I realize I’ll be accused of pandering to women by writing this. My belief is that women are neither stupid nor naive enough to be so easily beguiled.
Yes, I’m responding to some recent articles. I’m also offering my perspective as a father, a brother, and a man who has been deeply in love with one woman in his lifetime.
This world would be a barren and desolate place without women. It is your presence that prevents it from becoming wholly cruel, spartan, and austere.
It is the way you are born into this world - not how you are compelled to redesign yourselves - that makes you so beautiful. Women are beautiful because they are women.
When a man seeks to influence a woman with regard to the color of her hair, the size of a her breasts, her choice of clothing, or whether or not she wears make-up, it speaks to a deficiency in the man rather than to any weakness found in the woman.
What sort of arrogance moves a man to critique in this area at all? A male who feels he has the right to meddle in what a woman chooses to be, or how she chooses to appear, is less than a fraction of a man at best.
Our daughters are growing up in what continues to be a patriarchal society. In my country, women were not able to vote until 1920.
Only the “Planet of the Apes” could defend such woefully idiotic prohibitions.
The lies told to women regarding their appearance - and what is most attractive - are ruthless, merciless, and based on billion dollar industries rather than truth.
Your gender needs nothing to improve upon how you are born - except people with the good sense to repeat that fact until it drowns out the lies you hear from the first time you open your eyes.
You bear our children, make our houses into homes, work for unequal wages often while putting forth the lion’s share of the effort. And yet the decisions which govern the most intimate aspects of your life - in many cases - lie in the hands of old white males.
That you would still care as you do, that you would still love as you do, that you would still romance as you do, that you would still seek to understand the male species is a wonder.
Shakespeare said, “Women speak two languages - one of which is verbal.” Whether this is true only a woman knows. But the so-called “challenge” of learning why a woman thinks and feels as she does is one of the most beautiful learning experiences of life.
The kingdom of Earthly life is divided into three parts: female, male, and things.
Seeking to learn the heart and mind of a woman is to see another side of that kingdom and to understand it more fully.
Such “sight” - sometimes referred to as “women’s intuition” - has saved many a man from ruin and destruction while others, who refused to heed the advice, paid a terrible price.
I want my daughter to grow up strong and independent while being fully aware of her symbiotic relationship to men and all living things. I long for her to feel free to make her own decisions, to be who she was born to be, and to never feel she is less than, or subject to the will of, any man.
However, as a teenage girl who is badgered to question whether she is beautiful enough - as is - plus nothing, she can become terrified at the simple thought of going to school without makeup.
I’m not suggesting that women are unable to come to a full acceptance of their natural beauty, invaluable worth, and equal place in this world without the approval of men. I am simply saying all men should offer their unqualified support of women, from the heart - needed or not.
“Of all things upon earth that bleed and grow, an herb most bruised is woman.” -Euripides
The photo is of the wonderful Emily Perkins whom I deeply admire as an actress and as a human being.