What is the first thing that you notice about a person?


"Her  beautiful smile"

"How could I miss that bright blue hair!"

"HOT, HOT, HOT!"

"Skin tone"

"Spectacular outfit!"

"The loud music pouring out of his headphones"

Body type, hairstyle, Eye color, clothing?  Certain anatomical regions? ('fess up guys!)  Their smile, teeth, their energy?  Who they are with?  I could ask a hundred people this question and quite possibly nobody would answer honestly.

So what is the first thing we notice about a person?  Their gender.  Male or female.  One or the other.  Two choices.  If there is any question as to the gender we look for more clues to assure us that we know what we are "dealing with."  You know the clues - breasts, facial hair, etc.  Gender is an either-or issue, right?  No.  It falls on a continuum.  Feminine at one end of the spectrum, masculine on the other, and there are infinite variations in between.

What about those times when you just can't quite figure it out?  It really bothers you doesn't it?