jay leffew

jay leffew
Location
Sant Rosa, California, USA
Birthday
September 02
Bio
GayFamilyValues Hello everyone, Welcome to the official Gay Family Values blogg by the Depfox family of YouTube. Many of you know that we were a private family Living in Northern California Who began making YouTube videos to help fight the passage of California's Proposition 8 banning gay marriage in our state constitution. Those videos were meant to show our life as an average, everyday gay family. We hoped that in showing our lives that we could help dispell many of the bad stereotypes about gay families and gay people in generall. We couldn't have imagined what would happen as a result of those first videos. We began to get tons of emails asking questions, showing support, and sharing stories of tragedy and hope. This blog will be a little different in that we will offer our perspective, as a gay family, on current events in life, gay news, the struggle for marriage equality, and everything in between. And...yes...we promise...it won't all be Youtube related. Please enjoy our crazy, disfunctionally slanted view of life and please visit us at the links posted on the right at our new site: www.Gay-family-values.com and were it all began, on Youtube.

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The Internet Killed The Small Town Gay Bar

Hello everyone,....I was not sure how to title this post...being that it will be part movie review and part remembrance of a place that really aided in my coming out. However...

 Recently, my husband and I watched Small Town Gay
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OCTOBER 16, 2010 8:12PM

Milestones...."The Talk"

Milestones...."The Talk"



Well its become time for another one of those big moments in one of our children's lives....Daniel received the "Birds and Bees" talk...

This is usually one of those moments that most parents have a tough time with. Its not that we dread it, because we… Read full post »
OCTOBER 13, 2010 4:33PM

DADT...Ding Dong The Witch Is Dead?

 DADT...Ding Dong The Witch Is Dead?

Well Dorothy. its true...In the Log Cabin Republican suit against Don't Ask Don't Tell, Federal Judge Virginia Phillips not only ruled that the policy was discriminatory and unconstitutional...she went and dropped the house on it by ordering the fede
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OCTOBER 8, 2010 12:26AM

Christian Nation???

Christian Nation

Sometimes I think that we've really lost touch with American history. Whether its the tea Partiers brand of "patriotism" or conservative "family values" politicians, there is a pervading Idea that America was founded on their particular religious ideals. Take for example t
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It Gets Better...My Love Letter To Anyone Coming out

Hello Everyone.

September has been a month of tragedies. It seems that each passing day brought another report of a young man who had taken his own life because of bullying and the homophobic actions of others. To me,
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SEPTEMBER 19, 2010 11:22AM

The View From Under The Bus

 

The View From Under The Bus


Of the goals the gay community has as signposts on the way to full legal equality, three of the biggest are:

1) ENDA the Employment Non-Discrimination Act whose passage would make it illegal to fire someone from
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AUGUST 26, 2010 4:59PM

ALL TOO EASY

Thursday, August 26, 2010

All too Easy

This week the blogs are all alight with the coming out of Ken Mehlman, President Bush's former campaign manager and architect of his homophobic 2004 campaign. Melhman has been a vocal opponent to gay rights and strong supporter of George
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AUGUST 22, 2010 12:45AM

Right To Love: An American Family

When the majority is allowed to vote on minorities' civil rights, Americans must step back from the voting booths and take a real look inside the lives of those they're affecting. Jay is a police officer and Gulf War veteran. His husband, Bryan, is a stay-at-home dad to their two adopted… Read full post »

JULY 9, 2010 1:16PM

Fixing What Isn't Broken?

Fixing What Isn't Broken...Homosexuality and Eugenics

Why do we always mess with that big shiny button that says "DO NOT PUSH!"? Is there something genetic within the human species that sees something that looks like a bad idea and absolutely feels compelled to be mess with it?

I… Read full post »

Fundamentalists and the Human Disconnect

There is a certain segment of the "pro-family" fundamentalist camp that you simply ignore because its rantings are so extreme they simply marginalize themselves. Even groups like NOM go far out of their way to publicly distance themselves from these… Read full post »
JUNE 19, 2010 8:26PM

Come As You Are?

Venez Comme Vous Etes...Come As You Are

This is the message given at the end of a recent McDonalds commercial aired in France. Its a sweet commercial about a young man dealing with his feelings of love for another classmate...another boy, and having to hide it from his father.… Read full post »
JUNE 18, 2010 12:52AM

Prop 8 And The Infinite Wait

Prop 8 and The Infinite Wait


Yesterday saw the closing arguments in the first of what may be several rounds of Federal Trials regarding the constitutionality of Proposition 8 here in California. As one who has been living it here since the first marriages
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JUNE 16, 2010 3:40AM

Gays and Religion

Gays and Religion

We live in a multi-spectral world. Sometimes that fact can be a great source of wonder... as when you realize that it takes all kinds of people to make the world go around...or that life will always hold another mystery to be pondered no
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MAY 29, 2010 7:30PM

Small World And Herculean Tasks

Small Worlds and Herculean Tasks

 Hello Everyone,

I realize my blogging has been really sporadic lately. Taking care of five kids and getting ready for an impending vacation has kept me on my toes....please forgive this harried blogger as he plays catchup with the worlds events. Namely
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Harvey Milk Day...Finding Hope In An Uncertain World






This last year I have learned more about LGBT memorial holidays than I ever imagined possible. There has been the Transgenered Day of Remembrance, The Day of Silence, Day Against Homophobia, our usuall Pride days, And Today....Harvey Mil
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Elena Kagan...Judicial Woman of Mystery

Recently President Obama anounced his pick for Supreme Court Nominee in the person of Solicitor General Elena Kagan. Almost immediately she became the subject of intense public interest as we all pondered the impact she could have on important Suprem
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Stories From The Frontlines...Clifton Truman Daniel


Stories From the Frontlines is a partnership project between the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network and participating bloggers, offering open letters to President Barack Obama from active duty servicemembers, urging him to repeal DAD
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Pay No Attention To The Man Behind The Curtain!

Ah... the Wizard of Oz...That magic moment when Dorothy and friends are covering before the fiercesome visage of the Wizard that she has come so far and through so much peril, to see. Dorothy, in spite of her
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MAY 2, 2010 7:15PM

Special People

 Special People

Sometimes, as a blog writer I get rather caught up in the rut of writing exclusively about gay rights. I get so focused on this one aspect of life, I forget that life has many facets and more stories worth telling. As many of you already know, our… Read full post »
APRIL 28, 2010 11:29PM

The Exodus From Exodus

The Exodus From Exodus

Exodus International holds out the promise that anyone experiencing same-sex attractions can find a way out of homosexuality into the glorious world of heterosexuality, where milk and honey flow freely down streets of gold. They use a combination of faith and quack sc… Read full post »
APRIL 25, 2010 11:05AM

Ideal Families...Thanks Mike Huckabee

Ideal Families...A Picture Paints A Thousand Words

I have to be honest dear readers. Sometimes gay news gets me down. It seems like we are usually running in the same track of having to convince others that our lives have equal value to theirs. I feel like we… Read full post »
APRIL 20, 2010 5:14PM

DADT...Stepping Up The Pressure

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

DADT...Stepping Up The Pressure

Nothing breaks President Obama's facade of diplomatic neutrality...nothing. That man could outstare an iceberg and stay cooler longer. That fact has been true about our President in the face of some very vitriolic attacks over the cou
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Greene Vs. Sonoma County....Why Marriage Equality Is Important

What would you do if, in your golden years, you found yourself suddenly without you life long partner or spouse? Now add to that, county officials swooping in to claim your home and belongings because they do not recognize your… Read full post »
APRIL 13, 2010 1:20AM

Tshirt Pundits

Tshirt Pundits

What does gay pride mean to you? Do you see it as an expression of healthy respect for yourself and the way you were born into the world or as a flaunting of something private... that should have continued to remain private? I know I have… Read full post »
APRIL 7, 2010 11:01PM

I Married A Type A

I Married A Type A

O.k....blogging has not been so reliable these days...as I sure my frustrated readers are all too aware of. Part of this has had to do with the recent additions to our family. Raising five kids keeps you constantly moving after all. But....What
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