I was driving to the gym today and listening to my favorite song on the radio. The thought occurred to me that I'd like that song played at my funeral.
Huh.
Why am I thinking about songs playing at my funeral? Because my friend Linda and I seem to be experiencing a "cancer bubble" right now: so many people we know have been diagnosed with cancer, recently died of cancer or are in remission from cancer. What's up with that? I was under the impression that cancer statistics were down but from my own experience, there appears to be an epidemic.
Is it inevitable that I will get cancer? Seems that way these days.
Should I be making plans as if that will happen? That's my dilemma right now. Because if I truly believe I will be diagnosed with cancer in the next 5-10 years, I will make certain changes in my life. My health insurance will be a top priority. My will will be constantly updated. My son's future will be viewed as something to be constructed so he is "okay "should I die in the next decade. My day to day decisions will be played out through the lens of the vital priority of the moment and the fragility of the future. The importance of the spirit will trump that of the physical. When you're actively dying, it seems to me you become spirit only, while your physical body shuts down.
Hmmm, seems I will be living as a Buddhist. As Buddha pointed out: "Life is suffering." And it pretty much goes downhill from there.
I don't subscribe to the new age belief that we "cause our cancer." I know as much as the doctors do that we have cancer cells at all times in our bodies, but why do some go crazy and multiply while others are constantly thwarted? Why does one person who has been a moderate no-vices runner his whole life come down with aggressive cancer while my cigarette smoking, cocktail swilling beloved father at 71 has no cancer?
There are many opinions but none that bring us any closer to curing cancer. Is it the vaccines that we are given as children that give us a weakened immune system in middle-age, unable to fight off the cancer? Is it the lack of nutrition in our diet? Is it the unending stress most of us live under in our high-tech, industrialized country? Who knows?


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My mother died in her 20s of complications of scarlet fever. A couple decades later, there was no scarlet fever, only strep - here, take these pills and go home. Had she lived into her 30s, 40s and beyond, there were also sorts of other possibilities...
I have a big brown envelope taped right above/beside my back door with will, prepaid body-disposal info, other needed stuff, labled IN CASE OF DEATH. Kinda freaks out new visitors ("Are you feeling okay?"), but it's just a matter of being *organized*, esp. after having cleaned up after a few deaths...
I think the now-discredited Castenada had a good line in one of his books (first one, I think), about death being a friend that walks behind you all your life, reminding you of what's important...
I hope we find answers in our lifetime. Thanks for this post
>>>Will we get cancer?
If we live long enough, probably. We are dumping substances that our bodies have never seen before into the environment at a rate that is overwhelming our bodies' detoxification mechanisms.
There's a lot you can do, proactively, however, that don't require you to live in a cave and eat tree bark, to delay its arrival.
>>> Why does one, clean living person get it and another, not so clean living, not?
A lot of it has to do with how good each person's detoxification equipment was to begin with. My blog last week referred to this with regard to autism. You can test to see how well your body is excreting poisons. If you're not a good detoxifier you can take steps to minimize your exposure. You can't change your genes, but you can change your environment. Something as simple as taking supplemental NAC can help the body cook up more glutathione, which is a key player in the body's ability to clean out poison. Little things can make a big difference.
The word, cancer, itself, needs to be examined.
The visceral, emotional response most of us have to this word has gotten out of hand. The other C-word that has been demonized by the media in order to sell drugs is cholesterol. Cholesterol levels are pretty low on the list of risk factors for heart disease, but I digress.
I often tell clients who have cancer that it is no longer a death sentence, but a life sentence. It's a call to action. A major mentoring figure in my life once said, "Worrying is praying for what you don't want." He was an interesting character. A biochemist who was also an ordained presbyterian minister, so his students always got equal amounts of philosophy with our science.
The science behind this is simply that worry raises stress hormones, which, if left unchecked, will, ultimately, weaken the immune system.
Your concerns express a common theme in our collective conciousness. If we focus on what we can do, we control our response to a threat. The threat is still there, but it no longer seems as intimidating. There's a lot of really good science out there, but you have to get away from mainstream media, which is, regretably, controlled by those with the most dollars, to find it.
There is no, "One size fits all", plan, for prevention. Food, supplementation, exercise, management of the emotional/spiritual self, need to be custom fit. Find coaches who understand that.
Leaving our bodies, eventually, does seem to be the plan. Learn to enjoy the ride. I often recommend Dale Carnegie's book, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. Many clients have found it helpful.