NOVEMBER 18, 2009 8:11AM

The Cost of War

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Revenge

“That life, like the vapor on a tea cup, appeared only to disappear.”

He carried her down the street
Holding her as close to his heaving chest as humanly possible
His strong arms supporting her tiny spiritless form
Thin frail limbs
Swinging free
Lifeless and broken
Blood stains covering her flowered blouse
Torn wool skirt
Bare legs
Infant feet
And frozen questioning angelic face.

A wife watches as her husband frantically approaches
Her worst fears realized
Hot tears burn pale rivulets down her dusty cheeks
Clenched fists raise to heaven
And then lower to beat upon her chest
As another devastated mother wails over
“An expected, yet unfortunate, casualty of war”


He enlisted at 19
Skeptical of what he was told
She was 20 and had unsettling questions
And deep seated doubts
But they enlisted
Nonetheless

Together they fired the rounds
That strayed into a dead end street
Whisking away a “father’s joy”
And a mother’s only child

Together they will live with that knowledge
Together they will spend a lifetime
Wondering
Who that little girl was
And who she was meant to be


Back home another couple
Choke back tears
As they prepare to bury
The flag draped remains of their “little girl”

They remember her
In happier times
Wearing pink ballet tights
And brand new slippers
Smiling proudly as she clumsily attempted
Her first pirouette

That dream
That life
Like the vapor on a tea cup
Appeared
Only to disappear
Almost as soon as it began

Now she belongs to the ages
Living in wounded hearts
And memorialized
Alongside the others
In marble,
Bronze,
And with white wooden crosses

Not far off
In the late afternoon shadows
An older sister
And two younger brothers
Seek to comfort a widowed mom
Racked with grief at the loss of her first born son

Too poor for college
Unemployment rampant in his hometown
Recruiters took a “personal interest” in him
And offered him the “educational opportunity of a lifetime”
While serving his country
In the cause of democracy
And “peace.”

Two more, “expected, yet unfortunate casualties of war”

Less than 50 years ago
We woke one day
To realize
That a war
Like this war
Which seemed “just”
And “patriotic”
At the time
Had gone terribly wrong
And the cost of peace
Had become something
The majority
Could no longer abide

At times like these
We yearn for a reassuring word from our leaders
Clarity
A certainty with foundation
Which allows us to believe
That the casualties on both sides
Are somehow justified
That there actually exists
A noble reason
For the horrific loss of life

Yet, while waiting for solace
The litany of words designed to persuade
Are chanted again and again
Inflaming our fears
Feeding our paranoia
Provoking our darkest side
And urging us to see how our “vital interests” are served
By wars
That leave the slaughtered innocents
In their wake
And play upon our blood lust for revenge

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Revenge for what, we ask? My heart breaks for these sons and daughters, for these mothers and fathers. Thanks for this reminder, Dennis. Remember, remember, remember that it is happening today, this moment, and will continue. At what cost? And at what gain? Rated and definitely appreciated.
Would that every lawmaker who decides that war is a good option be forced to read this before signing on. Would that every person who considers enlisting, do the same. You get to the core of the matter with surgical precision and transplant your own heart into this world gone mad and then go one better. You make complete sense. This is as real as writing gets, Dennis. O'Really , really good.
I hate war...hate the lose of life on both sides. Yet, I am forced to ponder what the world would be like had we not fought. Would some less noble entity have risen and taken our place, not to defend but to destroy? I know that most wars are not fought for altruist reasons, but I fear that if we stop being the police force for the world, the world will become our jailers.
This is beautiful, Dennis. How am I supposed to work this morning when my arms are shaking?

Rated and appreciated with italics.
A very stirring and moving piece of work Dennis. Thank you.
It echoes the sentiments of friends who have served in Afghanistan recently and whose recounts told of weapons in the hands of children.
The saddest truths are that everybody loses the war and hardly a soul flickers with emotion as we see it trivialised daily by the media on rolling news programmes or in the tiniest of newspaper columns, while X-Factor and American Idol are glorified as front page news.
This world is very confused.
Dennis, this is gut wrenching and visceral. This hurts to the core of this mother's heart to even, for just one minute, walk through this piece, imagining the scenario for myself feeling the horrible dread and unspeakable loss and then knowing this is reality for so many. What a necessary and important piece this is and I can only reflect on how difficult it must have been to write. Your heart for others at the deepest of levels is gift to many. Highly rated.
Dennis, a good and thoughtful piece. To Donna's question, I think the question of what the world would be like if we didn't fought is a fair one, but that the answer is that we appear to analyze this only in very broad terms and we make no public record of it. I have come to think, for example, that for all the United Nations is seen as toothless, it has some very good functions. Even just simply as a debating society to discuss the need for war, it hasn't cranked out a bad set of responses to the recent claims of need for war. It's subject to some manipulation because of the possibility that smaller powers might be bought off, but nonetheless, so it's not a perfect metric, the process of bringing the case before a tribunal of people with varying interests and asking “what do you think—is this needed?” is useful for the information it gets out on the table. The fact that we could not muster more than a handful of countries (but don't forget Poland!) to help us with Iraq was certainly telling. It doesn't mean there is never a reason even to go to war on our own initiative. But at that point you'd want it to come to the attention of the US people in a meaningful way, and yet we are told we're not patriotic if we don't unconditionally “suppor the troops.” So yes, there are two sides, and a pendulum swings between them. But I think we're pretty plainly swung into the side of thinking they're too easy, too cheap, and too necessary.
Beautifully written and oh so sadly true. I hate war and I hate how it's sold to us.....wrapped up in a neatly pretty package even though its contents are deadly. Often, I think of our military....and all militarys throughout the world....the sacrifice, the wasted youth, the sorrow and the untimely deaths. One of my prayers throughout the week is for peace in the world so all wars will end and all military can go home to their families. Can you tell that I have a son in the military?
Profoundly moving. You have cut straight to the core.

Rated and appreciated.
C.K.
Thank you for your affirming words. The heart you express is my own. “War is young men dying and old men talking.” -David Benioff. When wars have there own unique logos on the evening news it becomes harder to see the true cost in slaughtered children of every age.

O’Really,
Thank you very much for such a generous comment. I do wish that every legislator and public servant who has anything to do with these decisions would be required to visit hospitals, graveyards, and the grieving parents on both sides before being allowed to cast votes or make decisions that put anyone in harm’s way.

Donna,
Thank you for your comment. The thought you express is echoed by many. Were it the case that we simply acted as the good sheriff in town the discussion would be a much easier one. But our interests have not always been so noble. Add to that the reality that we are now seen by the world as preemptively engaging in war as well as the only nation to ever use nuclear weapons and the discussion becomes so much more complex. I appreciate your question.

Lorraine,
Thank you for your comment. I am amazed with all the reading and reviewing of posts that you do on a daily basis that you have time to add a note to one of the more doggerel among them :)

Frank,
As a wordsmith and man that I admire I appreciate your comment very much.

JL,
Thank you for touching on the heart of why so much of this is unthinkably insane. I think your comment reflects the “reward” of an inner journey that you so have beautifully described in your first post here at OS.

Mary,
Thank you my friend for your encouragement. I often imagine how my opinion would be formed about these wars were my daughter to be required to fight or chose to do so. Perhaps the missing element in the midst of all this loss of life is the human element - which is strangely and terribly inconsistent.

Kent,
Thank you for your kind words and for your insightful comment. I love the reasoned and civil back and forth that you bring to discussions.

Patricia,
Thanks so much for your comment. Aaron Sorkin wrote a line for the character of Wes Mendell for Studio 60 that has stayed with me ever since and I referred to above. He wrote, “Guys are getting killed in a war that's got theme music and a logo.” If that is not a packaged presentation I do not understand the concept. Please know that your dear son and you will be in my thoughts and prayers for your precious prayer to be answered

Stacey,
Thank you for the kindness of your comment and the style of it as well :)
excellent, dennis. beautifully worded images.

maybe we should stop referring to them as "casualties" and instead call them "people we killed."
femme forte,
Thank you very much for your kindness. I could not agree more. We are so skilled at taking the actual sting out of truth by finding words that have all the hard edges rubbed off to describe it.
No one on the ground - on either side - escapes the effects of war unscathed. We will be seeing its detrimental effects seeping out for many years to come.

How easy it is to wage war when you're sitting in an ivory tower, thousands of miles removed, and able to dehumanize and demonize the opponent.

This should be published and read widely; unfortunately, it won't be enough.

Rated and appreciated.
M. McKenzie,
Thank you so much for such a generous and thoughtful comment. There are so many justifications for senseless killing. I believe the concept of war should be taught and viewed and an unspeakable evil only to be entered into as the last resort. Several centuries ago Carl von Clausewitz wrote that, “War is merely a continuation of politics.” Though the quote is taken out of the context that he intended it is all too often true.
So devastating--we so often forget that the casualties are individuals with people who love them left behind.
Thisa should be all over the cover.
TBL4,
Thank you for your very kind comment and for such an insightful remark. It really is the world we’ve created. Which in a round about way gives me hope that we can change it still.

Karin,
Your comment is at the heart of this post. These are human beings who were loved and cherished. Thank you.

Michael,
Thanks for such a generous comment.
We call it collateral damage so that we don't have to acknowledge the losses. Do you know that there is the remains of a bomb shelter in Iraq, from Gulf War I, where, when the bomb hit the bomb shelter, people were vaporized and the shadows of those people were etched upon the remaining wall.
Thank you for this.
Thanks for this beautiful and moving piece.

Rated and deeply appreciated.