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"Nel mezzo del cammin di nostra vita," I find myself still asking some of the same questions I did when I was just a punk kid. The Big Things confuse me. Fortunately, though, many little things delight and amuse me, and some Big Things--my wife, our kids, our bird and bunny visitors, food, baseball--make me very, very happy. In my pilgrimage, I try to be guided by the wisdom of dear old Auntie Mame: "Life is a banquet!"

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MARCH 6, 2010 7:50AM

Taking a Break

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Last Thursday, Mrs. P and I played hooky, joining in-law in-laws in a therapeutic jaunt to the Philadelphia Flower Show (pictures tomorrow, kids!).

The excursion came in the midst of what seems to have been (and promises still to be) an endless string of weeks of overwork, broken only by late-night Olympic viewing accompanying late-night dinners. (Well, to be honest, I’ve also spent a lot of time here, though not much in the past week; poor Mrs. P, on the other hand, has had nary a break.) 

And that, class, is the lesson for the day. 

What refreshed us on the day of this mini-vacation was not the sight and smell of the bright flowers in the midst of a long, cold, snowy winter. (Though they certainly helped!) 

What we needed was a break from the routine, the rut, the same-old, same-old that erodes mind, body, and spirit as it channels life to the same hollow spot, filling the depression with stagnant water that breeds vermin and leaches toxins into the soil. 

I begin each day open to Life’s beauty and wonder, prepared for glimpses of the sacred in the good-morning kisses that the sun plants on the Big Maple and the joyous lauds of the cardinals. I stop occasionally in the midst of labors to smile at the industrious hunger of the squirrels and the loping, soft foraging of the deer that come visit. Seated at my desk, I pause from time to time in the midst of sometimes numbing work to feel a rush of pleasure, better than any drug, at being surrounded by our books and the photos, pots, and figures that enshrine and revive our memories. I’m heartened by the extra minutes of sunlight that promise languid ecstasy to come, should we ever be able to stop to relish it.  

But these brief indulgences cannot fully sustain the soul in the midst of the daily drone of duty, a mechanical hum that Borg-ifies us, perversely transfiguring flesh and spirit into gears and wheels. As welcome as these sights and sounds may be, they do not relieve the shoulders of the burden of deberes, the pile of to-dos that, like a malignant tumor, only grows and frightens, or the worry that, like a blow to a scab, renews pain and causes fresh bleeding from a once-forgotten wound.  

Sometimes, a person needs a break.

You need to pull out from the drudgery and remember that life is to be lived, not gotten through. You need to remind yourself that there’s another kind of deber: the duty to nurture the soul so that it can flower, like Mrs. P’s most recently blooming orchid.  

 

 

 

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Enough rumination on the pleasures of pleasure. I gotta get to work!

Going to be in and out over the next couple of weeks, folks. Just too much to do. I'll try to keep up as best I can, and will post occasionally. Be nice to each other, eh?
What a perfect post for a Saturday looming in front of me. I so need a break_mostly from my own incessant thoughts. You have inspired me. It is supposed to be 50 degrees here today(a heat wave) and I'm going to find some beauty._r
I wish you and Mrs. P continued awakenings to the splendors of Life. You got this so right; the change that makes everything new and wonderful again. You have also inspired me a) to do something different today and b) to paint my toenails the colors of your dining room walls and Mrs. P's orchids. What a good start to the weekend.
That was the perfect thing to wake up to. The sun is shining out my window, melting the last of the snow, and I need to remember to soak it in, give my winterized soul a little fertilizer so it can bloom...

Thanks Pilgrim!
Oh my. Well. I'll go smell flowers ... or geee. See ya when you get done, uh, nurturing.

*wandering off toward sound of TV*
Pilgrim, I wish you the best as you slog through. Sometimes it's not so easy to stop and smell the roses, daffodils and this beautiful orchid. This work thing, whatever it may be, keeps getting in the way. Remember to breathe.
I can't wait to see the photos!! I miss the Philly flower show...you should see what they call a flower show in Maine. Nothing but a bunch of rocks... Good for you both taking a break! Very healthy and enlightening.
Ha! It's Springy here, and as I viewed my mothers yard the other day I found myself thinking very busy thoughts. Lots to do.
Would you mind sending daily reminders like this while you're sort of not here? It would help so much!
Be well, beautiful Pilgrims! Come back refreshed and ready to inform, listen, hear and love. Because you do it so well.

The crocuses - the croci - are really taking a bold stance in Massachusetts.
I miss you already.
Oh wait - you're not going anywhere are you! For some reason I read the whole thing thinking - whatever, I didn't read it carefully enough. So, you can keep all of those tender emotions and save them for when you DO take a break.
I'm slightly foolish this morning. The weather is fine, and I'm getting my bike tuned up and buying a kayak today.
I'm not really athletic, but I enjoy some paddling and pedaling.
Do kayaks come with cup holders? it would be nice to enjoy a good chardonnay on a calm lake at sunset.
Hey, Pil, you sweetheart, you!
The Philadelphia Flower Show! What a treat! I can't imagine two people who could enjoy it more than you and Mrs P. Would have loved to be there to enjoy myself and just to watch your pleasure. It seems that the more I read people on OS the more I long to meet them and share a lazy afternoon. Know what I mean?
I haven't been around much lately and know I've missed a lot of your posts but I want you to know how much I appreciate you. And if Mrs P doesn't mind, big hug to you!
SK
AtHomePilgrim, we all have times when the workload builds up! In general it is hard to keep up with all of the new posts here and still have time to create one's own posts. I'm looking forward to seeing your photos of the flower show. I'm happy that you will still have time over the coming weeks to come on the site and be posting and commenting.

The only major flower shows I have been to were a series of International Flower Shows held in NYC at the old NY Coliseum. Someday I will post about that as I have vintage photos from the '60s when my grandfather was on the board of directors of the show and he snapped a few hundred photos of the various exhibits.
Seething with envy here, but glad it's somebody I like. Your descriptions are so artfully drawn that reading them is a virtual break for me. Ahhhhhhh... Go smell some flowers! (r)
I cannot WAIT for your flower show photos! I'm not able to go this year. :( You are so right that we all need a change of pace from the grind.

I love the orchid photo. Every single orchid in my house (and I have several) is either blooming or sending up stalks of buds right now. It's as if they knew that I desperately needed to see their color.
Joan: Sounds like a heat wave to me! Enjoy it--and bag those deberes for a day.

Ann: I'm trying to decide if you'd do one foot each color, or each nail both colors, or alternate colors. I haven't been able to settle on one as the most likely, so you shall have to take pictures and show us.

mamoore: Glad to have been of service.

Gabby: Off nurturing now; back to the drudgery.

charlie: Damn if it doesn't. Pesky little thing, that work thing. Thanks for the reminder.

Leonde: "Nothing but a bunch of rocks." Ha! "Waall, Missy, those rocks are beautiful up here, a-yup."

aim: That's OK, I was confused too. When you said "I'm getting my bike tuned up and buying a kayak today," I wondered why your bike needed a kayak . . . The cupholder idea is a good one, though!

Sharon: That's so sweet. Thank you sooo much. Really touching (wouldn't be much of a hug without touching, would it). I hope that the pix will convey a fraction of the pleasure that we did absorb. We'll see! And thanks again. Maybe someday we'll be down there, or you'll be up here, or whatever. (Though I know you'll be taking a walk with waking first.)
designanator: Thanks! You should go through those pictures--I bet they'd be fun to see!

Clark: I guess you really liked the line about the stagnant water breeding vermin and leaching toxins, huh?

Lisa: :( indeed! I hope that enough of the pictures turn out that you'll get some virtual pleasure out of our self-indulgence. I remember the orchid pix you posted what? a couple of weeks ago? You should show us more! It is wonderful how they come in the midst of winter and bloom sooooo long. (Of course, the Orchid Festival is coming to Longwood soon. . . .)
I will bag them if you tell me what they are.
Pilgrim, when you're right, you are right. Try to play as hard as you work, my friend but don't stay away from here too long. I know it's selfish, but I miss your daily doses of sanity and common sense.
Joan: deberes are duties--The Things That Must Be Done.

Tor: You're too kind, sir. You have all the sense in the world; what I bring to the table is non-sense.

OK, folks. Really have to work now and then do the food shopping and then more work. Back later!
I *knew* I would risk looking foolish if I asked, but I really appreciate knowing. I think I can safely say loving words is a common thread here.
Stop and smell Mrs. P's orchid. Good reminder. Enjoy, refresh, return.
I am also looking forward to a few days of "playing hooky," starting tomorrow. I posted about it today and mentioned your call to arms for taking much-needed and well-deserved breaks. -r
You are right, Pilgrim. Watering, digging. See you 'round.
A break from the routine--yes, good--and the orchid--also good.
Sometimes it takes a pilgrim to show you the way home. Good advice.
Although brisk temperatures prevail here in Florida, the sun is shining and the birds are singing. I'm taking your advice and heading over to the Japanese gardens at the Morikami Museum to spend the afternoon. Thanks for reminding me that there is "more" to life. Wherever the next few weeks take you, I hope a smile is always on your face. Be well.
R
Oh too true. I love my ruts, just for comfort's sake, and must be pried out of them occasionally. Work should not be our god.
Pilgrim,
I was just admiring our beautiful orchid as well. The power of the flower, eh? Through their beauty and patience, the way open have much to teach us. Nice passages here. Thanks ...
I'm happy for your mini vacation and what a better place for the both of you.....where the flowers have bloomed! Thank YOU for the beauty you add to OpenSalon.
"life is to be lived, not gotten through..."
If we could remember that more of the time.
Hope you enjoyed the Flower Show...and take heart...Spring will be here any month now!
This is so gorgeous and so profound in its simplicity that it takes me breath away. I'll say "thank you" as soon as I can breathe again...........OK. Thank you. There are too many beautiful word pictures here to enumerate, but this--"...glimpses of the sacred in the good-morning kisses that the sun plants on the Big Maple and the joyous lauds of the cardinals"--is so wonderful I don't have the words to describe my feelings when I read it. Wow. Just--wow. Rated. D
Great post and a wonderful reminder, to take a break, to remember that life is worth living, even if it doesn't seem so at the moment.

Rated.
Great post Pilgrim, and I say that with my best John Wayne swagger.


Rated: By the Official Kilgore Trout of OS.
That orchid is amazing. If Orchids are a reflection on their owner, Mrs P must be one beautiful soul!
Reading this was a break in itself. Such a garden of beautiful words. Go forth and relax! Just promise to come back after Spring Training, when the season begins, can't imagine it without you. (Plus, I need to learn more about these new guys).
Joan: Just to be sure that you realize--it's Spanish. (The opposite of deberes are ganas: things you want. Much more fun.)

Nick: Thanks.

Lea: We needed a bit more of a dose this time!

Densie: Hope you have a good time. I appreciate your cross-post and return the favor. Anyone who wants to read about Densie's upcoming heartwarming trip should go here: http://open.salon.com/blog/densiew/2010/03/06/its_time_to_getaway_and_think_happy_thoughts#

Frank: You're a good husbandman, nurturing well.

sophie: Thanks!

oitko: Yes, shopping is such a break for some people.

Donna: Sounds like a great way to spend the day. Enjoy!

60c: The problem is, those ruts are not living streams but dry arroyos.

Scarlett: They do, indeed.

patricia: Thank you for your kind words, and don't let anything get you down. Life is really wonderful, if you give it a chance.

Steve: We all need to be kicked in the head with that reminder every once in a while.

LC: Well, I love Mrs. P's orchids, but they can't hold a candle in terms of sheer abundance to yours. (You should have seen some of the stunners we saw on Thursday!) Yes, you may use Borg-ified, as long as you don't let that process happen to you!

Yarn: Thank you for your appreciative words. Nice to know that the writing touched you.

WalkAway: Have a gorgeous time!

Tink: Thanks for stopping in and appreciating.

ronnie: Ha! Cute, Duke!

scanner: Of that there is no doubt. Of course, I'm prejudiced, but in this I speak only the truth.
Sally: Well, I won't be gone completely, just only able to graze rather than gorge. ;) I'll try to conjure up a spring training post--was pleased to hear about Cole's cutter working well yesterday.
"...the daily drone of duty, a mechanical hum that Borg-ifies us, perversely transfiguring flesh and spirit into gears and wheels."

that is poetry cleverly disguised as prose, words that make me shake my head.

the subject touches me, and i'm really anxious to see the flower pics, but the writing just makes me smile. thank you for this.
indeed -- life IS to be lived and not gotten through. Thank you for this pearl and the others in this lovely post. R.
Wait are you saying we should stop and smell the rose, err um lilys?
But in a beautiful, heartwarming, lovely way, that is yours and yours alone?
Thank you for reminding me/ us.
You are a very wise men. Lately, it seems I am beset by deberes, sometimes I want to chuck them out the window, if only I could. Since I can't have a breather, reading you is a very close second.

@Joan: You know what teachers say, the foolish question is the one that doesn't get asked. I find myself sometimes running to the dictionary when Pilgrim posts, but to the English section of it.
That should have read "wise man". Not that I wouldn't suspect you of being one of those three.
Since this post is of itself a gift.
Lovely, AHP. Enjoy!! Will miss seein' you around. I was worried that your title meant you were leaving OS. Be well!
femme: You are very generous. Given the poetry I found in your post about your walk along the ocean, I feel honored by your regard.

Patty Jane: Just call me the Oyster Man.

Lunchlady: Don't have to be smelling anything. Just remember to stop and live. It's a good thing to do.

vs: You're too kind. If I really knew anything, I'd . . . I'd . . . . Well, I don't know enough to know. I now recall that I did a post last August on the dilemma of being trapped between deberes and ganas. I'm there often.

Deborah: Thank you, ma'am. I'm too addicted to leave.
So beautiful and so true, Pilgrim! (And I noticed you use "transfigure" here in the opposite sense, moving away from life rather than bringing to... ooh...) To your Soul, Pilgrim! And thanks for the flowers!! Love, Julie
This made me smile, big time.
I love the thought of playing 'hooky' .... oh, to be young ... what a treat! But we can remain young at heart and that, dear Pilgrim, is the lesson I take from your class today. Thank you friend.
Julie: Thanks for catching that--trying to stress the point with that word. Glad you liked it.

Owl: Anything that makes you smile makes me smile!

Kate: That's a good lesson, Kate. Young at heart is a good thing to be, I believe.
Yes. A very well written reminder. :)
I say go for it Pilgrim. Have fun and don't forget to enjoy all small things and the big ones in that order.
Hug Ms P plenty.
Hug yourself too.
You bet, my friend. Remember these words---Seattle Mariners------
You come in like a good March.
sweetfeet: So take those sweetfeet of yours and go someplace!

Mission: Thanks! And hugs back at ya!

Dr Spud: Enjoy Cliff Lee. We broke him in for you. See you in October.

scupper: Baaaaaaaaaa. Thanks!
Dear Pilgrim,
Are you familiar with Longwood Gardens in Kenneth Square, Pennsylvania? There is a spectacular Orchid show on until the of this month. I'm sure you and Mrs Pilgrim would love it. It would be a real pilgrimage for both of you, as going to Longwood Gardens is mine every time I visit my sister in Delaware.
Rated
Fusun: Yes, we looooove Longwood. I posted about another hooky day we spent there last summer: http://open.salon.com/blog/athomepilgrim/2009/08/23/longwood_gardens_in_summer
We went to the Orchid Festival last year. It was a great show. Hope to make this years as well. Next time you're down this way . . . .
Thank you, Pilgrim. I needed this. What a beautiful piece of writing and a true message too.