Last Thursday, Mrs. P and I played hooky, joining in-law in-laws in a therapeutic jaunt to the Philadelphia Flower Show (pictures tomorrow, kids!).
The excursion came in the midst of what seems to have been (and promises still to be) an endless string of weeks of overwork, broken only by late-night Olympic viewing accompanying late-night dinners. (Well, to be honest, I’ve also spent a lot of time here, though not much in the past week; poor Mrs. P, on the other hand, has had nary a break.)
And that, class, is the lesson for the day.
What refreshed us on the day of this mini-vacation was not the sight and smell of the bright flowers in the midst of a long, cold, snowy winter. (Though they certainly helped!)
What we needed was a break from the routine, the rut, the same-old, same-old that erodes mind, body, and spirit as it channels life to the same hollow spot, filling the depression with stagnant water that breeds vermin and leaches toxins into the soil.
I begin each day open to Life’s beauty and wonder, prepared for glimpses of the sacred in the good-morning kisses that the sun plants on the Big Maple and the joyous lauds of the cardinals. I stop occasionally in the midst of labors to smile at the industrious hunger of the squirrels and the loping, soft foraging of the deer that come visit. Seated at my desk, I pause from time to time in the midst of sometimes numbing work to feel a rush of pleasure, better than any drug, at being surrounded by our books and the photos, pots, and figures that enshrine and revive our memories. I’m heartened by the extra minutes of sunlight that promise languid ecstasy to come, should we ever be able to stop to relish it.
But these brief indulgences cannot fully sustain the soul in the midst of the daily drone of duty, a mechanical hum that Borg-ifies us, perversely transfiguring flesh and spirit into gears and wheels. As welcome as these sights and sounds may be, they do not relieve the shoulders of the burden of deberes, the pile of to-dos that, like a malignant tumor, only grows and frightens, or the worry that, like a blow to a scab, renews pain and causes fresh bleeding from a once-forgotten wound.
Sometimes, a person needs a break.
You need to pull out from the drudgery and remember that life is to be lived, not gotten through. You need to remind yourself that there’s another kind of deber: the duty to nurture the soul so that it can flower, like Mrs. P’s most recently blooming orchid.

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Going to be in and out over the next couple of weeks, folks. Just too much to do. I'll try to keep up as best I can, and will post occasionally. Be nice to each other, eh?
Thanks Pilgrim!
*wandering off toward sound of TV*
Would you mind sending daily reminders like this while you're sort of not here? It would help so much!
Be well, beautiful Pilgrims! Come back refreshed and ready to inform, listen, hear and love. Because you do it so well.
The crocuses - the croci - are really taking a bold stance in Massachusetts.
I miss you already.
I'm slightly foolish this morning. The weather is fine, and I'm getting my bike tuned up and buying a kayak today.
I'm not really athletic, but I enjoy some paddling and pedaling.
Do kayaks come with cup holders? it would be nice to enjoy a good chardonnay on a calm lake at sunset.
The Philadelphia Flower Show! What a treat! I can't imagine two people who could enjoy it more than you and Mrs P. Would have loved to be there to enjoy myself and just to watch your pleasure. It seems that the more I read people on OS the more I long to meet them and share a lazy afternoon. Know what I mean?
I haven't been around much lately and know I've missed a lot of your posts but I want you to know how much I appreciate you. And if Mrs P doesn't mind, big hug to you!
SK
The only major flower shows I have been to were a series of International Flower Shows held in NYC at the old NY Coliseum. Someday I will post about that as I have vintage photos from the '60s when my grandfather was on the board of directors of the show and he snapped a few hundred photos of the various exhibits.
I love the orchid photo. Every single orchid in my house (and I have several) is either blooming or sending up stalks of buds right now. It's as if they knew that I desperately needed to see their color.
Ann: I'm trying to decide if you'd do one foot each color, or each nail both colors, or alternate colors. I haven't been able to settle on one as the most likely, so you shall have to take pictures and show us.
mamoore: Glad to have been of service.
Gabby: Off nurturing now; back to the drudgery.
charlie: Damn if it doesn't. Pesky little thing, that work thing. Thanks for the reminder.
Leonde: "Nothing but a bunch of rocks." Ha! "Waall, Missy, those rocks are beautiful up here, a-yup."
aim: That's OK, I was confused too. When you said "I'm getting my bike tuned up and buying a kayak today," I wondered why your bike needed a kayak . . . The cupholder idea is a good one, though!
Sharon: That's so sweet. Thank you sooo much. Really touching (wouldn't be much of a hug without touching, would it). I hope that the pix will convey a fraction of the pleasure that we did absorb. We'll see! And thanks again. Maybe someday we'll be down there, or you'll be up here, or whatever. (Though I know you'll be taking a walk with waking first.)
Clark: I guess you really liked the line about the stagnant water breeding vermin and leaching toxins, huh?
Lisa: :( indeed! I hope that enough of the pictures turn out that you'll get some virtual pleasure out of our self-indulgence. I remember the orchid pix you posted what? a couple of weeks ago? You should show us more! It is wonderful how they come in the midst of winter and bloom sooooo long. (Of course, the Orchid Festival is coming to Longwood soon. . . .)
Tor: You're too kind, sir. You have all the sense in the world; what I bring to the table is non-sense.
OK, folks. Really have to work now and then do the food shopping and then more work. Back later!
R
I was just admiring our beautiful orchid as well. The power of the flower, eh? Through their beauty and patience, the way open have much to teach us. Nice passages here. Thanks ...
If we could remember that more of the time.
Hope you enjoyed the Flower Show...and take heart...Spring will be here any month now!
Rated.
Rated: By the Official Kilgore Trout of OS.
Nick: Thanks.
Lea: We needed a bit more of a dose this time!
Densie: Hope you have a good time. I appreciate your cross-post and return the favor. Anyone who wants to read about Densie's upcoming heartwarming trip should go here: http://open.salon.com/blog/densiew/2010/03/06/its_time_to_getaway_and_think_happy_thoughts#
Frank: You're a good husbandman, nurturing well.
sophie: Thanks!
oitko: Yes, shopping is such a break for some people.
Donna: Sounds like a great way to spend the day. Enjoy!
60c: The problem is, those ruts are not living streams but dry arroyos.
Scarlett: They do, indeed.
patricia: Thank you for your kind words, and don't let anything get you down. Life is really wonderful, if you give it a chance.
Steve: We all need to be kicked in the head with that reminder every once in a while.
LC: Well, I love Mrs. P's orchids, but they can't hold a candle in terms of sheer abundance to yours. (You should have seen some of the stunners we saw on Thursday!) Yes, you may use Borg-ified, as long as you don't let that process happen to you!
Yarn: Thank you for your appreciative words. Nice to know that the writing touched you.
WalkAway: Have a gorgeous time!
Tink: Thanks for stopping in and appreciating.
ronnie: Ha! Cute, Duke!
scanner: Of that there is no doubt. Of course, I'm prejudiced, but in this I speak only the truth.
that is poetry cleverly disguised as prose, words that make me shake my head.
the subject touches me, and i'm really anxious to see the flower pics, but the writing just makes me smile. thank you for this.
But in a beautiful, heartwarming, lovely way, that is yours and yours alone?
Thank you for reminding me/ us.
@Joan: You know what teachers say, the foolish question is the one that doesn't get asked. I find myself sometimes running to the dictionary when Pilgrim posts, but to the English section of it.
Patty Jane: Just call me the Oyster Man.
Lunchlady: Don't have to be smelling anything. Just remember to stop and live. It's a good thing to do.
vs: You're too kind. If I really knew anything, I'd . . . I'd . . . . Well, I don't know enough to know. I now recall that I did a post last August on the dilemma of being trapped between deberes and ganas. I'm there often.
Deborah: Thank you, ma'am. I'm too addicted to leave.
Owl: Anything that makes you smile makes me smile!
Kate: That's a good lesson, Kate. Young at heart is a good thing to be, I believe.
Hug Ms P plenty.
Hug yourself too.
Mission: Thanks! And hugs back at ya!
Dr Spud: Enjoy Cliff Lee. We broke him in for you. See you in October.
scupper: Baaaaaaaaaa. Thanks!
Are you familiar with Longwood Gardens in Kenneth Square, Pennsylvania? There is a spectacular Orchid show on until the of this month. I'm sure you and Mrs Pilgrim would love it. It would be a real pilgrimage for both of you, as going to Longwood Gardens is mine every time I visit my sister in Delaware.
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We went to the Orchid Festival last year. It was a great show. Hope to make this years as well. Next time you're down this way . . . .