So, the inevitable day approaches, the one day each year when I grasp the relationship bull by the horns and disappoint my lovely wife once again.

It's not that I'm not romantic, that I don't want to make it a special day for her yada yada (not that kind of yada yada mind you). it's just that I usually feel like the day (or night)  ends up being a huge let down.

Most of this has nothing to do with how she feels, and everything to do with my own feelings. Therapists would say I'm projecting my own feelings of inadequacy, but I think that truly oversimplifies the depth of my situation. I mean come on, I've already read posts about what to get or not get for your beloved right here on OS. OH the Pressure!!

The pressure seems to cause a sort of inertia, an inactivity that inevitably leads to last minute visits to the grocery store for flowers (at least I live near a trader joes) and some store bought Valentine's card that really can't come close to summarizing how GOD DAMN lucky I am to get to spend inordinate amounts of time with this person. This pressure is further exacerbated by the fact that I work at a restaurant, meaning that I'll work on Valentine's day and I'll be beat tired when my shift ends, and all the stores will be closed. So I have to act soon, or all will be lost, I'll end up wallowing in a vat of Valentine's shame. Waiting for my Mom to ask "what did you get her for Valentine's" and answering "Mom, Valentine's is a holiday made up by Hallmark and Cadbury to help sell cards and chocolates in an otherwise slow season"

So, the question persists, What to do? I'm not feeling quite so inert today, so I'm open to suggestions.