be turning the age of 60 in less than a month, one would think I would have a fine grasp on my life, wouldn't one? And as an out and activist lesbian who writes a weekly column, one would think I could find the appropriate words for every… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 26, 2012 2:03PM

The Brave New World of Selfish and Stupid.

I understand we all have problems in our lives. I also understand we all have different lives. We come from different places, different experiences, different families, and different places in time.

What I don’t understand is that we all don’t want something a little better than what we h… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
SEPTEMBER 17, 2012 4:54PM

Our Lives Are Lived In Moments.

I found out that a classmate of mine from High School passed away last week.  I haven’t seen him since graduation some 42 years ago, but I remember him quite vividly.  He was smart, funny and kind and he was the best Conrad Birdie in our adaptation of Bye Bye Birdie.… Read full post »

No matter who gets elected in November – no matter who makes the laws – no matter what religious zealots say; there is no one on the face of this earth, or any other earth, who will ever be able to regulate with whom a person falls in love.

Same-sex people,… Read full post »

Our son informed us last night that he wasn’t going to vote in November.  Apparently he’s disgusted with everything and everyone, and he’s just not voting. I could see Susan’s head start to explode and then I saw her change her tactics – she went full-out for that wRead full post »

AUGUST 28, 2012 2:12PM

Hate is Easy. Love Takes Courage.


I saw those two sentences  in an article I was reading this morning, and I suddenly understood why folks are so hateful.  It’s easy.

 It doesn’t take a whole lot of brain power to go from; “My life sucks: to: “I’mRead full post »

I do not understand the concept of being a gay Republican.  I don’t know how one goes from saying: I’m gay and then adding: And I’m a Republican.  I don’t know how one does this…

I’ve asked how it’s done and the answers I usually get areRead full post »

Susan and I were discussing a friend of ours who is in an abusive marriage, and I said: “Why do women stay in such toxic situations? I just don’t understand.”

It was in that moment that I realized that in the not so distant past, I was one of thoseRead full post »

AUGUST 8, 2012 12:49PM

The Shot That Changed My Family

My cousin Mike and I pretty much grew up together.  We were forever in the creek, or climbing trees or climbing in all the farm machinery that sat in the lot of the farm machinery store that was on the other side creek.  We weren’t supposed to be there – soRead full post »

I had someone question my character this week.  Someone I thought was a friend, someone I thought had my back, someone I thought cared about me, someone who is a member of my family – blood – you know – the tie that binds…

I suppose I had it coming as… Read full post »

For those in my gay community whining about all the good Sally Ride could have done had she only “come out;” I say – Get over yourself. 

For most gays and lesbians the hardest thing we will ever do in our lives is “come out.”  It’s personal, and absolutRead full post »

JULY 23, 2012 3:19PM

We Are… Penn State…

I think that one of life’s hardest lessons is realizing that someone is not at all what you believed them to be.  All of us create these idealistic images in our heads and our hearts about people without really knowing who they are. I understand now that I’m looking 60 rightRead full post »

 There were 14 people in our little contingent sitting in our favorite spot along the San Diego Pride Parade Route.  Three of us are gay; the other 11 are straight neighbors and friends who were with us showing love and support and total acceptance on every level one could ever hopeRead full post »

I’ve been asked numerous times why I write so much about gay issues. Why can’t I just let things go? Why can’t I just let others have their opinions? Why must I protest and tell people not to shop at certain stores? Why do I think my opinion is right?

To… Read full post »

So – The Boy Scouts of America will continue to ban gay members.  Took them two years to review and make this decision.  I’m just wondering… were there any scouts on this panel that represented “a diversity of perspectives and opinions?”

Boy Scouts chief execu… Read full post »

JULY 16, 2012 7:53AM

The Remains of the Day...

Ever have one of those days when you aren’t sure how it is you’re supposed to be feeling? You’re happy, and yet, your mind wanders to events that aren’t quite so happy, and then it wanders back to events that are happy.  Happy, Sad, Happy, Sad, Happy…

July 15th&nbs/… Read full post »

I wasn’t going to jump into the free-speech, don’t heckle the comic telling rape jokes fray, however, I find myself reading articles, shaking my head thinking: Is this what we’ve become; A funny rape joke society?

Honestly, I’ve never even heard of Daniel Tosh.  Never seRead full post »

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

These words lead off the second paragraph of our nations Declaration of Indepe… Read full post »

This whole boycotting Oreo cookies isn’t really about the cookie – You know that, right? 


This is all about hate and ignorance and for the most part it’s all tied up with the “God Hates Gays” bow.

My sweet, sweet friends have writtenRead full post »

My partner Susan and I were driving to the San Diego Zoo yesterday afternoon and we drove through the route of the San Diego Gay Pride Parade.  We started talking about maybe changing where we sit this year and in that conversation we then decided that we couldn’t do that because … Read full post »

So, this Sunday will be the second year without my father here to wish him a Happy Father’s Day.  It gets easier every year without him here; still there are times when I find myself picking up the phone to call him, or times when I just want to talk to… Read full post »