Honesty.  It's the one those things in a relationship that can be faked...but, shouldn't..for many reasons. 

All too often, we tell those 'little, white lies' that we tell ourselves are 'good' for the significant person(s) in our lives. Yet, you're one person that always knows the truth; it's a lie...pure and simple. At the end of the day...or week...or sometime in the not-so-distant future, it will out itself as the lie that it is.

The Juicy Crone has been around the poly-block enough to know this one thing as well: What goes around, for-sure, comes around...and faster in the poly community than in other more insular, monogamous communities. There is a very good reason for that, we 'polys' tend to be a vocal and homogenous group of people who swim in a very small pond.

 If you mess with one member of this 'poly pond', you're extremely likely to have to explain yourself...usually more than one...many times over. And over. Well, you get the point. I advocate in favor of everyone being as honest as is possible at all time with all people...not just those in your immediate circle of friends and intimates. And, you're going to tell me, but what if... Yes, well, go ahead and create your own favorite scenario; I have. You may be able to get away with that 'half-truth' for awhile, but it will catch you up eventually.

More importantly, you need to ask yourself this: why would you ever want to hold the truth from that certain, special someone or group of someones, when honestly is the best policy? Can you ever repair the broken trust that inevitably arises from the underlying, decaying and stinking lie as it is exposed to the light of day?

Of course, I don't have to tell you the answer to that...when I put it so bluntly. But...honestly, honey...there was one person who always did know that it was a lie from the beginning, that person was you! You had to lie to you before you concocted that lie to tell to someone else, whether you believe me or not, that, dear one, is the truth.

So, the next time you find yourself deliberating how to withhold the truth from someone you care about, perhaps even love, think about what I've just said and maybe...just maybe...you'll opt out. You'll tell the simple, albeit often painful, truth. Come what may, just be honest. In the long run, you'll thank me...but, more importantly, you'll thank yourself.

Honestly,

The Juicy Crone, aka deLuvDoc