Nancy Davis Kho

Nancy Davis Kho
Oakland, California, USA
April 30
I'm a writer, a reader, a bike wife, a mom, and a music fan. And they don't call me Aunt Blabby for nothing. I figure if half of you are laughing WITH me and the other half AT me, we're all still laughing. I look forward to finding out which side you're on.


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When I was invited by writer, humorist, and delusionist Amy Vansant to contribute an essay to an anthology called Moms Are Nuts! I was thrilled. Which of my most epic mothering fails should I use? That time I entertained the girls by reenacting a run-in with… Read full post »

Just Kids by Patti Smith

When Just Kids by Patti Smith came out in 2010, I read reviews, but it never occurred to me to pick up the book. Of course I knew who Smith was, knew “Because the Night” and a few other of her songs. But she was just enough/… Read full post »


The Band: Lorde, March 27 2014. Ella Maria Lani Yelich-O’Connor is the preternaturally mature seventeen year old Kiwi who won this year’s Grammy for Song of the Year for Royals. With her Goth sensibility, lush songwriting, and lyrics that eschew materialism, she’s marke/… Read full post »

MARCH 28, 2014 11:38AM

Full Disclosure

yakkety yak

Last week I discovered a new and odious habit. I have begun telling long stories to strangers that have nothing to do with the listener or, frankly, the situation in which we found ourselves. Three times in the space of one week.

First there was the prospective… Read full post »

Ann Imig of Ann’s Rants has a meme called “Where I Lived Wednesdays” in which bloggers are invited to reminisce about hovels of bygone days, and link up on her site. Want to play? Just click here and leave your link so everyone can find you…

I moved… Read full post »

MARCH 18, 2014 11:17AM

Face It

Locked Computer

I have a bone to pick with my computer’s facial recognition software.

When I bought this computer a couple of years ago, I liked that it offered an easier way to unlock the operating system than typing in a password: the little camera at the top of the… Read full post »

MARCH 11, 2014 11:08AM

Hats Off to You, Winter Warriors

I remember, back before I moved to the Bay Area, that I asked a friend who was a San Francisco native if she felt lucky she lived elsewhere during the Loma Prieta quake of ’89. “Not at all,” she answered. “I felt like I missed out, to be… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 28, 2014 11:08AM

Midlife Mixtape Concert Review: Lord Huron

lord huron sans hat

The Band: Lord Huron, February 25 2014. Founded by lead singer Ben Schneider in 2010, this LA-based indie rock band comprises three guitars, a bassist, and a drummer who create a lush wall of sound that somehow manages to balance country sensibilities with hints of world/… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 25, 2014 11:18AM

Midlife Mixtape Concert Review: The Pixies

The Pixies at the Fox


The Band: The Pixies, February 21 2014. A seminal alternative rock band formed in 1986, the Pixies broke up in ’93. That means that their reunion tour, which kicked off in 2003, has actually run three years longer than their original inception. Black Francis,/… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 21, 2014 11:11AM

An Open Letter to the Handybook App

Dear Handybook App:

Hi, how are you? See, that first sentence is what we humans like to call, “being friendly.” Sure, it’s got a tinge of insincerity – I mean, if you’re buggy, if you’re running slow, if you have any of the other minor problems that I’m… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 14, 2014 11:44AM

A Trio of Terrible Dates

Romantic Potato

Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays where it’s very easy to believe that you are the only person not celebrating the day with Belgian chocolates, wispy lingerie, and adoring pronouncements by those you love. The relentless media onslaught creates a perfect storm for romanRead full post »

FEBRUARY 7, 2014 11:50AM

California Drought: Excuse Level Red



I’m not sure if the news has spread much beyond Cali yet, but as a region, we are apparently plunging into the Drought to End All Droughts. After two dry years and with no relief on the horizon, we are soon going to be engaged… Read full post »


I was so excited when I realized that on the Chinese calendar, we are now in The Year of the Horse. That’s my year! I’m a horse! (Something I probably shouldn’t yell at parties.) Shouldn’t it bode extra well for the 8.3333% of the world’s population… Read full post »

Are you tired out from reading about the Grammys thus far (Part 1 and Part 2 here)? Then that’s the perfect state of mind to get through just one more post, about the After Party. Because even if the clock only said 8:45 pm, we were feeling a… Read full post »

In Part 1  of my 2014 Grammy recap, I talked pre Grammy festivities, from backstage tour to paparazzi scrum. Now it’s Game Day.

In keeping with the blistering pace of over-the-top hospitality extended to us by the Beverly Hilton, we were due at a swanky rooftop brunch in our… Read full post »

JANUARY 28, 2014 12:07PM

56th Grammy Awards: The Pregame

The challenge of summarizing our weekend at the 56th Annual Grammy Awards, which I won in an essay contest sponsored by the Hilton Hotels a year ago, feels a little like swallowing a watermelon whole and then spitting back ten perfect seeds. I could do four complete… Read full post »

JANUARY 23, 2014 10:56AM


Who's your Grammy


A quick recap for new readers of the blog: last January I won an essay contest sponsored by Hilton Hotels, and as a result my husband and I are going to the 56th Grammy Awards in LA this weekend. Did you ever wonder what it would be… Read full post »

JANUARY 21, 2014 11:11AM

Gen X Nostalgia: Reality Bit

To my fellow members of Generation X: we were famous in our youth for being cynical, disdainful, averse to groupthink and phoniness. But even that hasn’t protected us from making a rendezvous with capital-N Nostalgia as we pass through middle age. The temptation to wallow in the… Read full post »

As gleaned from my unsuccessful attempt to slog through the new book, Autobiography, by the lead singer of the Smiths, Steven Patrick Morrissey.


Favorite childhood television programs!

You: remember them fondly.

Morrissey: devotes five straight pages to listing them, alongside i… Read full post »

JANUARY 10, 2014 10:55AM


For Christmas, the item on top of my wish list was the new book Schottenfreude: New German Words for the Human Condition, by Ben Schott. He’s a journalist, photographer, and designer who trained his sights on a quirk of the German language: there really aren’t that many/…

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JANUARY 3, 2014 11:11AM

Cleaning Debasement

I just wish my latest ailment came with a better back story.

A few months ago I told you that I had a new strategy for getting on top of the clutter and detritus of eleven years in this house: I was going to pretend to move. This… Read full post »

DECEMBER 27, 2013 11:11AM

Grammy Countdown

Almost a year ago, I won a contest sponsored by Hilton Hotels and as a result, my husband and I are going to the Grammys in exactly one month. THE GRAMMYS, PEOPLE. Even after all these months it still hasn’t quite sunk in.

At first it was fun… Read full post »

DECEMBER 17, 2013 11:11AM

Turn Down the Music and Read: Rocks Off

Rocks Off by Bill Janovitz

Here’s how I came to own my one and only Rolling Stones album. A cute, trouble making, athletic guy in my high school (he was the closest thing we had to Tim Riggins, in case anyone’s a Friday Night Light fan) asked me out of the blue/… Read full post »

DECEMBER 10, 2013 11:10AM

Life Lessons from the Nutcracker

Nutcracker snow

For civilians, the first strains of Tchaikovsky’s famous ballet started leaking out of store Muzak and into your consciousness the day after Thanksgiving. For ballet parents like me, it’s been in constant rotation since September, when the two underage dancers in my house star… Read full post »

Eight Things I Wish I Didn't Know

There’s a new meme on Facebook this week: Things You Don’t Know About Me. People use their status update to list hidden talents, unexpected language fluency, surprising back stories, awards you never knew they earned.

Me? I’m an open book: I’m a blogger. There are p… Read full post »