Okay there's more of a backstory here... 'fess up.

no back story -- just feeling today like the whole dating process of trying to find "him" is draining. i feel like it is sometimes.

maybe you should stop "trying to find him" and start "enjoying dating." i don't mean to sound preachy... i know that's easier said than done, and i share your frustration, but i think dating is generally supposed to be fun. the reason it's not is because every date you go on with someone other than "him" feels like a waste of time, but it's really not. to quote thomas edison (who, let's face it, was a world-class casanova), "Many of life's failures are men who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." each bad date is one step closer to the good one! ;)

I don't think each bad date is necessarily bringing you one step closer to a good one. Only the bad dates from which you learn something new and useful about yourself or about others. Bad dates that are merely repeats of previous bad dates are really a waste of time.

The trick isn't to learn to enjoy dating if you don't already, the trick is to learn to enjoy being single. And I mean really enjoy it, not just kid yourself about it. It's quite a trick. Sometimes I manage it, and whenever I do, guys start showing up all over the place. :)

Good luck!

see, that's the problem and why I gave myself the 20 dates in 2010 challenge...i was TOO content in being single, too happy, too complacent, enjoying it too much! :)

Ahahaha! I'm totally right there with Charlotte. I'm so exhausted from dating I'm paralyzed with fear that I may have met a really nice guy.

don't be afraid! embrace it if it's true.