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The one who orders the lettuce-leaf salad is the child; the one with the chocolate mousse is the parent.
The one driving the station wagon is the child; the one in the sports car is the parent.
The one buying the training pants is the child; the one buying the little… Read full post »

THE NEW GENERATION GAP

September 2011, NY AREA workshop for personal coaches, counselors, therapists whose clients have issues dealing with their grown children.

The end of a marriage changes both the family and the family business. While your immediate goal may be surviving divorce without losing what you’ve spent years building, it’s equally important to consider how what seems like a private, personal event causes shifts and tremors in so many other ke…

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The blogosphere is buzzing about  “What Is It About  20-Somethings?â€, a widely covered recent New York Times Magazine piece. For their baby boomer parents, the answer to the title query is  reassuringly familiar  – It’s just a stage they’re going through. A new one, brought on by a clus…

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Graduation has come and gone, and the  parents of the Class of 2010  are proud,  broke and glad it’s over. They have agendas they want to get back to, the second half of their lives to invent –  the part where they’re not old yet, just older. Well, don’t get…

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Many family businesses have mission statements that clarify their values, goals and principles. But few have a boundary statement, which is even more important to the operation, profitability, reputation and stakeholder satisfaction of a family-owned enterprise. A boundary statement sets out the line…

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Here’s how you know you’ve become a woman of a certain age: The anxiety dream that wakes you up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night isn’t the one about oversleeping your SAT’s, it’s the one about being a bag lady. In my version, I’m trying to sneak…

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Is going to college without a clear career direction or any goal beyond just graduating worth the cost? How parents can help teenagers identify their strengths, values and interests, assess themselves functionally, and then decide whether going directly to college is the right move.

Parenting college-bound teenagers from senior year on while dealing with changes in marital, personal and family life.

What Are Boundaries? Mental structures that separate the parts of our minds from each other and also distinguish our minds from other people’s minds. Psychologically as well as physically, they are where I end and you begin. Interpersonal boundaries – the ones between people – are the building…

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We want our kids to love and support one another, but shared family history may not be enough to keep them together, especially if their lives, priorities and values are dissimilar. Often sibling rivalry that lasts into adulthood gets in the way of real connection. While our immediate impulse may be…

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They’re Ba..a..ck! These days many grown kids are coming back to the nest or finding it hard to leave. They may have failed in their initial attempts at independence or fear striking out on their own. With mutual agreement on the terms and conditions for living together and mutual respect…

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We’re young and strong enough to be a real influence on our grandchildren’s lives and help our kids with the most difficult job of theirs. But we cause more harm than good when we take over their role as parents – this infantilizes them, compromises their independence, and undermine…

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Post-Parenthood starts when your kids are old enough to vote and lasts as long as you do.  It’s the final evolution of your role as a parent, and it requires what may be the most difficult task of all: acknowledging that they are adults, with the right to lead their own…

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Here’s a quick quiz to help you determine if your family business is  having a negative impact on relationships in your family. FAMILY BUSINESS WORK/LIFE BOUNDARY QUIZ 1=never    2=sometimes    3=often   4=always My personal and business friends are the same people.     ________ Whe…

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Postparenting adult children who feel "entitled."

Chick Lit , broadly defined (by Wikipedia), is a novel of the romance genre  featuring a single, urban, hip, twenty or thirtyish working woman in a glamorous job whose primary concern is finding Mr. Right.  Bridget Jones was the prototype, and her endless variations have led the way to the… Read full post »

Here's how you know you've become a woman of a certain age: The anxiety dream that wakes you up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night isn't the one about oversleeping your SAT's, it's the one about being a bag lady. In my version, I'm trying to…

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"How are the kids?"  It's not always the first question we ask when we get together with old friends, but it usually comes right after "How long has it been?" If it's been a long time, the kids are grown up now,  in their twenties or thirties or even their…

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We're young and strong enough to be a real influence on our grandchildren's lives and help our kids with the most difficult job of theirs. But we cause more harm than good when we take over their role as parents - this infantilizes them, compromises their independence, and undermines ...

Post-Parenthood starts when your kids are old enough to vote and lasts as long as you do.  It’s the final evolution of your role as a parent, and it requires what may be the most difficult task of all: acknowledging that they are adults, with the right to lead their…

Read full post »

Here's a quick quiz to help you determine if your family business is  having a negative impact on relationships in your family. FAMILY BUSINESS WORK/LIFE BOUNDARY QUIZ 1=never    2=sometimes    3=often   4=always My personal and business friends are the same people.     ________ When…

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They're Ba..a..ck! These days many grown kids are coming back to the nest or finding it hard to leave. They may have failed in their initial attempts at independence or fear striking out on their own. With mutual agreement on the terms and conditions for living together and mutual respect…

Read full post »