I used to teach writing at a women's prison. Just as a volunteer. Nothing very formal, and I wasn’t trained as a teacher. Mostly we worked on journaling and letters home to their children and their families. Sometimes a woman wanted to work on a short story, always presented as fiction,… Read full post »

Your stories break my heart. You all profess such love for your significant others, some of you are already engaged. Each of you think you are the only one who has written to me, each of you being so young, in your twenties and early thirties. Please know this, you are… Read full post »

How I hate to bring this up again. How I wish I had something else to say. How I wish things were different right now.

 I ask this quite sincerely, does  anyone know about a pill/medication I can take that will reduce or eliminate my sex drive? Anything that will make it… Read full post »

I met her here, on OS. She contacted me via a private message about my Sexless Marriage post, our lives being almost identical in that regard. We've never met and likely won't, and we don't need to. We live in different countries, a different hemisphere even, and meeting is not much… Read full post »

The opera season here is brief, just a few weeks long. However, it is acclaimed and always exceeds the expectations of critics both local and national. I wish to go. At this moment I have the ticket site open on my computer screen; I could purchase a ticket. One ticket, for… Read full post »

This is a follow-up to my last post in which I wrote about seeking a chance to explore voyeurism. This all goes back to the fact that I live in a sexless relationship.

I'm not going to tell you what I saw. I'm not going to tell you what they… Read full post »

I met them in the hotel bar.  As planned they were sitting in the back, watching the door. My Manhattan, rye whiskey with two cherries, sat ready and waiting on the small table. They drank red.

I smiled as I approached them, keeping my eyes on the woman. He was watching her,… Read full post »

I hate the illness. I hate everything about it. How it crept in. How it weakens the mind. How it stays and stays no matter what. How it cannot be predicted from day to day. How it undoes so much of what a relationship needs to flourish. 

I hate the… Read full post »

This post is not about virtue. It is not an ask for sympathy. It attempts to explore what I've learned about sex and sexuality since sex ended within my long-term relationship. I won't say much about why, because half of it is not my story to tell and I have no right.… Read full post »