Dear Cary,
My 17 year old daughter is dating a 33 year old man. They live in two states and she would lie to us to friend’s sleepover to see him. She was a model daughter and a straight A honor student before this event. You can image how shocking it was when we found this out.
As parents we tried to reason with her that their relationship with this man is not health. My daughter brought your article “My parents forbid me to see the guy I love” to me. I tried to tell her your article is about 2 young people falling in love and not a much older person preying on a young girl. We would all benefit to know your intention. Did you mean when you wrote that article that parents should bless a relationship between their 17 year old daughter and a man twice her age. Also, if he loved her, would he, as he did, help her lie to her parents so they could get a hotel together? She is 12 months older than what is legally a felony, does that make it OK?
Please help.
Desperate mother
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Dear Amy,
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Wish we could help, but you know what Art & Larry are like after a few beers.
If it were me I'd ask the guy over for dinner & talk about it.
Someone did, anyway. Maybe it wasn't Cary.
Apart from my earlier advice, about asking the guy to dinner, maybe reflect a moment longer on the word 'preying,' which you used up there.
A straight A honors girl with commitment enough to share a similar-plight story with her mom is doing something right.
Okay she lied about the sleep-over ~ what, you never lied, even by omission, to your parents.
17 is wings. I have 2 daughters myself, now 21 & 25. Sure they made some weird choices, but it all worked out.
I love your love & concern, but this girl sounds like she's in love. The last thing you want to do do at this stage in each of your lives is alienate her.
She knows you don't approve, but she's willing to risk that.
Meet her halfway. Meet the guy. You never know, he might be as smitten with her as she is with him.
Hope so.
Who looks at dates anymore ?? !! Ditzy me !
They're probably already in Valparaiso by now, & she's barefoot in a ten by ten apartment while he's working the fishing boat trying to make ends meet, do you think, or maybe they're on The Grand Canal in Venice, cruising to meet his grandmother, The Dogaressa.
Perhaps she came to her senses & went back to her mom.
How will we ever know ?
Bloody Art. Where does he find these people ?
Love,
Cary.
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