A feminist tenet is that rape is about power. Inserting an unwelcome penis into a woman or man is a declaration of dominance. Dominance is the aphrodisiac. It is the reason the penis fills with blood.
Likewise, an excited tongue fills with blood when a person is at the point of gossip. The tongue is used to insert one's self, albeit indirectly, into another person's life. Gossip is never about a person's preference for Classic Coke versus New Coke, just as rape is never about stroking a person's thumbnail. As rape is about intimate sectors, gossip is always about intimate information. Like rape, gossip is generally undertaken in secluded places, removed from the light of public scrutiny.
Both rape and gossip merely seem to be about sex and both rape and gossip have a contagious effect. A raped woman makes most local women afraid. That rape is a warning to women to stay indoors and under the protection of men, lest they be wayward and raped. Likewise, when a group of people gossips about a person, it is a warning to all listening ears to not stray from the conformity of the group, lest the wayward one also be subjected to gossip.
If you think I'm trivializing rape by analogizing it to gossip, then consider this: I've asked various raped women about the subsequent gossip and they all asserted the same: "It felt like I was raped a second time."
Sarah Silverman recently said that she wished she had the power to rape. She wouldn't, she asserted, but she wants to know how it feels. She doesn't have a penis, but she has a tongue, which is also an appendage capable of penetration into a person's private places. So, she knows.