jay leffew

jay leffew
Location
Sant Rosa, California, USA
Birthday
September 02
Bio
GayFamilyValues Hello everyone, Welcome to the official Gay Family Values blogg by the Depfox family of YouTube. Many of you know that we were a private family Living in Northern California Who began making YouTube videos to help fight the passage of California's Proposition 8 banning gay marriage in our state constitution. Those videos were meant to show our life as an average, everyday gay family. We hoped that in showing our lives that we could help dispell many of the bad stereotypes about gay families and gay people in generall. We couldn't have imagined what would happen as a result of those first videos. We began to get tons of emails asking questions, showing support, and sharing stories of tragedy and hope. This blog will be a little different in that we will offer our perspective, as a gay family, on current events in life, gay news, the struggle for marriage equality, and everything in between. And...yes...we promise...it won't all be Youtube related. Please enjoy our crazy, disfunctionally slanted view of life and please visit us at the links posted on the right at our new site: www.Gay-family-values.com and were it all began, on Youtube.

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On Cynthia Nixon and Balancing The Kinsey Scale


We've all heard the same tired, worn-out "Being gay is a choice" arguments before. We have heard it from religion when they want to characterize being gay as sinful, we here it on television when those same religious viewpoints are used/… Read full post »
JANUARY 22, 2012 10:48AM

What Makes A "Better" Parent?

What Makes A "Better" Parent?



Whether or not gay men men and women can parent has been a topic of conversation for ages now. I can remember it being debated when I was a teen and had a lesbian cuuple that lived across the street from me raisingRead full post »
DECEMBER 30, 2011 5:13PM

Foster Diaries: The Return of Baby Boy

Foster Diaries: The Return of Baby Boy


Well dear readers, it seems that life is bringing me full circle again. Many of you may also watch us on YouTube, and if so...you know that there is a new addition coming to our home. Way back in February of this/… Read full post »

Meeting Randy Roberts Potts...New Friends And Old Scars


We at gay family values have been fortunate enough to meet lots of other fantastic YouTubers. The great thing about meeting these people in person is that we really get to know them as the regular people. Sean Chapin was/… Read full post »

Holiday Traditions: Awkward Conversations With Family


I don't know if anyone has seen the the video floating around from Maggie Gallagher and the National Organisation for Marriage?  You know...the one in which she gives tips on how to talk to your loved ones about your oppos/… Read full post »

Setting Goals For Our Kids...Report card Time



This week was finally report card time for my son and daughter and anyone who's been through grade school can remember the nail-biting uncertainty everyone feels opening up those tiny manila envelopes. Parents want to know that their children ar/… Read full post »
NOVEMBER 12, 2011 9:01PM

99% My Husband Is Not The Enemy...

99%


In my humble north bay town of Santa Rosa a tent city has grown on the lawn of City Hall. They are Occupy Santa Rosa. I never thought that a town like mine would see an Occupy encampment, after all....we are not… Read full post »
OCTOBER 17, 2011 5:42PM

Right To Love....Just Don't Pray


Right To Love....Just Don't Pray



Many of my readers may already be aware that our family has been the focus of a documentary about Prop 8 and our YouTube activism called Right To Love: An American Family. The movie has been in production for quite a while and I/
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OCTOBER 8, 2011 7:34PM

Mommy Bloggers Strike Again

Saturday, October 8, 2011

Mommy Bloggers Strike Again



Life can give us a million and one reasons to lose hope. The news is full of examples of horrible things happening everyday. Some of this weeks examples include,
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SEPTEMBER 21, 2011 7:36PM

Where Do We Stand?...Tragedy & Triumph

Where Do We Stand?....Tragedy and Triumph



Yesterday saw the end of "Don't Ask Don't Tell" and one more victory was won in the long march towards equality. Celebrations are being held all over the nation and in the news. Everyone is… Read full post »
SEPTEMBER 17, 2011 8:57PM

When Does Ite Get Better For LGBT Seniors

When Does It Get Better For LGBT Seniors?


"It Gets Better"....those are the words we tell every LGBT teen who is suffering alone and trying to come to grips with themselves and their place in a world that can be very hostile to anyone who is different. We/
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"Gay Panic" In The Larry King Trial...and The Value of A Life.


Dear readers...I am at a loss.


Perhaps a few of you may have read about the recent announcement that the trial for the murder of middle schooler Larry King by fellow middle schooler Brandon McInerney has/
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AUGUST 21, 2011 12:44AM

Letters Of Hope


Letters Of Hope


In the course of our YouTube work, My husband and I  receive many letters from LGBT people who desperately need to tell their stories to someone. Sometimes it's a Thanks for helping them to see that loving someone of the same gender and/
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AUGUST 13, 2011 9:58PM

Getting Schooled Again...

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Getting Schooled Again...


While the nation considers the impact of the credit downgrade, the worst of the worst of the GOP battle it out to see who can be the most rabidly homophobic nominee for president, and the internet
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JULY 30, 2011 9:59PM

Be FAIR....

Be FAIR....


Why is it that some individuals think that pretending gays are invisible actually makes us not exist? That seems to be the functional logic behind those who are opposing the California's Fair, Accurate, Inclusive, and/
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JULY 24, 2011 2:02PM

Its Only Words....

Its only words...


When you hear the terms "No homo" and "That's so gay", whats your emotional response? If your of a certain age, these terms are relatively new and maybe they don't resonate with you so much. At least, not to the same/
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JULY 21, 2011 11:29AM

The Case Of The Terrible Tattlers

The Case Of The Terrible Tattlers

Its was a hot, gritty summer....The kind of summer where the sun strikes shadows so deep you can swim in them and the heat drives people to do crazy things. The kinda things that always lead to trouble. And when when that trouble&n
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JUNE 30, 2011 2:13PM

I Love Being Gay

I Love Being Gay


Hello again dear readers. A few of you may know that I have become involved in a new vlogging collab channel with four other youtubers who's work I both respect and enjoy. Together with Dan (explorationB), Blair (Dirblair), Josh (joshrimer), and Paul(gaycomicgeek),
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JUNE 4, 2011 2:52AM

It's Time...The OCD Post

 

It's Time...The OCD Post


Well dear readers one thing I have always tried to be with you is honest. This blog...while being an outlet for sharing information about gay rights and marriage equality, is also about the personal lives of our family and lately you may
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MAY 21, 2011 7:46PM

Lifeline

Lifeline


"It is in your weakest moments that you find your true strength" - Unknown

O.K....I'm sitting here staring at this screen trying to figure out how to put these words on the page and I am coming to the realization that I will think in circles/
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Gay Marriage In New York...A Shifting Paradigm?

Marriage equality in the state of New York has been a contentious battle for a very long time. Long time readers may remember some very bitter and angry posts from me around the end of 2009. At that/
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Diaries....Echoes of the past


Well dear readers...due to issues with blogger I was not going to post today but sometimes things happen in our lives that are too big to keep inside ourselves and this blog has become part confessional for me in addition to being a… Read full post »
MAY 14, 2011 3:45PM

New Rites Of Passage...

New Rites Of Passage...The Cellphone

One of our kids favorite movies is "Horton Hears A Who". Its a very funny movie and my kids have seen it a billion times. One of my favorite and funniest of scenes in the film is when Mayor McDodd's/
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APRIL 30, 2011 9:06PM

What The Light Reveals...

What The Light Reveals

There are some events, that when they occur, shine a light on our society and ourselves in such a manner that it can leave us shocked, outraged, and saddened that such things can still happen. The most recent example of this/
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APRIL 24, 2011 12:07AM

No Samaritans

No Samaritans


All of us would like to think that if something truly horrible happened to us that someone would step forward to help us. If we are in a car accident or having a medical event, we would want someone to call the/
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