We all use each other.  I wish it were otherwise, but our self-centeredness is immutable.  What we should aspire to control in our relationships is our awareness of the mutual using and balance that using.  Consider Open Salon. 

Salon has cut writers.  Salon r… Read full post »

A feminist tenet is that rape is about power.  Inserting an unwelcome penis into a woman or man is a declaration of dominance.  Dominance is the aphrodisiac.  It is the reason the penis fills with blood.

Likewise, an excited tongue fills with blood when a person is at th… Read full post »