Tomorrow, the Supreme Court in San Francisco will hear oral arguments regarding the legality of Proposition 8, a constitutional amendment which bars the state from recognizing gay marriages.

That is why I will be at the vigil tonight at Embarcadero and El Camino. My marriage is my responsibility and now I know that I cannot trust my community to recognize it. If anyone's marriage can be annulled by a bureaucrat in some office, then no one's marriage is "safe". If I cannot choose my partner before witnesses, and know that this choice will be respected even if I'm incapacitated, then my marriage is not safe.

If the court can just decide that I've picked the wrong partner, over my objections, then my marriage is not safe.

I think this is lost on the people who defend the sanctity of marriage, as they go gunning for actual marriages. Or maybe it isn't. Read carefully the last sentence of this blog from The National Review...

"And under the modern regime of unilateral at-will no-fault divorce laws, it’s highly dubious that there is such a thing as a marriage “contract”."

Sure, blame "the modern regime", and not the fact that it's just hard to be married. I cannot imagine how much harder it is when total strangers sic the court on you. I'm proud to say that I'm not just into family values over valuing families.