Do you remember Blair from Facts of Life she was the spoiled blonde one who was worshipped by boys? Well, she got a divorce this week. I could make the lame attempt to say if she can’t make it work who can. She has an interesting twist; she is a hardcore Christian. Her kind is one that homeschools their kids to shelter them from the evils of evolution. Born again Christians are really passionate people, but their beliefs are not mine. As we get older, we find that there are other reasons to get married besides love. In the past two and a half years, three of my friends gave gotten hitched. I am happy for each of them while breathing a sigh of relief it was not me. It was their decision to get married and I feel they made it on their own. Only one asked me my opinion on whether or not they were doing the right thing and I responded in the best way I knew how: I didn’t know because relationships are private affairs that only two people understand. Here comes in Ms. Warner.
She wrote in her blog in 2001 the story of her marriage. She reiterates how she saw her future husband as only a friend initially. They were in the same prayer group and she was teasing him by hanging out as friends while her Christian singer boyfriend was on tour. I have teased men in my day unknowingly in the same way, but take heed that you recognize to some men hanging out is the same as dating. So she was at church one day and the Holy Spirit suggested to her to marry this man bc at 22 she was getting desperate for marriage and kids ( I am withholding comment). She hid away at a friend’s house in Tennessee and read books about following God’s will. If she followed what she wanted then she would have continued dating. Instead, she wrote all the things she loved about him on the plane ride back home. Paraphrase: Somewhere 35,000 feet in the air I fell in love with him. She kissed him for the first time when she landed.
To use an 80’s expression, I wanted someone to gag me with a spoon. How could she really marry someone as a result of her interpretation of God’s will? If you read some of her ten published books, you see hints of unhappiness. Here she dedicated her life to Jesus and she felt she had to listen to him. But what if she had said no? What if we all said no? I do not want that and a command becomes a suggestion? Could we live all of our lives being 100% responsible for ourselves?