Cary Tennis After Hours

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Cary Tennis

Cary Tennis
Location
San Francisco, California, USA
Birthday
September 11
Title
Since You Asked advice columnist
Company
Salon.com
Bio
Cary Tennis writes the Since You Asked advice column for Salon.com. He also leads writing workshops and runs a small publishing company. He lives in the Outer Sunset/Ocean Beach neighborhood of San Francisco with his wife Norma, who is a painter and book designer, and their two standard poodles, Lola and Ricky.

APRIL 20, 2010 5:51PM

Time to do a public reading, already, finally, sheesh ...

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Well, I'm slowly coming around, and my friends at the Portuguese ARtists Colony said Hey, why not come down and read at our show, but I didn't know if I'd be starting my proton beam radiation therapy down there in Southern California at Loma Linda University Hospital yet, so I said don't put me on the poster, but if I can limp on down there, I'll put in an appearance, so yeah, I'll come down there to the Five Points Arthouse on 72 Tehama Street in SF around 5 p.m. on Sunday the 25th and pull some material out of the old suitcase, and bring my guitar and whatnot. Life is short. Gotta do stuff while you can. Not that I personally plan on having a particularly short life. I plan on getting through this cancer episode and sticking around for a great while longer. But, in general, it makes sense to assume that life is short. You know what I mean? You get more fun in that way. You figure, heck, I'll jump in the river. Why not?

PAC Poster 4/25/10

 

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Good to see this Gary, best wishes on your battle/recovery!
We're pulling for you! I don't care how old a person is, life can be categorized as short, and not always sweet all through. get your kicks and keep on evolving as an artist. Your immune system will rally the better. Wish I could be thereto see you play!
wonderful! You're exactly right-- best to embrace life as if it is short, so you can have all the adventures you wanted, and many more.
Great to hear. If I were in SF I'd come on down and listen.
Wish I could be there. Do you think they would let you record it and post on utube? That would be excellent! And I'm really happy that you are doing well. How is Norma doing?
I was missing your columns and wondered how you were doing Cary and I'm glad to read you are recovering nicely!
Hi Cary,

I'm not a writer, I just liked to read your column, and followed it fairly closely. I was dismayed and saddened when I read you had cancer, and just hoped you would manage to get through it somehow. Meanwhile, I was having increasing problems of my own with a recent lower back problem that just kept getting worse no matter what I did for it.

My world fell apart the day I finally had my MRI. Suddenly, what I had read in your last columns was incredibly pertinent to me. I was not even off the MRI table before the technician told me what was causing my pain. I have a huge 11 cm sacral meningeal cyst. Not cancer, thankfully, but compressing every nerve root from L5 to S4 and pretty much destroying my sacrum over the years I've had it in there. There was nothing any neurosurgeon in the Northwest could do for me, they just don't do surgery on that kind of cyst... it's just too rare and impossible to fix. The prognosis was continued progressive increase in pain and disability. If not for the Internet and forums, I would know next to nothing about my condition or what to do about it. I was lucky to find a surgeon in Kansas City with experience and a track record, who is willing to do surgery to deflate and remove my cyst. And maybe, there is a possibility that I will improve and have some of my life back. Or I could get worse. It's a gamble. I'm scheduled for May 20.

I just wanted to say I know some of what you have been living with, the pain, problems with those sacral nerves not working, the insurance denials, the doctors not knowing what to do for you. I'm scared, and probably don't have all the moral support you have, but I do have some. Anyway, I'm out here rooting for you, hoping you get your pain down, and your column back up.

Chris
Ciarr, I'm sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Hope you can find some way to let us know how you do.

Life can be scary, hold on fast to what helps you.
I wish I could have been there to hear you read and pick your git box. I'm sure your words were a little sweeter and your picking a little finer. You went and looked in the abyss, and now you're back. That's a major chord.