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Caitlin Kelly

Caitlin Kelly
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caitlinkelly.com malledthebook.com Author "Malled: My Unintentional Career in Retail" (Portfolio, April 2011), deemed "an excellent memoir" by Entertainment Weekly. Out in paperback July 31, 2012. I also edit other writers' work -- everything from thrillers to business books. Email me for hourly rates; references available.

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OCTOBER 23, 2011 3:36PM

The Case For Courage

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I think courage is, these days, an under-rated quality.

People who encourage us aren't merely hissing "Great job!" for every breath we take.

When we truly need to find our inner strength, we need someone to encourage us -- to breathe some of that holy fire into our shaky lungs.

We think of the courageous as those fighting in war (they are) or those facing very bad diagnoses or anyone stepping off the cliff of the known and familiar and secure.

A courageous woman is someone who, however reluctantly, her vows shattered by years of abuse or neglect, leaves a terrible marriage, maybe with nothing ahead but weeks or months on a relative's sofa or a homeless shelter or a women's shelter. A courageous man decides to marry after years of bachelor freedom, aware of his new responsibility to his bride, her family and to himself.

A courageous teenager steps up when s/he sees someone being bullied and, whenever possible, puts an end to it.

A courageous teacher sees the pilot light of potential in a struggling, sullen or silent child.  A courageous politician is willing to take a stand, take a hit, take a fall for making the right choices, not simply the easiest or those guaranteed to win media attention or large donations.

I am hungry to learn more about men and women of courage. I am weary of a culture that far too often celebrates, rewards and deifies cowardice and greed.

Here's a lovely post by Canadian blogger Josh Bowman about a fellow Canadian who inspired him as a teenager, and who still does. In it, he talks about Craig Kielburger, who at the age of 12 decided to create an international campaign to end the use of child labor.

He didn't do it to burnish his resume or to get into the right college; (Canadian universities don't use essays anyway, just good grades, to decide whom to admit.) He did it out of a blazing sense of compassion. He makes me proud to be a Canadian.

So does this little girl, who I've also blogged about, Alaina Podmorow, who did the same for girls when she, too was very young. She still is!

In 1957, the late President John F. Kennedy won the Pulitzer prize for his book, Profiles in Courage, about political leaders he admired. I was thrilled when three women recently won the Nobel Peace Prize:

The 10 million kronor ($1.5 million) award was split three ways between Liberian President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, peace activist Leyma Gbowee from the same African country and democracy activist Tawakkul Karman of Yemen — the first Arab woman to win the prize.

Role models!

I hate the overused word "hero". I dislike its bombastic pomposity. I doubt many of us want to be, or feel we are, heroes.

But we can all, every single day, be courageous.

Who do you look to as examples of courage?

Here's a video of a wonderful song by Greg Greenway that sums it up, "Do What Must Be Done."

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Courage - is an important trait for every generation. Who had it, and who didn't. If our thinking is good - acts of courage yeild great dividends - courage tempered by thought, honed by guidence, and executed with the benifit of experience - is almost never recognized, but happens every day-

Thank you for posting this - !
worth thinking about.

it would be nice if courage were less necessary, and better rewarded, but it's an imperfect world.
Courage is a worrisome concept, and one that can have unanticipated consequences. I once wrote on here about doing something that might have been called courageous, but how I was troubled by the outcome (not to me, to the other person involved). Think it got more comments and responses, across the spectrum, than anything else I've done.
My grandmother was my example for courage. She was raised the middle of 9 on a Midwestern farm, and left at her earliest opportunity to have a life in the city. She was a free spirit who knew no strangers.

Grandma had 6 husbands, 4 of whom she buried. The other two were bums and one of those used her for a punching bag. She had a hysterectomy at 18 years of age, and adopted my mother, her only child. She watched her first husband die of peritonitis as penicillin hadn't been found yet. Three husbands died of cancer, as did she. Through it all she never lost her faith or her love for people. A very classy lady in every sense.

I hold her as my ideal.
As you pointed out, courage is relative. There are some courageous that we celebrate and others that we should.
Beautiful message
rated with love
Phyllis, you're fortunate to know someone so incredible within your own family. I admire some of my relatives, but none (that I am aware of) faced such difficulty with such grace. Thanks for sharing!

RP, thanks!
Sometimes the most courageous people of all are simply the Ms/Mr. Jane/John Doe who “keep on keeping on” day after day in a world that seems never to give them a break or allow them an advantage. Those are my “heroes."
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SP, I agree. I wish we knew more about them.
We see courage every day, but to your point, seldom celebrate it.

Nice write.
Good one! I don't like the overused and diluted word - hero - either. I love your examples of courage - they are a reminder of what we should see and hear about more often - but usually don't. I wish I could think of people that I'd assign the word - courageous too - or people that I know - but other than some personal examples, I'm coming up a bit blank. Sometimes I think writing, sharing our own thoughts, and knowing others will read them, and maybe find much to criticize - is a kind of courage. Hoping - maybe reaching for your dreams, expecting or hoping to avoid rejection - that's another kind of courage. Maybe the quiet, personal kind.
JD and Kate, thanks.

It certainly takes courage to create and try to sell that work into the commercial marketplace, and to separate your ego from your output.
I always look to the dogs I've rescued. No matter how many homes or shelters they've been shuffled in and out of, no matter how much their health has been neglected, to the point of great pain, how matter how much they've been ignored or mistreated, they always wake up every day with hope. Their willingness to please you, to open their heart and love you, to embrace the moment, to be happy and thankful for a warm place to sleep, a treat, and a ride in the car, always puts life into perspective for me.
Jan, what a lovely example. Thanks for sharing this.
wonderful essay! thanks
A good theme, refreshingly "plain" (in the best way) rather than trendy. Ugh, trendy. I am so sick of trendy.

At the risk of saying what has been said a million times already but still bears repeating, I think: Courage isn't about being fearless, it's about facing fear head on, dealing with it, coping with it, wrestling with it, perhaps even living with it every single day.