We must have looked like monkeys with fright-wide eyes reflecting a first glimpse of fire, on that evening in 1996 when we powered up our newest computer, inserted a disc labeled "AOL" and waited, listening to a long medley of beeps and chirps. Then, suddenly, we were Welcome!
In this new environment, we took turns poking and hooting. My daughter, a first-grader, lost interest quickly, as did my husband. At work he networked computers that relayed important data between engineers and scientists; this place – pre-web, largely empty – appeared vacuous and unnecessary. My nine-year-old son and I kept at it, creating a screen name and a ridiculous profile. We entered chat rooms and gleefully interacted with strangers. Strangers! Have you ever heard of such?
Eventually my son moved on, while I remained enthralled. I found an online trivia group and spent many Friday nights answering esoteric questions and interacting with people from all over the country in a way that had never before been possible. Those early days were euphoric, full of possibility. I think we all felt like participants in an exciting social experiment, like pioneers crossing a vast, uncharted prairie
As a natural progression of relationships, we began to meet up in host cities, to put faces and names to screennames. Sometimes expectations were not met and in those cases the disappointment was either heartbreaking or very awkward, confirming what I already suspected -- even when it comes to online identity, authenticity matters. There were also crushes, hook-ups, triangles, feuds, and on the positive side, some deep friendships, a few true-love meetings and marriages. The gamut of interactions you'd find in a sprawling neighborhood or office environment. None of the emotions were stunted by having been rooted in a virtual soil, and that was eye-opening knowledge in itself.
Witnessing firsthand the move from internet chat rooms to hotel conference rooms, and the sincere desire to make the virtual real, whatever the risk or outcome, I should not have been surprised by the internet's evolution from an abstract space, free of borders, to the earthbound terrain of myspace, livejournal and facebook. These days, if you want to function as a social entity, a facebook account is compulsory, and when a stranger-friend from high school encourages me to fill out a survey to determine which Real Housewife I most resemble, I wonder if E.M. Forster's directive to "only connect" was bad advice, although I'm certain he didn't mean "banally connect" or "connect with everyone...all the time."
I shouldn't have been surprised, but I was surprised. Everything I initially found intoxicating about internet communication – the absolute control over how much personal information to reveal or to hide, and relationships based purely upon the written word rather than the usual social cues – were the first things my children, the internet's second generation, jettisoned. They wanted communication that was instantly personal, instantly meaningful. That meant starting local, the very opposite of how I had first experienced the internet.
I know I'm part of it. Like my children, I've come to view the internet as just another outlet for personal expression and self promotion. The blog is nothing more than a performance medium for writers, and we're all vying for audience and approval. I mean, anonymity is one thing; invisibility is another. I also know the internet wasn't born choate, to be preserved forever in it's original "prefect" state. That's not the way or the purpose of technology. But I'm nostalgic for the days when the internet seemed to expect something of me, rather than the other way around.
It does seem quaint now. Not just the chat room emoticons and .wav files, or the stern enforcement of decorum by AOL's TOS (terms of service) police, but the idea that the internet would be a turning point in social interaction; that it could unite us all as citizens of a single "country" transcending the distance that kept us apart and fearful of one another; that it could reduce cultural prejudices to mere informational clutter, unnecessary in this brave new world where people met as nameless, colorless equals; that it could make us more educated, more involved, and even kinder versions of ourselves. Didn't happen.
It figures that we'd use this revolutionary technology as a crude tool – to befriend and to inform, yes, but also to bore, to annoy, to bully, to kill. It's like this totally true illustrative story I didn't just make up, about the researcher who raised a baby chimp, taught him advanced math and physics, and then released him back into the wild to see what would happen. First thing that chimp did was build a catapult so that he could fling his shit further than any other monkey had before.
I hope to God we never invent a time machine.


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Right now, for example, there's a debate raging because reporters during the sentencing hearing for a murderer were allowed to tweet messages out while it was going on. I knew when I first heard they were going to do it that it was a mistake. No context, no full story. Dribs and drabs of mostly unconnected data. Sheer sensationalism. As far as I'm concerned, it was a mockery of good reporting.
One prediction I think is kind of funny is that we would stop using paper. I write things digitally now, then print them out. My syllabi used to be two typewritten sheets. Now they're six, plus handouts, PDFs etc etc. It takes several hours to photocopy all the stuff. Dead trees galore.
It's also funny that I can be kinda tech savvy, and yet not know who the NJ housewives are and be a Facebook virgin. That's the cool thing about tools!
After I read this I kept seeing that popular graphic image from years ago. You know the one outlining the evolution from ape to homo sapien then ... it becomes an ape again behind the computer.
Uh huh.
OS is the closest I've ever been to a chat room. From what I can gather, it's pretty close at times. ;
a franishnonspeaker has the coolest name.
The manner that you go on and on is good.
It reminds me of the old farm wintertimes.
Wintertime is when farm meetings happen.
There are winter farm gathers in the hotels.
For example `
PASA will meet`
Workshops happen`
Names are given faces`
I usually hang in hallways`
And play games with children.
The last Farm Convention was`
ACRES in Lexington, Kentucky.
The children know I Love them.
I usually miss the paid gig event.
I did speak with Wendell Berry.
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When am 'booted-off' the blogs`
I read daily.
So - today`
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What Matters?
Economics for a Renewed Commonwealth.
Forward by Herman E. Daley
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It's interesting. Not boring.
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"Faustian Economics"
It's to steer from this present
chaos, and change so we hope,
and with urgency we be clear,
honest, and sustain common`
wealth ...
or,
this financial obfuscation is`
more of the vain on and on`
empty vocabulary, more woe`
financial asylum a` more woe`
citizen inmate (us)`more despair`
and people who are mere victims`
and people will know disillusion.
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Wendell Berry has a lawyer brother.
I believe they etc., manage a bank.
It's the old honest neighborly bank.
His brother practices law in Kentucky.
Stop in about lunch? Shelbyville, KY.
The founder of the town was born, ho.
A town I live in is where Shelby was born.
I hear he bad. I hear he was a bounty hunter.
Some say brother Jacob was a indian hunter.
You cant believe everything you read in news.
I hear he left my small village for moonshines.
I'm here. I'm applauding [sound of more than one hand clapping].
The original green screens evolving into blue screens of death. The internet is the most important advancement in communications since the Gutenberg printing press.
- thank you for this trip down 'Memory Lane', when RAM was really very expensive.
not just a nostalgia fest.
This is brilliant.
And oh, so sad.
What do you think makes all those alien abductions possible, if not time machines? It's our future, come back to torment us.
as for your time machine, have you read "Time And Again" by Jack Finney, written back in 1970?
Lezlie
Cartouche -- No, I'd never say never! I hope I'm amazed by what happens next. That would be a relief.
Lea -- Our first home computer was a Kaypro with a CP/M operating system, pre-DOS. I don't have nostalgia for THOSE days!
Linda -- Mr. Vance and I used to have huge (for us) arguments about the AOL bill. I reasoned it was cheaper than going out for dinner each weekend. (And I was right.)
Boanerges -- I have the same sort of concerns when I see the mug shots in the online version of our local paper. These people aren't convicted of anything, yet, this technology allows them to be paraded along "main street" for the entertainment and derision of others.
Overworks -- 8 inch disks?? You make me wish I'd been born earlier!!! In my time they were 3. 5!! That's reverse evolution.
Greenheron -- I think there will always be a market for the older "hands on" arts, and especially for those that manage to incorporate the best of the old and the best of the new (kind of like cooking...moving from traditional, having access to the ingredients of the present).
Jeanette -- I remember listening to an NPR reporter laugh about how he scoffed at his office's "Network" and Madonna who he labeled a flash in the pan. History always has surprises for us!
Jonathan -- You're probably the ONE person I'd wish had a time machine!
Maryway -- Yep. There are definitely some amazing things about the internet. No denying that. I couldn't DO without it. I just wish the information we all know will need to be forgotten (or at least obscure) wasn't granted the same level of importance as things we need to hold dear. Context isn't the internet's strong suit.
Owl -- Yeah! I get impatient if things don't come up NOW!
Scarlett -- That may be why I feel most at home here. A sense of connection, the possibility of friendships based upon a strong foundation of admiration, earned and cultivated over time.
Alysa -- I think it is a positive thing, destined to fall short of expectations of those early days. I don't mean to minimize the connections that are made here (and on other sites)...I'm still hopeful. All of my online-to-real life interactions have been wonderful!!
Scanner -- I know this post comes from an unrealistic vision of how things used to be, and I -- of course -- still rely upon the internet for a lot of information, education and social interaction. My disappointment is merely a product of reaching (dreaming) too high.
Franish -- That's it -- a blessing and a curse.
Matt -- Those were heady days, but I imagine you experienced the same feelings no matter when you hopped on board.
Hugs -- Thanks for reading. I am amused, when I look back and think of how seriously I viewed this social experiment.
Sophieh -- If I were to invent a time machine, you'd definitely be one of the ten people I'd invite on board. Your steady, easy-going, free spirit would be just the thing for such a journey!
Trilogy -- Ah. So tricky. The "friending your kids." Like you, I do try to remain technologically relevant for my kids. I don't want to be one of those Dagnabbit Seniors who eschew everything new and unfamiliar.
Kate -- Although my feelings are complicated, I do thank GOD every day for this little machine on my desk!!!
Fay -- I remember touring my husband's work place and being led through a room with computers the size of refrigerators. The idea of having one AT HOME! was unthinkable!!
Felicia -- You're exactly right. It does magnify our flaws -- I'm not sure it magnifies our goodness quite as effectively, but I think that's the human side coming through. We rubberneck toward the negative.
John -- Flying cars aren't for everyone. I'd rather my elderly mother were hooked on internet poker. In that case a stall in technology is a good thing.
Stim -- I agree with you. The equal access to publication is, in itself, revolutionary.
Catherine -- They weren't that long ago! Here's the weird pr interesting thing -- despite being raised in a home where we were on the forefront of personal computers, both my children have dropped off their virus-laden/broken computers at our home (daughter is at art school. son is living aboard his boat) with no real concern about when they'll have internet connection! I'm still not sure what that means from a sociological perspective.
Connie -- Thank you! I'm not maudlin, merely perplexed. Things have veered into areas I never expected. I'm trying not to be disappointed. We can only adapt. I think if E.M. Forster were still here he might amend his directive to that -- "only adapt."
Mumble -- We were so full of ourselves -- so PROUD of our abilities to...type. Ahem. In the time of time machines, with your apocalyptic preparations, I think we'd need to leave you HERE to take care of everyone else!
Femme -- I have read that book! I love it! I fear it's fantasy, and that if most of us had a time machine we might go back and rethink the gold metallic fabric of our prom dress...something as inconsequential.
Lilly -- Skype is amazing! There are definitely advancements taking place as we speak. My fear is that for every "positive" use there's someone scheming about how to use it for nefarious purposes. No way around that, I know. But it does put a damper on the euphoria.
Lezlie -- Yes! As an early internet pioneer, I remember having access to information for my classes. It was truly a revolutionary tool, even then, with a fraction of the information available. Our children take it for granted.
Deb -- Those chat rooms were...dangerous! I'm happy I discovered OS as well. I think without OS, I might have given up writing for lack of an audience. You can only write in isolation, without feedback (or rejection feedback from a dying print industry) before you give up, start thinking about training dogs. Or maybe that's just me.
Rated for use of "choate" and food for thought.
Crazy, man, crazy.
Lucy -- Yeah! Choate. Right? (Makes me think I need to answer Ann Nichols' Fatal Flaw Open Call.)
Brian B. -- Thanks! Can you imagine, though -- a time machine? I remember an Onion article about how a teenager got a ride in a time machine. He said it was "all right."
William -- I would never downplay the support and influence and potential the internet has to connect similarly situated individuals -- there's the case there the anonymity is a definite conduit to the kind of intimacy and unburdening necessary for a shamed (be it cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, gambling) person to feel at least somewhat comfortable. I'm glad she found that kind of community!
Odetter -- It doesn't seem like that long ago. Don't you wish you could recapture that enthrallment? It was heady!
Christine -- Indeed!
But our changing mores aren't just a function of the Internet. VP Joe Biden was caught saying "this is a big fucking deal" on live TV, and former VP candidate and supposedly devout Christian exemplar Sarah Palin just dropped "WTF" into one of her inane insane diatribes without batting a fake eyelash.
Nowhere are changing mores more apparent than in TV ads. Suggestive ads for ED products saturate -- forgive the word -- the screen. Smiling Bob is a cult figure, Viagra goes Vegas-Elvis, and actors in Cialis commercials lick their eyebrows while sitting naked in tubs.
Then there's the content of movies and television shows themselves. They've degenerated to the point that simulated sex leaves nothing to the imagination. If it hasn't happened already -- and some say it has -- some of the scenes in mainstream movies aren't simulations.
I suspect it won't be long before there's live sex on TV. Damn it, if I want porn, I want it the old-fashioned way -- I'll pay for it!
(Skype and Vonage make it possible to stay visually and audibly connected with our crazy adventurers an ocean away, you know, and it's FREE. Now THAT is progress.)
and this goes to show how flawed we can be, even if our technology can sometimes be wondrous
the first time my husband and I got a computer and had internet service we just stared at it, then I remembered the only url I had read about on a magazine
kodak.com
the first website I ever visited
I also worked the kids rooms. AOL had real Saturday morning kid rooms. Where the dialogue went something like this:
kid number 1: Hiy
kid number 2: Hy
kid number 3: hay
kid number 4: hi;lo anny body here?
my job was in fact to keep an eye out for predatory types. they were pretty easy to spot because they spelled correctly and the kids would IM me and tell me if one IM'd them.
The kids loved my name. One boy called me Guide TITs. So I send his child ass rocketed back to his sign on screen for a few hours.
I rarely tossed but when I did, the power was fantastic! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. :)
just call me m'aam. :)