BuffyW's Blog

The present, where my past and future collide.
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SEPTEMBER 25, 2009 11:55AM

When Your Father and Son are Considerate of your Feelings.

 

 

I have only three men in my life, and one died nearly a month ago.  The other two are a tale of things opposite, yet ending up the same, if only for a few days.

 

Back near the end of April my son confessed to us he wasRead full post »

Don’t sleep with people you see on TV if you never want to see them again.

It’s no secret I have had some sex....okay, lots of sex.  But having good sex, in my opinion, takes years of practice.  (Smile.)  A great deal of practice. (Bigger smile.)  It is a good… Read full post »

With the OS meet-up in Vegas looming, I find myself longing for the old, careless ways of my past.  Yes, I have been guilty of the Seven Deadly Sins in my past, but most of them I have grown out of over the years.  However there is one thing threatening me,… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 22, 2009 11:15AM

SEX--When is it appropriate for a widow?

 

The longing for sex

means I am still very much here

even though you aren't.

 

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Do you get enough?  Sex I mean... I know I don’t.  Of course there might be a good reason I don’t.  I’m just having trouble thinking what it is.  Hah-hah...… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 5, 2009 11:18AM

Grieving, I Choose to Make it About Living.

 

 He fades

 

 

To ignore things you have to be heavy into denial.  If you are spending that much time and effort to deny something, then you are going to miss the point.  There is no time for denial, only acceptance.  For when we accept that the choice is ours,Read full post »

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AUGUST 29, 2009 12:39AM

My World Would be Emptier Without Each of You...

I know I have been somewhat optimistic here, and metaphorical...but dying is difficult enough without sharing every detail.  I shared what I could at the time.

I have so many things I want to say now and share with you, but I need time.  I don't think it is quite real for… Read full post »

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MAY 29, 2009 12:17PM

Mixed drinks, a drunk chick and school.

It all began last year when I was writing a series chronicling 30 years of my life, beginning at the age of 10.  When I got to the early 60’s I began to think of my childhood friend Kathy.  She and I had been thick as thieves, almost from the day… Read full post »

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NOVEMBER 24, 2009 11:41AM

What Being Single Really Means.

 

Sunday I got hungry.  I was all showered and dressed and it was 12:15.  I decided I would drive to Ventura to poke around and discover a restaurant I hadn't eaten in before.  It felt like a good time to call my friend Brett and  be spontaneous...asking him to joinRead full post »

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APRIL 22, 2009 12:25PM

My soap opera life, from dream to reality.

                             Hourglass   

When I was pregnant with my son my mother and I had a ritual at lunchtime;  we would make ourselves lunch and sit down in front of the television to watch the s… Read full post »

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MARCH 19, 2009 4:22PM

A loss of innocence.

 

                             Sheila+family+portrait

"You and I are going for a drive."  Mother said in her matter-of-no-choice tone.  Ironically the place she chose, the beach parking lot, was the exact place I had gottRead full post »

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JULY 6, 2009 1:42PM

The Heartbreak of Adoption Gone Wrong.

 

All we wanted was to begin a family, our own family.  Due to my husband’s disease and the probability of passing it on, we thought adoption was the best way to go.  We thought there are so many children without homes, surely we could find one to come into ourRead full post »

                   Cards  

I took a job as a waitress many times in my life, it was not hard to find a job in the mid 70’s.  Not all waitress jobs were memorable, but the time I spent at the King’s X was special.&nbsRead full post »

In the late 70’s I got a call from my old hunting buddy, Sully.

"Hey Pee-wee, you know I have a Safari camp in Australia, Nimrod Safaris?"

"Sure, why?"

"I know you are a writer and I'd love to have you write up some brochures for it.  AreRead full post »

 

                           Me in 1975

                                          Me taken in 1974 in Los Angeles&… Read full post »

Friday was the heralding of a brand new day, while I can freely admit (and I would imagine a few others felt the same way) I needed one... after last night.  It also was bringing some other OS’ers to town.  Let the mixing begin!

 

But First...can you guess the ownersRead full post »

MARCH 30, 2009 12:57PM

I kissed a frog and I liked it.

 

 

                           Kiss  

 In fact, I have kissed hundreds of frogs and I would do it again in a hot minute, given another opportunity.  A frog by any other name is still a frog,… Read full post »

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JULY 9, 2009 2:14PM

"America Tonight"-The Precursor of Outrageous TV

 

 

Does anyone remember the tv show from the 70's, "Fernwood Tonight", later known as "America Tonight"? It was co-hosted by Martin Mull and Fred Willard.

  

 

 

“Fernwood Tonight”, began as the summer replacement for the show, “Mary Hartman,Read full post »

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SEPTEMBER 16, 2009 12:47PM

The Class of '69...The Real 90210 High School Reunion.

 

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When people say “truth is stranger than fiction”...well, they know it to be true.  I now add my voice to the mix.

 

I realize I haven’t written in a week or so, at least for public consumption.  Sometimes it takes a few days to be able to filRead full post »

APRIL 6, 2009 5:32PM

A Loss of innocence-Part Six

 

I walked past Candy slowly.  Never mind her impatience with me, at least this walk would be at my own pace.  My suitcase wasn’t heavy.  I mean how heavy could a bikini, pajamas, Cuddles (my stuffed animal), a small bag of make up and toiletries and a couple of wigsRead full post »

JUNE 3, 2009 12:18PM

Oh we knew we couldn't dance!

Some of us were born to dance.  Some of us were briefly led to believe we could be dancers, once we grew up.

We were a ragtag group of children, girls whose mothers (no doubt) believed their daughter was going to be the newest child prodigy admitted to the American Ballet… Read full post »

MARCH 28, 2009 12:46PM

A Loss of innocence-Part Four

 

                          Hooker

I reasoned the only way I could continue to pay rent and eat would be to get a job as a cocktail waitress. If I was going to be in bars every night, might as well get… Read full post »

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During the time I lived in Oakland, I began a long distance relationship with a man from Los Angeles, a comedian and sometimes actor.  You may even have seen him on “Ozzie and Harriet”.  AnywRead full post »

Children as young as three are using computers these days; some even have their own I’m told.  It has not been long since some of us began to wade into the “puter waters”, and the older we are (I tell you first-hand) when we began, the less chance it was pretty. Read full post »

 

The following year, over Fourth of July weekend, my youngest brother, Brian, committed suicide at my parent’s home when they were away.  They came home on July 6th to find his lifeless body in the bathroom. He was just 30, and left behind a daughter five years old, Brandy.

Brian+1983&n/… Read full post »

The red tail hawk circled the ground effortlessly at eye level.  Once the circle was at his closest point to me his eye caught mine briefly, his wings tipping ever so slightly in an elegant, graceful acknowledgement of shared space.

It is but mere a moment in time, yet one… Read full post »