California, USA
December 31
Who am I? I haven't exactly figured that out yet. Adjectives: middle aged, married, motherly, agnostic, suburban, movie, theater and book-loving, lefty (in both senses), introverted, curious, philosophical, emotionally cautious. I will confess that the birthdate shown here is a lie - I am annoyed at being forced by the edit account screen to state one, so am rebelling.


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OCTOBER 2, 2013 7:18PM

Fictional Men I Have Loved

In the order in which I encountered them: 


  1. Easy Reader, played by Morgan Freeman on The Electric Company.  I would have been seven or eight years old at the time.  This was my first
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OCTOBER 1, 2013 10:51PM

Korean Drama is Awesome

About two months ago, I stumbled on a Korean drama called "Scent of A Woman" on Netflix.  I've been obsessed by kdrama ever since.  The rest of my Netflix list is languishing while I dive into Korean melodramas, crime shows, and romantic comedies.  I can't remember the last time I watc… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 25, 2013 7:54AM

My Daughter Used to Love Me

I know my daughter loved me once upon a time.  I have a picture of us together when she was about four.  We are standing side by side in the kitchen, dyeing Easter eggs.  I am looking down at her smiling, and she is looking up at me with a look… Read full post »

When I was little, I looked at the adults around me and thought that they all knew what they were doing.  They all seemed self assured, free of doubt, confident, authoritative.  I assumed that I, in due course, would join the ranks of the people who had it all figured out.… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 18, 2011 5:48PM

How do people make friends?

I'm going to admit something that I'm ashamed of:  I have no friends.  It's a secret that I don't reveal to people in my real world life, because it is so pitiful.  Even the most unpleasant, dorky, boring people I know have friends.  How is it that I do not?

 Some… Read full post »

DECEMBER 15, 2010 6:18AM

My mom is a bigot

I have a complicated and difficult relationship with my mother.  Who doesn't?  She lives in Canada, and I only see her every few years.  She was here visiting recently, and things seemed to be going well.  We were chatting nicely, and the conversation turned to why I quit my last… Read full post »

DECEMBER 13, 2010 7:41PM

What is the most important virtue?

My daughter has been taking a high school ethics class, and recently showed me a class assignment in which the students were asked to rank the importance of various virtues.  I don't remember all of them, but these are some:

 fairness, honesty, integrity, citizenship, kindness, bravery, loy… Read full post »

I have never believed in Santa Claus.  Not when I was two years old, or 12.  From earliest childhood, my parents told me that Santa Claus was pretend, not real.  

 Some people are shocked when I tell them that I have always known Santa Claus is mythical.  They pity me,… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 28, 2010 8:04AM

Lesser known movies I like

Yesterday I posted really bad things I secretly like.  Today I am going to list some movies I think are really good, but they are ones that many people haven't seen.  Of course I love all the great standard ones like The Godfather, but everyone already knows about them. These are… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 26, 2010 8:01PM

Things I am embarrassed to admit I enjoy

I assume that most people, like me, secretly enjoy things they would be embarrassed to publicly discuss.  These are some of mine:

 1.  Barry Manilow.  I know he is cheesy and overdramatic.  I realize that he puts three key changes in each song.  Yes, his hair is awesomel… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 26, 2010 5:19PM

Fat Prejudice Sucks!

 Today I read an essay on Open Salon about Thanksgiving, written by a woman who casually ridiculed her stepmother's rolls of disgusting fat and mocked her overly fatty Thanksgiving cooking (implying that the stepmother's obesity was due to her gluttony, not a health problem).  The scorn and… Read full post »

AUGUST 23, 2010 2:06PM

Someone was kind to me

When my daughter was about two years old, I enrolled her in swimming class.  She was difficult then, at least for me.  I am not the natural mother type - none of it comes easily to me.  I find myself easily irritated by small children, short on patience, readily bored by… Read full post »

AUGUST 20, 2010 2:21PM

Christianity does not equal morality

Today I was reading an advice column, and ran across a common statement that is increasingly irritating to me.  A man stated that he was a Christian with good morals.  

 I do not deny that many Christians are also morally upstanding people.  The part that annoys me is the common… Read full post »

AUGUST 11, 2010 1:48PM

Why I changed my name when I married

Today's Salon article about Portia de Rossi changing her last name to De Generes started me thinking about why I changed mine when I married.  I was only 20 at the time, many years ago, so I didn't think about it deeply as it related to feminism.  The main reason, I… Read full post »

JUNE 11, 2010 9:57PM

I Miss Conservatives

When I was a child, the American political system had a certain graceful balance.  The Democratic liberals were like a stereotypical mom - warm, caring, making sure everyone was taken care of, telling us all to share and look out for one another, making sure we had individual freedom and that… Read full post »

APRIL 22, 2010 10:52PM

The hairy actress

I was watching the Jonathan Ross talk show on BBC last week, and saw him interview the actress Christina Ricci.  She is a beautiful, delicate, glamorous and very feminine woman.  During the conversation, she was asked to do a cartwheel, and declined to do so because she had grown underarm h… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 17, 2010 5:48PM

Retarded, fat, crippled, poor, gay, old

I am interested in the current brouhaha about the word "retarded".  Sarah Palin rightly protested against Rahm Emmanuel's insulting use of the word as a synonym for people he regards as stupid.  It seems to me that the issue is the same one that arises with other words, like fat, crippled,… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 17, 2009 10:29PM

Jon Stewart is the sexiest man living 2009


The sexiest man living?  In past years I would have gone for Johnny Depp or John Cusack, but this year I think it's Jon Stewart.  (Why are they all named some variation of John?)

Jon Stewart is good looking, but that's the least of it.  The world is full of… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 17, 2009 4:27PM

Sarah Palin's Newsweek cheesecake photo

 Sarah Palin

Today Sarah Palin complained because Newsweek put this picture of her on the cover of their magazine.  The picture was originally taken for an article about running in Runners World. 

Sarah Palin has never been shy about hammy flirting and displaying her figure in tight… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 13, 2009 3:18PM

Forced Pregnancy is Slavery

I have been pregnant once.  I intended to become pregnant, but was still shocked and kind of frightened when I found out that I had succeeded.  And, in fact, it turned out to be a rather difficult pregnancy.  There were a lot of unpleasant side effects like nausea, vomiting, bloat… Read full post »

AUGUST 23, 2009 1:19AM

District 9 edges out Julia Child

I utterly love the moment just before a movie begins.  The lights are down, the commercials are over, an expectant hush (ideally) falls across the audience, and the studio's roaring lion or statue of Columbia or whatever flashes onto the screen.  My favorite opener of all is the Fox one, wi… Read full post »