Nancy Davis Kho

Nancy Davis Kho
Oakland, California, USA
April 30
I'm a writer, a reader, a bike wife, a mom, and a music fan. And they don't call me Aunt Blabby for nothing. I figure if half of you are laughing WITH me and the other half AT me, we're all still laughing. I look forward to finding out which side you're on.

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One of the things I love most about reading is how it opens your world and makes space for dreams you never even knew you had. For instance, after finishing Mo’ Meta Blues by Ahmir “Questlove” Thompson, I now have but one dream: to drive… Read full post »

Graduates in Cap and Gown

It’s graduation season, and time for speeches. I’ll leave it to actual accomplished people to say something inspirational and lofty. High school grads, I’m here to keep it real and give you more pragmatic advice. Here are the ten things I wish I’d known when I was… Read full post »

MAY 23, 2014 10:54AM

Sad Bastards of Instagram

My 16 year old walked into the kitchen the other day and I said, “Do you know about #rkoi?”

“Oh…no,” she said, in the doomsday manner of a movie character who has just glimpsed a skyscraper-sized tsunami wave in the distance, or the lava dribbling over the top of… Read full post »

MAY 16, 2014 11:55AM

Thank the Universe (For My Aunt)

Two months ago I was visiting my hometown and stopped over to pick up my eighty-something Aunt Noonie, to take her to an 11:15 am lunch at the Cracker Barrel. When I stepped into the covered front porch of her home, I noticed shiny pennies strewn amidst the… Read full post »


I have a major crush on McSweeney’s, the San Francisco publishing company founded by Dave Eggers that operates not just a daily humor site and a quarterly literary journal, not just a monthly magazine called The Believer,  and not just a growing book publishing arm. No, the… Read full post »

MAY 2, 2014 12:10PM


When it rains, it pours, and luckily for both of us, it’s pouring right before Mother’s Day. I have the honor and privilege to be involved with three (that’s 3) anthologies that are hitting bookstore shelves this month, and any of them would be perfect gifting for the… Read full post »

APRIL 29, 2014 11:39AM

Oh Yes It's Ladies Eighties Night

Class of 84


Last week I went out dancing with a bunch of girlfriends for my 40-something birthday to a “Class of ’84 Video Dance Night” at the Cat Club in San Francisco. It was just like all the birthdays I celebrated by dancing with a gaggle/… Read full post »

UC Berkeley


Roll On You Bears. I like to keep up one side of a conversation with the Collective You, whenever I drive through campus on my errands in Berkeley. I start teaching a writing class in Cal’s Extension program next week, so the likelihood that you’ll… Read full post »

APRIL 18, 2014 10:45AM

Happy Reeses Hoarding Holiday!

Reeses on sale

Today, Good Friday, marks the start of a very special season: Reeses Peanut Butter Seasonal Product Hoarding Season.

The women in my natal family are unapologetic Reeses eaters. Always have been, always will be. But my mother, sister and I rarely stoop to the bright orange and brown… Read full post »


When I was invited by writer, humorist, and delusionist Amy Vansant to contribute an essay to an anthology called Moms Are Nuts! I was thrilled. Which of my most epic mothering fails should I use? That time I entertained the girls by reenacting a run-in with… Read full post »

Just Kids by Patti Smith

When Just Kids by Patti Smith came out in 2010, I read reviews, but it never occurred to me to pick up the book. Of course I knew who Smith was, knew “Because the Night” and a few other of her songs. But she was just enough/… Read full post »


The Band: Lorde, March 27 2014. Ella Maria Lani Yelich-O’Connor is the preternaturally mature seventeen year old Kiwi who won this year’s Grammy for Song of the Year for Royals. With her Goth sensibility, lush songwriting, and lyrics that eschew materialism, she’s marke/… Read full post »

MARCH 28, 2014 11:38AM

Full Disclosure

yakkety yak

Last week I discovered a new and odious habit. I have begun telling long stories to strangers that have nothing to do with the listener or, frankly, the situation in which we found ourselves. Three times in the space of one week.

First there was the prospective… Read full post »

Ann Imig of Ann’s Rants has a meme called “Where I Lived Wednesdays” in which bloggers are invited to reminisce about hovels of bygone days, and link up on her site. Want to play? Just click here and leave your link so everyone can find you…

I moved… Read full post »

MARCH 18, 2014 11:17AM

Face It

Locked Computer

I have a bone to pick with my computer’s facial recognition software.

When I bought this computer a couple of years ago, I liked that it offered an easier way to unlock the operating system than typing in a password: the little camera at the top of the… Read full post »

MARCH 11, 2014 11:08AM

Hats Off to You, Winter Warriors

I remember, back before I moved to the Bay Area, that I asked a friend who was a San Francisco native if she felt lucky she lived elsewhere during the Loma Prieta quake of ’89. “Not at all,” she answered. “I felt like I missed out, to be… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 28, 2014 11:08AM

Midlife Mixtape Concert Review: Lord Huron

lord huron sans hat

The Band: Lord Huron, February 25 2014. Founded by lead singer Ben Schneider in 2010, this LA-based indie rock band comprises three guitars, a bassist, and a drummer who create a lush wall of sound that somehow manages to balance country sensibilities with hints of world/… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 25, 2014 11:18AM

Midlife Mixtape Concert Review: The Pixies

The Pixies at the Fox


The Band: The Pixies, February 21 2014. A seminal alternative rock band formed in 1986, the Pixies broke up in ’93. That means that their reunion tour, which kicked off in 2003, has actually run three years longer than their original inception. Black Francis,/… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 21, 2014 11:11AM

An Open Letter to the Handybook App

Dear Handybook App:

Hi, how are you? See, that first sentence is what we humans like to call, “being friendly.” Sure, it’s got a tinge of insincerity – I mean, if you’re buggy, if you’re running slow, if you have any of the other minor problems that I’m… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 14, 2014 11:44AM

A Trio of Terrible Dates

Romantic Potato

Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays where it’s very easy to believe that you are the only person not celebrating the day with Belgian chocolates, wispy lingerie, and adoring pronouncements by those you love. The relentless media onslaught creates a perfect storm for romanRead full post »

FEBRUARY 7, 2014 11:50AM

California Drought: Excuse Level Red



I’m not sure if the news has spread much beyond Cali yet, but as a region, we are apparently plunging into the Drought to End All Droughts. After two dry years and with no relief on the horizon, we are soon going to be engaged… Read full post »


I was so excited when I realized that on the Chinese calendar, we are now in The Year of the Horse. That’s my year! I’m a horse! (Something I probably shouldn’t yell at parties.) Shouldn’t it bode extra well for the 8.3333% of the world’s population… Read full post »

Are you tired out from reading about the Grammys thus far (Part 1 and Part 2 here)? Then that’s the perfect state of mind to get through just one more post, about the After Party. Because even if the clock only said 8:45 pm, we were feeling a… Read full post »

In Part 1  of my 2014 Grammy recap, I talked pre Grammy festivities, from backstage tour to paparazzi scrum. Now it’s Game Day.

In keeping with the blistering pace of over-the-top hospitality extended to us by the Beverly Hilton, we were due at a swanky rooftop brunch in our… Read full post »

JANUARY 28, 2014 12:07PM

56th Grammy Awards: The Pregame

The challenge of summarizing our weekend at the 56th Annual Grammy Awards, which I won in an essay contest sponsored by the Hilton Hotels a year ago, feels a little like swallowing a watermelon whole and then spitting back ten perfect seeds. I could do four complete… Read full post »