Sorting the clutter out in one's psyche, can be both joyful and painful. Our relatively peaceful existence can be overshadowed by uncertainty, a lack of trust and fear. I have always said, “never make a major decision if emotions are high or if something unforeseen has happened that throws you off track…Sometimes we are going along fine and them bam, a punch from life comes out of nowhere. Think things through carefully, dwell for awhile on potential consequences and then listen to the advice of one who is wise and more importantly, unbiased.

As we think about truth, lies, fantasy and reality; we need complete candor with ourselves even if it causes raw emotions, weakness and the realization of sins. We will inevitably look at what hurts us first because we are so egocentric. For most of us, humility is a work of a lifetime. We also need to search our character for our good attributes too, like character, compassion for others- and the big one- whether or not we have a conscience.