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NOVEMBER 18, 2010 9:20PM

Martha Gets a Walker

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When I walked in the door today, the first thing Martha said to me was, "Do you have my Medicare card?"

She doesn't call me by name, nor does she smile at me.  But for ten months, she's been attending the activities I host once a month at this senior low-income housing complex.  When we play Trivial Pursuit, she often knows all the answers, even the difficult ones like "Who was President during World War I?"  Imogene and Lena guessed Herbert Hoover, and the forty-something, morbidly obese man on disability said, "Roosevelt."

"Woodrow Wilson," Martha mumbled under her breath, and I smiled and said, "That's correct, give yourself a point."

Martha reached out to the pile of multi-colored poker chips in the middle of the table.  Her shaky hand took a red one.

Martha is an icon in this small river town.  For at least a decade, she's wandered the brick streets most days.  Her face  shows the ruddy, weathered look of a homeless person, though she has a home in the low income housing building.  Her clothes are often mis-matched, several sizes too big, and sometimes soiled.  She doesn't bathe often.

She knows all the taxi drivers in this village, and will often call one of them near dawn to bring her a cup of coffee from the gas station.  The staff at the housing complex begs her not to do this.  When they come in at 8 a.m., they check on her and take her a hot cup.  Usually she's already called one of the guys for a mug that strains her Social Security check budget.

For months I've been trying to help the staff at the housing complex arrange for home health care for Martha.  She has been declining -- shuffling like a Parkinson's patient, sometimes falling against the hallway walls.   She refuses to visit her doctor, and she has no family to encourage her.  The staff is her family, and they cluck around her as if she is their baby chick.

Sometimes she disappears, but always turns up by the end of the day.  This year is different, and the staff is worried more than usual about her going out in cold weather.  Will she get hit by a car?  Will she fall in the street?  How can we help her?

She gets Meals on Wheels as do many of the residents at the center, so she has at least one healthy meal a day.  Neighbors, many elderly and infirm, help her clean her tiny apartment and organize her papers.  Elderly people seem to have so many important papers, and yet the ability to manage them diminishes with age.

Martha needed to present her Medicare card for the free flu shot in October.  Martha thought I had her card because I registered her last month when the nurses came to give the shots.  Though it is against the rules, I went with her when she directed me to her apartment to look for the card.

She motioned for me to sit down on the stiff, floral couch, while she got out her purse.  She took out a tiny, zippered pouch with about 100 cards in it.  She handed the stack to me, careful not to drop them with her shaking hand.   Neither of us said a word.

The stack contained cards that were thirty yeas old, business cards of insurance men long dead, a Ponderosa steak card, and yes, her faded red, white, and blue Medicare card.  She took her card to the nurses in the lobby, and got a shot in her left arm.

Today, on my last visit to this center, I came into the foyer to find Martha at her mailbox.  "Do you have my Medicare card," she said, without saying "hello." 

I reminded her she had put in back in the green vinyl zippered pouch on the coffee table in her apartment.  She turned and walked away.

Then it hit me.  Martha was using a walker, a brand new shiny push walker with gripper handles and big plastic pockets on the side.  After she had her flu shot, she finally agreed for the nurses to come see her in her apartment, check her vital signs, have an aide help her with bathing, and learn how to use a walker.

As she shuffled away, I smiled knowing as another Martha would say, "It was a good thing."

 

This is based on a true stories; names and details have been changed for privacy reasons.  © A.M. Abbott 2010

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I love that Martha calls the taxi drivers to get her coffee. Her caffeine addiction is worse than mine. So glad to hear that she's got some wheels now.
This was so lovely, Bea. I am going to share this with my daughter. She has a soft spot for the elderly (prepping for me, I suppose!) and volunteers in senior centers as well. You write so beautifully!
Am I going to be like her in a few years? I hope so. I kind of like her..:)
Great story Bea!
rated with hugs
Beautiful, small victories. I loved this story of Martha.
thanks, bea, for a good read. i am always happy to see your posts.
i love good news especially for someone like martha. well done, bea, all around.
Wonderful story, Bernadine! Beautifully and heartfully written. I would love to spend time with you and martha! Definitely glad about the walker!!! Just terrific! r
What a delightfully upbeat story in what has been a somewhat aggravating past hour for me - THANKS!
Heartwarming and a lovely read. Thanks for sharing this, Bea.
~R
Martha's got real spunk. Good for her for getting all the help she can, and good for you for being who you are.

Lezlie
I loved this story. The last sentence was perfect. :)
Wonderful story and character. Thank you!
Thanks for this poignant look at a feisty, independent senior. Her creative outsourcing of coffee procurement is very impressive and I can only hope I'm that resourceful in my dotage! :) Great story. [r]
I won't be like her, I'll sit on my front porch with a bb gun and shoot the neighbor kids as they try to get their football back they kicked into my yard!! Teeheehee!! :D

Getting old is going to rule!! :D Rated.
Ah. To remain independent--she is a fighter.
Thanks for helping Martha, Bernadine, and your details are really finely crafted in the writing of her story. One of my dearest friends who is failing due to lupus admitted to me that she hadn't washed her hair in four weeks. Well, today we dyed her hair blond and I gently gave her a blow out and curled it under with the curling iron. She was so happy and it was really such a simple thing. I told her she should have asked me to help her before.
You always have a lovely story to tell. Thanks. R
This is marvellous!!

Human interest stories always find a place in my day but this is truly exceptional. Your excellent writing makes it very "reader friendly" too!


^R^+++
Feisty ones always live the longest. very nice story Bernadine, enjoyed.
this is just moving thank you r.
What a lovely and gentle story. There are many Marthas in the world who need our love. R.
Martha has many names in this world. How I wish there were just as many people who cared about them.
R
Bea, you have a big heart.
Bea..what a great human interest story,,how nice of you to offer your time and talents, there should be more like you!!
Bea, your writing always pulls me in and holds me until the very last word. It's a very good thing...:) ~r
I enjoyed this, thanks for sharing the story! Martha could be one of the elders I work with for a program that has "keeping elders safe and healthy in their homes" as a mission statement. We joke that there's something about the water on the East Side that makes these people extra stubborn. Glad she's accepting help. (See my post from last January with the title "86-yr-old Doesn't Freeze to Death" for more about our program. )
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I guess I should be putting more money away for my Starbucks addiction. This was wonderfully told.
Great story, Bea. My Aunt and Uncle lived in an assisted living apartment now. She is 94 and he is 87. It's quite interesting to talk to them on the phone now. -R-
You tell this true story beautifully! I "help" older people, too, & everything you write is spot on -- the need for a caffeine fix (in nursing homes they serve decaffeinated, lukewarm, in plastic cups which I think is borderline cruelty!), the faded ancient cards, the overwhelming piles of paperwork involved in being a "senior." Even the Trivial Pursuit. Really, we all need each other. And I'm glad this story ended on an upbeat note!
Gotta love Martha. rated
Great story as always, Bea, and congrats on the deserved EP.
This post is a "good thing." You're a Good Thing too.
I like Martha's independent streak and the fact that the people around her allow her to still express it in what limited capacity she has. Those old important papers.... I wonder what that's all about.
I had a walker after my knee replacement at the age of 46. It taunts me in the basement from time to time. This is a wonderful story. I worked in a nursing home my junior and senior years in high school. I saw so many other faces on Martha in this story.
You tell this so well, B!
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