BIG FAT TRAUMA QUEEN
big fat trauma queen
- Location
- Undercover in the Bay Area, California, U.S.A.
- Birthday
- November 08
- Title
- Defying Gravity
- Company
- Wicked
- Bio
- I, like millions of others, am a refugee from some fairly gruesome childhood happenings. I entered adulthood as a selectively mute, unwashed, suicidal, friendless, uneducated, delusional, and sick-fat (as opposed to healthy-fat) young woman. I have been homeless in the Tenderloin (I am prouder of that than I am of my master's degree), and I have spent years in self-imposed solitary confinement. No more. I have morphed over the years into an irritatingly chipper and hyper-friendly Trauma Queen. If you're having a bad day, don't even look at me; my happy little face will just piss you off.
This blog is dedicated to all the other Trauma Queens and Kings out there - we of the shrunken hippocampus and the hair-trigger amygdala. We who, in D.H. Lawrence's words, have "passed through the waters of oblivion." But let's not just pass through. Let's make a TSUNAMI...
MY RECENT POSTS
- My Homeless Neighbors
March 29, 2011 09:40PM - I Wrote A Book
March 20, 2011 02:47PM - There's A Girl On The Moon!
May 04, 2010 02:05PM - Is Sex Cost-Effective?
April 14, 2010 09:03PM - Let's Hear It For Male
Liberation!
April 06, 2010 02:15PM
MY RECENT COMMENTS
- “THANK
YOU!!!!!
I am soooo
going to purchase Ms.
Badinter's book.
I'm
a single mom w…”
June 07, 2010 04:04PM - “Thank You, Lady
Miko!
My daughter glories
in her precious beautiful
body. She has…”
May 09, 2010 08:04PM - “I don't even know how to
comment on this. I am so angry
at
your son, I'd like
to…”
April 26, 2010 11:43AM - “Hooray! The new blog
post title suits you so much
better!
Tanya's belly
is GORGEOU…”
April 20, 2010 01:19PM - “Your post has stunned me
- in a good way.
I don;t
have one damn thing to say -
jus…”
April 18, 2010 09:12PM
Big fat trauma queen's Links
- New list
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Take The Victim Out Of The Vagina.....
Take the Victim out of the Vagina.
Let it be a hungry drooling Beast
that sucks men in and spits men out
with a smile.
Let it creep and prowl the alleyways
for unsuspecting penises, tender… Read full post »
My Failed Career in Fast Food Compassion
Working in social services because you love to help people is like working at MacDonalds because you love to cook: it is torturously frustrating.
I'm sure there are wonderful, trauma-informed, client-centered social service agencies out there. I've just never had the privilege of working for one of t… Read full post »
A Trauma Queen's View Of "The Trauma Myth".
First, a Disclaimer: I have not read Dr. Susan Clancy's new book, "The Trauma Myth." I have merely read an interview with her in Closed Salon.
The premise of her book is that the mental health profession has greatly exaggerated the negative impact of sexual abuse on children. She claims that… Read full post »
Who Am I If Nobody Needs Me?
My daughter is ten. She is becoming more independent every day. I have to let her keep growing away from me. To do otherwise would be abuse of the worst kind. But, oh - is it hard.
My daughter’s birth was like a bridge that sprung up between me and the
…
When Money Costs Too Much
I never expected to have a lot of money. I never even expected to have enough money. And I've always been fine with that. Still am.
From an early age, based purely on observation, I determined that money was great to have as long as it didn't cost too much.… Read full post »
Blogging For Myself
I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I started this blog a few days ago purely as a source of external validation.
I am currently between jobs; I am experiencing the first adolescent push-aways from my only child; I am setting new boundaries (which has cost me my Miss Congeniality crown);… Read full post »
On Being A Mother Without A Family
I lost my family when I was four years old. I lost them with the touch of a hand. The hand of the Family Hero. He touched me in ways that sent me into permanent exile. I knew without being told that They would choose Him over me. I… Read full post »
I'm The Weirdest Mom in the Class
I am - I'm sure I am. All the other moms seem so much more normal than I.
It took me years to get over wanting to be normal. I spent thousands of dollars and thousands of hours on therapy, desperately pursuing the Holy Grail of normalcy. Then one day… Read full post »
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