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DECEMBER 18, 2009 9:39PM

Friends w/ Benefits Could & Should Replace Sex Work

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If men didn't use hookers, strippers, or escorts, the business wouldn't exist.  If women rejected those professions, they wouldn't exist.  Yet they thrive alongside the culture of friends with benefits, no strings attached sex, and women who seek rich boyfriends.  So, I ask all genders to shift away from the buying and selling of sex, to the gray areas of trading affection, gifts, and slices of your precious time for sex.

Men, have you considered seeking a 'friend with benefits' ?  It takes effort to post a personal ad, but with the time and money spent on an evening of whoring, you could meet an amateur.  After several such evenings, your bound to find someone who wants to fuck regularly, and you might actually enjoy their company.  Casual ongoing sexual relationships with one or two women will be cheaper than visiting hookers.  Yes, you might have to buy them dinner, spring for the occasional abortion, and if you are in a position to, help them out financially, but even so, you will save money.  You can't get arrested for having free sex with women, and you wouldn't support a shady escort service run by a pimp.  Post on craigslist personals, email a couple of girls, and go on from there.

Women, consider this: If you are attractive, need money, and considering sex work, is that crazy of an idea to find a rich boyfriend?  Not all of them are assholes, and as long as you don't let them take dirty photos of you, your reputation will not be damaged.  Not to mention the fact that this is not illegal.  Of course, you might have to date someone old and ugly, who doesn't want to be only with you, but surely one ugly old man is better than a parade of them, and so much the better if you actually like each other.  (Not romantically, but as people.)  Look on craigslist, there are plenty of older men who want to 'pamper' young women.  Screen those guys before you become a hooker, please?

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How does dating someone for money differ from prostitution?
Hey, Natalie, wanna be my FWB? I'll let you have a bite out of my cheeseburger.
Morally, it doesn't, but legally it does. And you get to choose the man, and avoid a pimp/madam. I'm not saying its savory, I'm just saying it better than what we're doing as a society now.
Harry, there are already so many benefits to being your friend, wouldn't it be greedy of me to want sex too? I'll take that bite though ;)
I don't think you're going to convince too many women with this argument. Personally, if I were in such desperate straits, financially, I'd rather be a prostitute than have a sugar daddy. As a prostitute, I'd still be free to have meaningful, pleasurable sex with someone I loved. A woman with a sugar daddy has to commit to monogamy with someone who means nothing to her.
You guys are all correct. Obviously, it's a personal choice. My idea just seems less gross to me.
you discovered the secret, its all a gray area. shades of gray. theres many interesting books written by escorts. some talk about "gfe", girlfriend experience.... also a movie of that title... similar concepts
Friends with benefits varies from couple to couple. I've had wham bam thank you ma'am FWB, I've had friends with benefits who I really cared for (monetarily and otherwise), and I've been on the receiving end of friends with many benefits. In one case, I had money to burn, and the poor guy lived of Mt. Dew and ramen, and in the other case, I was too poor to ever go out, so my 'date' would pay. We were all up front, open, and yeah, I guess I'm a hooker and a john by your definitions, but it's still better than being a call girl.

You guys seem to think that there is only one kind of appropriate NSA relationship. I maintain that my idea is better than prostitution, even if it is.

I mean, really, have you guys never accepted a gift from a lover?
For what it's worth, perhaps what is a good plan for one person isn't for someone else. I could see it working if it didn't hurt anybody and all were in agreement. I once considered such a possibility and in the end rejected it, but I did have to give it some serious thought.