Called an old friend the other day. Just curious about what was happening in her life. Thing is she has really moved on. Big houses with the personna that accompanies, WEALTH. I got the feeling that my call was an interruption and I should have known better. Our friendship was based on a particular time in our lives when we were both single. Bottom line is that she isn't a shiny new penny in my life, and perhaps I might be a threat to her new self.
On yet another occassion I tried to make contact with an old boyfriend who is a rather well known musician in the Jazz world. Trying to arrange a back stage visit at the Boston Pops I called him. No luck there either. He too has moved on and our time together was very brief. Maybe he didn't recognize my new name. :)
Sometimes we connect with old friends or new ones...even internet buddies and the expecations of the visit falls short of reality. Sometimes the time is special but it was meant to bloom for the one time only.
This is sort of an OC...
ZOMBIES FROM OUR PAST:
Never try to get in touch with an ex lover. Most especially one of those three-month throw way affair participants. They don’t want to hear from you.
People you meet on an island in the Caribbean ? Not a good choice either. Not interested in reuniting fully dressed after days on a nude beach together.
The person in the hospital bed next to you? Say good-bye and good health when they leave the room. We talk too much when we are on happy pills.
Old friends who moved away and never call. They don’t want to hear from you either. They have met new neighbors and have reinvented themselves to fit their new surrounds. Not interested in bringing their city friends to the barn dance.
Your ex-boss who was promoted three times. If he hasn’t contacted you, likely he is looking for NEW talent.
A publisher who has rejected your work without one of those try again notes. Forget it. Hint: Your work is not what he/she is looking for.
Never try to be friends with your ex’s new love. She/he does not really want to be reminded of the trysts you had with her/his honey. Bad idea. Really bad idea!
Got any others? I'll just bet you do. Have Fun. And beware!
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