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big fat trauma queen

big fat trauma queen
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November 08
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Defying Gravity
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I, like millions of others, am a refugee from some fairly gruesome childhood happenings. I entered adulthood as a selectively mute, unwashed, suicidal, friendless, uneducated, delusional, and sick-fat (as opposed to healthy-fat) young woman. I have been homeless in the Tenderloin (I am prouder of that than I am of my master's degree), and I have spent years in self-imposed solitary confinement. No more. I have morphed over the years into an irritatingly chipper and hyper-friendly Trauma Queen. If you're having a bad day, don't even look at me; my happy little face will just piss you off. This blog is dedicated to all the other Trauma Queens and Kings out there - we of the shrunken hippocampus and the hair-trigger amygdala. We who, in D.H. Lawrence's words, have "passed through the waters of oblivion." But let's not just pass through. Let's make a TSUNAMI...

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FEBRUARY 4, 2010 9:32PM

Why I Do Drugs

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Yes. I'll admit it. I do drugs. Heavy drugs.

However, I do not take drugs to alter my mind. Actually, if I want to have a mind-altering experience, I have to stop taking drugs.

I am involved in a long-term relationship with big bad Depression, and her sexy little  sister, Mania. These two used to take turns beating, kicking, strangling, stomping, and smothering me. They whispered creepy lies into my ears, and led me blindfolded into oncoming traffic. 

I needed to do something about those girls. They were gonna kill me.

So I put them in chemical restraints. I know, I know - I've heard the arguments -"But you're putting yourself in restraints! You're numbing yourself to who you really are!  You're dimming your inner light! You're crippling yourself! You're enslaving yourself to Big Pharma!"

And you know what? The wrong medications do ALL of that to people and more. Being on the wrong psych meds is often worse than being on no meds at all.  That's what's given psych meds such a bad name.That, and the use (abuse) of meds as if they were a complete form of mental health treatment.

Psych meds are base camp. Mental health is the mountain. You start at base camp, gather up all the support and supplies you need,  then start your climb. 

Please -if you suffer from severe depression, do not try to climb the mountain without food, water, rope, a harness, and the right kind of shoes.  You will hurt yourself.

Natural, holistic approaches to mental health are fabulous. I am a total New Age fruitcake, and I practice many  "alternative" forms of spiritual healing. But telling someone with severe depression to do yoga and meditate is like telling someone with two broken legs to take a ballet class. "Forget those big, clunky, invasive casts! Those'll make your legs sweat and your skin turn pale. You need to stretch yourself, learn to do a plie', a round de jambra, a fondu! The health benefits will be amazing. You'll see."

But, you know - it's hard to stretch your leg on the barre with a broken fibia protruding through your torn and bleeding skin. I'm just saying.

I'm writing this because a friend of mine - also on meds - was recently told that if she believed more deeply in God, she would not need to take psych meds. She was also told that her meds were a "spiritual crutch." 

This breaks my heart. Spirituality and medical care should not be treated as mutually exclusive.  Can we take insulin and be spiritual? Can we take  blood pressure medication and be spiritual? Can we get chemotherapy and be spiritual? Can we take vitamins and be spiritual? Who decides?

Mental Illness is extremely painful and extremely mysterious. No one, under any circumstances, should feel obligated to endure such confusion and pain because what works for them is not deemed "spiritually correct."

Psychiatry is far from perfect. We humans are still pretty stupid when it comes to the brain. But  the right psych meds given to the right person can free a human soul from the prison of mental illness.

And if that's not spiritual, what is? 

 

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Psychotropic meds, taken properly, have saved many lives. There are really no absolutes here. Anyone who says "no meds needed if you do this" can only at best be describing what worked for them. Hang in there.
Thank you Trauma Queen. This was a fantastic post that many people need to hear. Taking psych meds IS the same thing as taking insulin, wearing glasses, or having a pacemaker.

Is a pacemaker spiritual? No one would ever ask that.
Anyone who hasn't been tossed and pulled in opposing directions by the thunders and blizzards of depression can suggest getting over it by 'being spiritual'. Only those who've been there know what an insidious illness it can be. If spirituality could heal everything, why did millions line up for H1N1 flu shots? Do what works for you. This is a very sincere and powerful piece.
R
*applause* Better living through chemistry! I love your base camp/mountain metaphor. Applies to me exactly.

Kudos to you for taking on the monster and tackling it. :)
Common sense mixed with a loving attitude makes for a great post, BFTQ.
I'm still reading you...........................and glad I am

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Your message here is so important, and I like how you've presented it in a well-written package. I don't know why the majority of the population still considers mental health as being separate from physical health. No one would dare suggest that a diabetic wasn't spiritual enough. Good for you for speaking out against the ridiculousness.
If people feel they need medication, they should take it. What's interesting is the spiritual aspect here...it all looks like Religion to me...from the DSM-IV to Big Pharma. xox
I applaud you, not only for writing with such brilliant honesty about your personal mental health but for taking the medications that help you to function and think in a lucid and coherent way.

The human brain is the greatest mystery of all, and the most important organ of the body. What is the point of keeping the rest healthy if the brain isn't? And why is it considered an insult if someone says "it's all in your head?" Of course it is, we are our heads!
well said. untreated mental illness can ravage the spirit of the strongest and most faithful, to even suggest they deny themselves relief from that torture is cruel.
I absolutely could not agree with you more and share your outrage and concern. If one more person utters that drivel to me, I don't know if I can be responsible for my actions. I know many, many people, including me, who have benefited from appropriate medication (as hard as it is to find by often painful trial and error) and have learned to say this when people spew that ignorant crap to me: "If I had diabetes, would you tell me not to take insulin? If all the other stuff you're mentioned worked, do you think I would still be taking medication?" I have stopped more than once under this kind of pressure and always, always regretted it. Now, I will do what works for me and if someone wants to judge me for it who does not actually understand my situation, I will give them the respect that their attitude deserves, which is none.
Rated. I love your bio as well. :)
"But telling someone with severe depression to do yoga and meditate is like telling someone with two broken legs to take a ballet class."

Absolutely brilliant, and too, too true. Well said, on all counts!
Wonderful, thought-provoking post, love the drew-me-in-title! R
Strong and true post. An issue close to my heart for so many reasons...

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"I'm writing this because a friend of mine - also on meds - was recently told that if she believed more deeply in God, she would not need to take psych meds. She was also told that her meds were a "spiritual crutch.""

This reminds me of what I have heard time and time again in the halls of AA, where people want to pretend they know the answers to many complex questions, when they only know the answer to what works for them. I am sorry your friend is going through that and I honor why you wrote this post.

That being said, I know for me, I was given some medications inappropriately. I was not given all of my options nor was I told how it could affect my brain chemistry. It had the effect of prohibiting repressed memories from coming forward sooner, which I was able to see in EMDR therapy. Of course, I can not scientifically prove this, so I have no "grounds" to stand on. However, I can not tell you the pain and suffering I could have foregone for myself and my daughter had I been given the option of knowing some of these effects.

Retrospect is an amazing thing. I don't think they do know many answers to the brain, as you've stated, so I know now that without the long-term studies, they don't really know what they are doing to us. I found out the hard way. I am still not anti-drugs, but I am pro-options. Unfortunately, I don't think this option will ever be explained due to the $ it might forgo Big Pharma. It's a big catch-22. Thanks for letting me share my experience.
So well written and every word is true. I am a member "spitiual group" and meet every Tuesdsay, but would never use this as a substitute for my daily five pill "cocktail."
Once properly adjusted, psych medications are life savers.
Thanks for a great post.
A very smart post. And close to my heart. _r
Don't get me started on this spiritual crap. Either a disease has a cure/treatment or it does not. If it works, one should take any drug, especially if the drug is not PC. Amen! I agree.

Well done, rated.
What's that old saying...something about a mile in my shoes.
If meds work for you rock on! I wasn't a big fan of the zombie effect for myself bc I felt like I went from feeling overload to...what's a feeling? I didn't have the patience to find meds that worked bc I have so many allergies to pills in the first place. So everyday I have to do that talk yourself out of bed and into a routine bit...it sucks some mornings because I just don't have the pep squad inside and during the day you have to talk down the crazy woman inside that wants to bring out the black cloud from inside of everyone and everything she comes across...it's like having a FT job when you deal with depression!
There is a time and a place for everything, just as there is a season for everything under the sun. There is a time and a place to hold your tongue, and there exists a season when meds are necessary. 'Nuff said, yes?
This is such a HUGE subject and you wrote about it so well.
I've been diagnosed and undiagnosed a few times. My recent doctor told me that I wasn't manic and just had a particular kind of brain. I've never not slept or done anything really wacky and I think she is right. I'm surviving on just depression meds.
I've gotten to the point where I think society should just celebrate depressives or manics or whatever. I think calling it an "illness" is passe. It is too obvious that some our best and brightest are struggling with life . Medicine should be doled out freely and without stigma. Diabetes has always been my favorite analogy too.
Awesome post!! I can totally identify with this. I've taken something for depression and anxiety for years.
I am glad you found the right combination to feel good. People who know "all" usually know nothing. Glad you don't listen!
I'm so delighted to have found you. Your writing crackles with energy, full to the brim with the kind of wisdom wrung from falling, falling, falling down steep, dark bottomless places. I recognize you. Namaste. (don't use that routinely here, but it fits)
Thank you! Meds have saved my life too. You're metaphor for meds being base camp is great, and just the way it is. I'm making my way up, but couldn't do it without them.

it was a good day to read this. i've been on meds again for a year and i was beating myself up for it. i lost sight of the fact that meds are an assist, not a crutch. :)

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