The Love Quest has gotten a little bit murky. That is to say - I am having trouble clearly understanding what I want and how to get it.

Let me repeat - what I want and how to get it.

As I am prone to do - I conferred with every… Read full post »

Dear faithful readers,

I have been absent, I know. It turns out that once you start dating, it becomes a part-time job. Before I spill into any candidates, let me tell you part of the process that isn't all flowers and goodnight kisses. 

I'll refer to it as - the weeding… Read full post »

Let’s just say in 39 years, I’ve been around the dating block. More than once. With pepper spray.

The point being, I’m not often surprised by the little hiccups, faux pas or slightly weird happenings of first dates.

Unlike many of my single brethren – I actually enjoy first… Read full post »

As I’ve been holed up for the past several days trying to shake this Gick, I’ve stumbled upon a wee nugget of truth. I tend to get Stress Sick.

I don’t think this is entirely uncommon for folks, but seems to ring especially true for me.

Let’s see…big project… Read full post »

I am sitting here on a Saturday afternoon, nursing a cold and yet enjoying a quiet moment.

You may have noticed, I've been absent from my blog for several days and it's not for the usual reason - laziness. It is actually because I've been busy with so many boys.

You… Read full post »

It wasn’t but a day after the fancy schmancy Wine Fundraiser, that I was invited to volunteer at a Winter Beer Festival.

What does it mean to volunteer at a Beer Festival? Well, mostly it consists of piling about 8 layers of clothing and selling people beer tokens and… Read full post »

Out & About Field Report©

 ACTIVITY: Fundraiser for local volunteer center.

COST: $60

DESCRIPTION:

I have no idea how this fundraiser made any money, as it was full of food and wine from area establishments and I could tell by the end of the evening that… Read full post »

It turns out that dating seriously is a part-time job. Which on top of my full-time job and my addiction to 6 hours of sleep a night - makes for a pretty full schedule.

I'll get back to blogging in short order yet today, but until then - this was… Read full post »

I’ve got to tell you, Match.com has changed a bit since the last time I visited. There are definitely lots of men, but let’s say it may be a bit tougher to find some “quality men.” I don’t doubt they are out there, but the Yentas generally recommend Online… Read full post »

So, it turns out that from time to time the human body rebels against itself and decides to take a Sick Day. Mine decided to take four.

I have literally been knocked on my ass by a cold. On the upside, it was procured from my nephew and that… Read full post »

I’m not someone who is particularly particular about Valentine’s Day. And yet, here we are, February 14^th and I don’t have a Valentine. Which, oddly enough, hasn’t happened in a while. I tend to be paired up when this Hallmark holiday rolls around. Not purposely.

In fact, a… Read full post »

Well, I did it. I posted an online profile. And instead of feeling that exhilarated buzz that comes with batting eyelashes and flirty messages, I’m in a state of semi-dread.

This is not a good place to be for a dating marathon.

I have a sneaking suspicion I… Read full post »

I know, it sounds an awful lot like a rousing chorus of "The dog ate my homework", but I promise you it's legit.

I would love to write a quippy post about the super fun thing I did to propel my Love Quest forward. No really. Instead, I must tell you… Read full post »

So, while I’ve been doing some homework, I’ve also been trying to “get out there” more. I have to tell you, taking the advice of all the Yentas and still finding time for the Smile Project (smiling like a fool at all times) and then trying to find a guy worthy… Read full post »

Well, it’s time for another Dating Activity Report©. A few of the Yentas have recommended in a couple different ways to look back on some past relationships and do a mini Pro/Con list. This goes along with my general thinking that without specific goals, you’ll end up with generic cr… Read full post »

Today I came out to my friends.

Okay, not exactly, but I came out to all my friends today about my Love Quest. And by friends I do not mean my closest of close friends, but rather my Facebook Friends. I don’t know if you’re like me, but my Facebook Friend… Read full post »

I’ve had some bad dates. And I’ll be sure to tell you about some of the doozies. But I’ve had even more bad break-ups. And let me assure you, I use the term “break-up” loosely.

Breaking up is not just for long-term relationships anymore. Now you’ve got to break up… Read full post »

One of my Dating Coaches made an observation this weekend, as we traversed out to celebrate the epic occasion of my birthday. We were having dinner with close friends and I was filling people in on the Love Quest. And, per usual, no one scoffed or recoiled in disgust. There were… Read full post »

I know, it totally seems like I’m cheating, except I feel pretty confident that after you see the intense charts and shit, you’ll concede that I actually have been busy with the Love Quest this week.

So, here’s what I’ve been up to. My girl Rachel from Finding a Husband… Read full post »

On Day 16, I had a date. A semi-legitimate, possibly friend-based, text-requested date. I gotta tell you, it’s not easy dressing for the ambiguity.

It was a friend, who possibly in the past I may have made out with on occasion. But after a recent run-in, he was asking me… Read full post »

No, not those horrible marshmallow things. Your peeps. Your people. My next step in the process of my Love Quest was to get myself a Mentor. It’s Activity Time again.

DATING ACTIVITY REPORT©

ACTIVITY: Find a mentor for the Love Quest

COST: $0

DESCRIPTION:

The idea… Read full post »

It’s been fun taking a look at my overwhelming amount of black clothing and my functional, but unattractive shoes. The external part of my new direction to actively pursue a fulfilling, lifelong partnership with a wonderful man has been fun, almost easy. Now, don’t get me wrong, walking i… Read full post »

It’s Day 13 and I just spent 15 minutes recording and re-recording the outgoing message on my voicemail.

15 minutes. No, I’m not kidding.

It’s pretty much a universal truth that no one likes the sound of their voice recorded. Except maybe Madonna who is swimming in self… Read full post »

"Fashion was made to become unfashionable" - Coco Chanel

Research Mode continues and just so you get a sense of how much information I have to sift through to glean some nuggets of usefulness, let me share this gem.

Janis Spindel in Getting Serious About Getting Married said a woman should… Read full post »