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bethybug

bethybug
Location
North Carolina,
Birthday
June 12
Bio
I run a household that resembles the old United Colors of Benetton ads! I am the mother to five beautiful sons, some I gave birth to, others were adopted. I'm new to the wonderful world of blogging, but find it to be a great way to find both comfort and escape. I love to camp, take road trips with the boys and ride on the back of a motorcycle.

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SEPTEMBER 22, 2011 9:30AM

Unleashing Compassion

 

homeless woman

 You know those lumps of flesh you sometimes spot sitting on a park bench, napping on the sidewalk, or wandering the streets with bags or carts in tow?  Have you ever paused to look at them?  I mean, beyond the white face, black face, red shirt, blue pants sort/Read full post »

MARCH 3, 2011 11:09AM

Pot Liquor & Fine Cuisine

Usually when the words “pot” and “liquor” are paired, something involving college kids or the police will ensue.  The two certainly sound like ingredients for a wild party.  Unfortunately, if you’re reading this in anticipation of getting the directions for pre/Read full post »

FEBRUARY 12, 2011 3:18PM

What Happens When He's Gone

 mom going crazy There have been times in my marriage that I've found myself feeling sorry for my husband.  I mean really feeling sorry for him.  Most often,  it's because he's not in the best or safest of circumstances.  This is not one of those times, however. He's&n… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 8, 2010 10:14PM

Of Mice...Fred...and Death

 

grief

 

 

 Fred sat beside me in English during my sophomore year of high school.  He was much smaller than the other boys his age.  While the popular males had long feathery locks of hair, Fred’s was always kept short, almost militant looking….out of st/Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 30, 2010 11:45AM

Of Strange Relations

adoption

  

 

 

 

I carried the worn slip of paper in my wallet for months.  Often I would pull it out and stare at the woman’s name and phone number, the hand-written letters and numbers were beginning to fade.  Sometimes I’d go so far as to stop at a pay/Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 19, 2010 12:49AM

And I Did Nothing.

marty feldman
  

 

There used to be an actor by the name of Marty Feldman that really creeped me out when I was a child.  His right eye always looked east, while his left tended to favor the direction of west.  When I met Catherine back in the fifth grade, the first/Read full post »

AUGUST 24, 2010 9:50AM

Hitchiker, the Car Thief

Growing up, most children are taught to never talk to strangers.  That was hardly the case in my household.  It would not have been too realistic for my parents to warn me of the danger of persons unknown when they were continuously bringing them home.  As a result, I’ve often faRead full post »

Editor’s Pick
AUGUST 19, 2010 6:42AM

The Homeless Man with the Steel Blue Eyes

homeless man
  

 

I noticed the familiar figure making his way along the busy street.  On his back he carried a large duffle bag and bed roll.   I looked beyond him and realized where he was headed.  I decided to run my last errand and then catch up with him. 

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Editor’s Pick
AUGUST 17, 2010 11:15AM

Nigger Lover

 

 race pics  

I dreaded the bus ride every single school day for two long years.  As a little girl of six and seven, I didn’t come equipped with the right ammunition to fight the daily battle.  I was also too young to fully understand the level of deep-seeded bitterRead full post »

AUGUST 16, 2010 8:09AM

Our Second Sons

A_Mother__s_Tears_by_astarvinartist

  

Today my second son is eighteen.

Today her second son is in a hospital bed.

Today my son will celebrate with friends.

Today her son’s friends will be turned away.

My son will get a new car, today.

Her son’s motorcycle is a mangled mess.

My son has his lifetime aheRead full post »

To Whom it May Concern,

I wish to thank you for your prompt delivery of the pizza that I ordered last night.  When I phoned you, my call was answered on the first ring, which immediately impressed me.  Your service was exceptional.  The pie was phenomenal. 

  As you knowRead full post »

AUGUST 14, 2010 11:19AM

Mama's Corn Fritters

corn_fritters

   Sunday suppers were a fancy affair when I was growing up.  Mom would wake up early and begin preparing meats and vegetables before we headed off to church.  Following services, we'd return home and upon opening the door, the aromas from the kitchen were /Read full post »

AUGUST 13, 2010 9:37AM

Mom's Songs to Die to

 

lonliness

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jB3zzv2G6Y

As a teenager, I often fantasized about killing myself… not because I was sad or depressed.  I envisioned it as if I were choreographing a video for MTV, but this was before the days of music television. I know it sounds dis/Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
AUGUST 12, 2010 4:26PM

1997: Year of Bad Whine

The year started out well.  Things were going my way, a direction I tend to prefer.  I was a sales manager for a local radio station, having worked my way up from account executive over the years. My husband ran a restaurant which yielded him a good salary with bonus.  We/Read full post »

AUGUST 11, 2010 7:02AM

Lonely without Sleep

 sadness

Sleep is my enemy.

She beckons to me seductively,

yet slips away as I approach.

Darkness looms.

Sleep is gone,

finding delight

in my abandonment.

I’m all alone.

Wide Awake.

Crying. Read full post »

AUGUST 10, 2010 4:16PM

I Won a Harley Davidson!!

wwinner 

 Even I admit that it’s an uncommon hobby.  Still, I’m glad I discovered it, and just in the nick of time.  I had never heard of “sweeping” when I stumbled upon it by accident.  It became a lifesaver of sorts, something I could do when the gRead full post »

AUGUST 9, 2010 12:56PM

Losing Control

losing_control3  

 

Control left me at the altar just when I needed him most.  I had to walk down the aisle all alone in my white cotton dress stained with mascara-laced tears.  The faces of the guests were marked with pity, but none dared to make eye contact with me. Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
AUGUST 9, 2010 9:54AM

Ties that Bind...and Choke

DSCN0610  me & josh

 I methodically went through this morning’s routine without giving much thought to the acts themselves.  When my life was normal, I would have already scratched off at least a dozen items from my “to do” list by now, but things are far fromRead full post »

AUGUST 8, 2010 4:14PM

Handprints of Depression

her_sadness_by_oloferla 

Depression wears a heavy wool cape regardless of the season.  When I first became acquainted with him, I thought he was my friend.  He encouraged me to stay in bed and tucked me in underneath lovely hand-made quilts.  He tells me that crying is healthy.  He keeps my p/Read full post »

AUGUST 6, 2010 9:56PM

I Should Have Married My Father

I should have married my father (yeah, may as well go ahead and start the banjo music).  What I mean by that is my dad had so many wonderful attributes, it would have been nice to have married someone that shared at least a few of them.  Instead, I took greatRead full post »

AUGUST 5, 2010 1:23PM

Timely Perfections

Events of  perfect timeliness bewilder me.  I’m referring to the way bad and good crashes into each other with such force that it cancels the other out.  I guess that’s where the old expression, “I’ll take the good with the bad” comes from.  I alRead full post »

AUGUST 4, 2010 8:46AM

Sinking on the Worry Ship

I’ve been blessed in my life.  Unlike many others, I’ve not been tossed about, having to weather one wave of adversity after another. While it’s not been a pain-free existence, it’s been a fairly pleasant ride, especially when compared to that of friends who have faced ilRead full post »

JULY 31, 2010 11:34PM

Donning a Mask of Shame

The sound of the ringing phone broke the silence in the wee hours that Sunday morning.  My dad was the on-call clergyman for the local hospital that weekend.  There had been a terrible car crash with multiple deaths and injuries.  He got out of bed, took a quick shower and headedRead full post »

I met him at a party. I couldn’t help but meet him. He was loud and boisterous, but also ruggedly handsome. He had a thick mop of chestnut hair and he wore a very expensive jacket stitched from a fine, soft leather. He had a gorgeous smile and everybody there seemed… Read full post »

JULY 26, 2010 4:16PM

When Sallie Left

Everyone who has ever adopted a child has their own reasons for doing so.  Mine is the result of losing my beloved adoptive mom, suddenly, in an automobile accident more than thirteen years ago.  The death of a loved one often brings about unexpected changes, and for me, this was especially/Read full post »