Ande with two sons.
My name is Ande Bliss ( not really)
I am a fiscal conservative. I am a Jew by birth. I live in the Live free or Die state and I am married for the second time. I have three families. Birth, first union and second.
I believe in Choice.
That does not mean that we can choose to hurt others, or deny others. I am talking about choice in my OWN life. Here is why I believe so strongly in this:
I learned a long time ago to take care of myself. Whatever I did or did not do had consequences. These were not decisions about going to war or finding some new protein to feed the mass. I have absolutely no say what goes on DC. Politicians do whatever it takes to get them elected. I have but one vote but I have a loud voice.
It is up to me to do what needs doing in my “yard:” Plant, produce and not be a burden on the rest of you. I will share, I will teach, I will do my part to make my neighborhood a safe place and I promise to be vigilant, not nosy.
I had four miscarriages and my one live birth. Deedee died at age 30.
I never thought twice about the abortion issue when my “fetus” detached in the womb. The second. Please do not send me pictures of a fetus. When I lost my pregnancies, back then, I did not think about the fetus as a living person. Now I do. Science has helped me do that. The anti-abortion movement helped me see that…albeit in a gross and in your face manner. I believe now that a fetus is a living human being. But I still believe in choice. A woman, her mate, her doctor and her faith are all involved. I choose life. For me…you choose for yourself and live with your choice. I do not judge you. I don’t even know you.
Let us stop killing each other. (You have got to be kidding!) If we were robots, maybe. With respect to war” We spend more money in this world killing than we do…. curing and nurturing. Go back to your history books…. who is humble and who is mighty. We cannot provide the world’s hungry with manna. We must teach them how to sow.
My dear friend Jon W. hammers away at social issues. I listen to him. I debate him. He is a liberal and I am somewhere in the middle trying to give myself a name. And so, from time I put on my gloves (handed down from my mom) and go to it with him. “ Jon, I say….we must think and we must educate. Let us debate. Let us do this without rancor."
And he says OK.
And we do. Both of us want peace and prosperity. Both of us want free speech. We respect each other.
And now I will share with you my personal mantra. My credo. It is how I live. It is my prayer.
(In a pub, in a cabin, on a beach, with family or by myself)
PLEASE GOD, HELP ME
TO COPE WITH THE
DEMANDS AND EXPECTATIONS
IN MY DAILY LIFE.
PLEASE HELP ME TO DEAL
WITH MY LOSS
PLEASE LET ME FIND SOME PERSONAL TIME
WITHOUT STRESS, RECRIMINATIONS
PLEASE LET MY FAMILY UNDERSTAND
THAT I OWN MY IDEAS AND THAT
MY LIFE IS AS VALUABLE AS THEIRS.
PLEASE LET ME CONTINUE TO BELIEVE
THAT I HAVE VALUE
MY ROLE AS WIFE, DAUGHTER, MOTHER AND FRIEND.
HELP ME TO REALIZE MY POTENTIAL AS A WRITER AND POET
AND GIVE ME THE STRENGTH I NEED TO MAINTAIN
FOCUS AND CONTROL.
LET ME ACHIEVE GRACE.
(Believe me this is not emotional schmaltz.) I have lived on the edge and lost the best of me, for a while. And then I lost the best of me…. my daughter, forever. I do not wish to deny a single person the best life they can achieve and whatever science or the social order can bring forward, I applaud. But I will always believe in the right of choice. Do not take that away from me. From us. I live with coulds and not shoulds.)