September 2011, NY AREA workshop for personal coaches, counselors, therapists whose clients have issues dealing with their grown children.

THE NEW GENERATION GAP

Connect with Jane Adams PhD, nationally known post-parent coach, for a one-time private coaching session - one hundred dollars for the most valuable hour of your life.

Worrying too much about your grown kids can be damaging to your relationships, but it's undeniable, given the changed relationship between the generations.

Getting a phone that's smarter than I am is one thing - cutting my landline is a lot harder!

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Worrying too much about your grown kids can be damaging to your relationships, but it's undeniable, given the changed relationship between the generations.

Getting a phone that's smarter than I am is one thing - cutting my landline is a lot harder!

I’ve never been a Luddite, just a laggard, a latecomer  rather than an early adapter to the wonders of the modern age. My first computer was a Kaypro and in the 25 years since then I’ve upgraded to newer models fewer times than Donald Trump changed wives. 

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Connect with Jane Adams PhD, nationally known post-parent coach, for a one-time private coaching session - one hundred dollars for the most valuable hour of your life.

The one who orders the lettuce-leaf salad is the child; the one with the chocolate mousse is the parent.
The one driving the station wagon is the child; the one in the sports car is the parent.
The one buying the training pants is the child; the one buying the little… Read full post »

THE NEW GENERATION GAP

September 2011, NY AREA workshop for personal coaches, counselors, therapists whose clients have issues dealing with their grown children.

The end of a marriage changes both the family and the family business. While your immediate goal may be surviving divorce without losing what you’ve spent years building, it’s equally important to consider how what seems like a private, personal event causes shifts and tremors in so many other ke…

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The blogosphere is buzzing about  “What Is It About  20-Somethings?â€, a widely covered recent New York Times Magazine piece. For their baby boomer parents, the answer to the title query is  reassuringly familiar  – It’s just a stage they’re going through. A new one, brought on by a clus…

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Graduation has come and gone, and the  parents of the Class of 2010  are proud,  broke and glad it’s over. They have agendas they want to get back to, the second half of their lives to invent –  the part where they’re not old yet, just older. Well, don’t get…

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Many family businesses have mission statements that clarify their values, goals and principles. But few have a boundary statement, which is even more important to the operation, profitability, reputation and stakeholder satisfaction of a family-owned enterprise. A boundary statement sets out the line…

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Here’s a quick quiz to help you determine if your family business is  having a negative impact on relationships in your family. FAMILY BUSINESS WORK/LIFE BOUNDARY QUIZ 1=never    2=sometimes    3=often   4=always My personal and business friends are the same people.     ________ Whe…

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Postparenting adult children who feel "entitled."

Here’s how you know you’ve become a woman of a certain age: The anxiety dream that wakes you up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night isn’t the one about oversleeping your SAT’s, it’s the one about being a bag lady. In my version, I’m trying to sneak…

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Parenting college-bound teenagers from senior year on while dealing with changes in marital, personal and family life.

Is going to college without a clear career direction or any goal beyond just graduating worth the cost? How parents can help teenagers identify their strengths, values and interests, assess themselves functionally, and then decide whether going directly to college is the right move.

What Are Boundaries? Mental structures that separate the parts of our minds from each other and also distinguish our minds from other people’s minds. Psychologically as well as physically, they are where I end and you begin. Interpersonal boundaries – the ones between people – are the building…

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We want our kids to love and support one another, but shared family history may not be enough to keep them together, especially if their lives, priorities and values are dissimilar. Often sibling rivalry that lasts into adulthood gets in the way of real connection. While our immediate impulse may be…

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They’re Ba..a..ck! These days many grown kids are coming back to the nest or finding it hard to leave. They may have failed in their initial attempts at independence or fear striking out on their own. With mutual agreement on the terms and conditions for living together and mutual respect…

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