jay leffew

jay leffew
Sant Rosa, California, USA
September 02
GayFamilyValues Hello everyone, Welcome to the official Gay Family Values blogg by the Depfox family of YouTube. Many of you know that we were a private family Living in Northern California Who began making YouTube videos to help fight the passage of California's Proposition 8 banning gay marriage in our state constitution. Those videos were meant to show our life as an average, everyday gay family. We hoped that in showing our lives that we could help dispell many of the bad stereotypes about gay families and gay people in generall. We couldn't have imagined what would happen as a result of those first videos. We began to get tons of emails asking questions, showing support, and sharing stories of tragedy and hope. This blog will be a little different in that we will offer our perspective, as a gay family, on current events in life, gay news, the struggle for marriage equality, and everything in between. And...yes...we promise...it won't all be Youtube related. Please enjoy our crazy, disfunctionally slanted view of life and please visit us at the links posted on the right at our new site: www.Gay-family-values.com and were it all began, on Youtube.

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JANUARY 5, 2010 5:16PM

Wash, Rinse, Repeat

Wash, Rinse, Repeat

This is the playbook for NOM and those who would march beside them lockstep.

How to brainwash in six easy steps:

Step 1: Craft misleading petition campaigns that put the civil rights of gays and lesbians up to a popular vote.
Step 2: Tell lies about
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JANUARY 5, 2010 1:41PM

NOM...Rhode Island & Grief ;O(

NOM...Rhode Island, and Grief

Gay, lesbian, transgendered...no matter what label you claim, the one you will not be allowed to...is loved one. The right to marry seems lightyears away when the ones we love die. All we would want in such a moment is the right to honor our
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JANUARY 2, 2010 7:04PM

The Long Road Home

The Long Road Home

Hello everyone,

Way back when Jay and I did our first video for National Adoption Day I asked for anyone who had an adoption story they would like to share to please send it to us. the response was not exactly
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DECEMBER 31, 2009 3:37PM

The Best Of 2009 My Families List.

Year Round Up...The Best of 2009!

Chase away the storm clouds of that last post...its time for the best of 2009!

2010! Thats such an absurd number to me! That date always represented "the future"...you know...the one with flying cars and robots that did all our work for us before bec
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DECEMBER 31, 2009 3:39AM

Our Worst Moments Of 2009


Year Round Up...Our Worst moments of 2009


I cant believe we have been making Youtube videos for over a year now. It really has been a year of big highs and gut-wrenching lows. Never before in my life have I been this
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DECEMBER 29, 2009 3:38AM

Apron Strings...A Mothers Betrayel!

Apron Strings

Sometimes I read something in the blogosphere that sends my mind down shadowy paths. Today held just such an emotional ambush at Pams House Blend. "Christmas: Baby Please Come Home", written by Mercedes, is a diary post detailing her estranged relationship with her
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DECEMBER 26, 2009 6:51PM

First On-Screen Same-Sex Kiss?

Silent Film Swooning

Wings (1927) has the distiction of taking home the first Acadamy Award for "Best Picture" but did you know that it also has the distiction of showing the first on-screen same-sex kiss? Granted, it is presented as a "fraternal' kiss between one buddy sending his… Read full post »
DECEMBER 25, 2009 3:20AM

The LGBT Flag...A History A Lesson

"Know Your Mo"...The LGBT Flag

The Rainbow flag has been a symbol of gay rights for as long as I can remember being aware of there being such a thing as "gay". It has been a source of comfort and pride as
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DECEMBER 24, 2009 3:05AM

Ladies Knight Batgirl Comes Out...


Ladies Knight

Joe Bennet: Pencils/Jack Jadson: Inks/Alex Sinclair: Colors/Copyright DC Comics

Holy Homosexuals Batman! The joker must have slipped something into Batgirls drink because she doesn't like men in tights like we d*....Uh, I mean...like she used to!...and why
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Mexico City and Gay Marriage...Doin' it right

Do's and Don'ts for approval of marriage equality...the "Foot in the Door" method:

  • Do NOT submit to a popular state or nationwide vote.
  • Do NOT count on a single politician to be brave enough to take the heat alone or
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DECEMBER 21, 2009 3:42PM

Score One For Our Side

Monday, December 21, 2009

Score One For Our Side

British Lions rugby player Gareth Thomas has come out and, by all accounts, this is sending shockwaves through the rugby world.....which is AWESOME.

Alright..this blogger has to admit right from the start that I have no interest or knowledge
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DECEMBER 19, 2009 5:07PM

The Grass Is Always Greener...

Saturday, December 19, 2009

The Grass Is Always Greener

A long long time ago....before there was any gay marriage...

There was Cosca and Amola...

You probably already know that Jay and I are dyed-in-the-wool Star Wars fans. We will participate in just about anything that gets the Star Wars la
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DECEMBER 17, 2009 4:58PM

With Friends Like These...

Thursday, December 17, 2009

With Friends like These...

GLBTQ people are a very diverse group covering all classes and political backgrounds, but most GLBTQ people will tend to vote Democratic because of the perception that Democrats support our issues...and Democrats have no problem allowi
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Editor’s Pick
DECEMBER 16, 2009 3:34PM

Catholic Charities...Nothings For Free?

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Catholic Charities...Nothings For Free

Many of my readers may be following the developments with marriage equality in Washington D.C.

Marriage for Gays and Lesbians passed the City Council by an 11-2 vote. That alone is cause for celebration. But what of Catholi
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DECEMBER 15, 2009 3:01PM

A Gay President?

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

"What ifs?"...A Gay President.

What if America ...by some extreme outside chance, elected an openly gay President? Or... What if we elected someone we thought was straight only to have Them come out after election? How would our world be different today? Would
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DECEMBER 12, 2009 6:44PM


December 12, 2009


Rome may not have been built in a day, nor the Grand Canyon carved in a year, so why are so many of us down on marriage equality all the sudden?

It is true, that every vote that falls toward discrimination and exclusion of
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Editor’s Pick
DECEMBER 9, 2009 6:30PM

0 To Parenthood In 60 Seconds.....

0 To Parenthood In 60 Seconds.....

As my readers may know, we chose this month to tell our adoption story. This story was important for us to tell and we wanted to do the topic justice. We wanted to tell our adoption story because we remember how "lost… Read full post »
DECEMBER 8, 2009 1:59PM

Then They Came For Me...

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Then They Came For Me...

First they came for the communists, and I did not speak out—because I was not a communist;

Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out—because I was not a trade unionist;

Then they came for
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Gay Bashing Passages...The Sodom And Gomorrah Narrative

The Bible is one of the most quoted books in the world and if you are any shade of gay, you most likely have been the target of a great many Bible literalists who use the Bible to condemn our lives.
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DECEMBER 3, 2009 7:51PM

More On The Worm In The Big Apple

More On The Worm In The Big Apple

Given my level of general upset and dismay yesterday, I don't think I could have found the words to elloquently express my point of view...hell I would have settled for intelligable...but neither were forthcoming. Fortunatly though there are bloggers
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DECEMBER 2, 2009 2:09PM

The Pink Menace!

The Pink Menace!

My dads generation loves to point out how good the old days were....A simpler time, when milk and honey ran freely down golden streets. Of course, this is also inverse to the stories he told me about walking five miles to school, in the
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World AIDS day...And The Unbroken Thread Of Memory

Today is world AIDS day. While many of you who watch our Youtube channel already got a heads up about this, today is the actual day.

I'm having a difficult time today, thinking about how to talk about how AIDS
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DECEMBER 1, 2009 3:26AM

Uganda & America's Fundamentalists

Spreading The Light...Uganda and America's Fundamentalists

Not so long ago, America's largest export used to be things that we had built with our own two hands. However, these days, we export ideologies more than products.

Our latest gift (/sarcasm off) to the developing countries of the w
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NOVEMBER 28, 2009 6:43PM

Lean On Me

Lean On Me

The struggle for gay rights, and more specifically for marriage equality, has often been likened to other civil rights movements, from the Black civil rights movement of the 50's and 60's... to the struggle for women's rights. This usually raises alot of ire in the group
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NOVEMBER 26, 2009 3:17AM

Finding Hope

Finding hope

O.K. dear readers...its been another busy day with dentist appointments and haircuts so I find myself blogging really late (1 p.m....late for me...later for you).

Reading around the blogospere this afternoon I found an article at The Bilerico Project that resonated with a feeling I ha
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