Reentry. Sunday June 6, 2010

Divorce Bard's Blog

...Iambic pentameter is for the ear. Read it out loud.

Divorce Bard

Location: pretty how town, USA
Birthday: February 13

Bio: While the ashes of marriage #2 were cooling, I began a journal here in verse, to keep myself out of trouble. So far so good, and one day at a time. I took a hiatus this past January, and I missed it terribly. Writing daily had changed the way I think - not my opinions, but the process of thinking itself. So here I am back again, and hungry. I began with three rules: (1) Iambic pentameter, (2) Perfect rhyme, and (3) It had to be true (no hyperbole). I hereby amend rule number 3: If I'm writing about myself, yes, it has to be true. But it doesn't, if I want to tell a story.

MY RECENT POSTS

In My Kitchen
April 08, 2012 01:08AM
A Faded Drawing
March 31, 2012 09:33PM
An Incident.
February 26, 2012 05:13PM
Hands
February 18, 2012 09:26PM
A Valentine to My Two Kids. Tuesday Feb 14, 2012
February 14, 2012 01:56AM

MY RECENT COMMENTS

“Man, what does a guy have to write in this town to get some attention like this?”
May 25, 2012 01:14AM
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May 10, 2012 12:40AM
“...and there was a little period, a couple of years ago, when it was really touch…”
May 02, 2012 01:32AM
“42? I can't remember anything special about that year at all. 56: I only just fig…”
May 02, 2012 01:31AM
“I have to agree with Chicken Maaan. I don't know what it is, exactly, about seei…”
May 02, 2012 01:25AM

Divorce Bard's Links

December: 12/31/10 A Very Small Thing; 12/30/10 Anonymous #11 (A Villanelle); 12/29/10 Block; 12/28/10 Coffee #6 (A Triloet); 12/27/10 Anonymous #10; 12/26/10 12" Predicted; 12/25/10 Anonymous #9; 12/24/10 Rant #2; 12/23/10 Personal Ad; 12/22/10 After Moore: VIII (Goodnight #38); 12/21/10 After Moore: VII; 12/20/10 After Moore: VI; 12/19/10 After Moore: V; 12/18/10 After Moore: IV; 12/17/10 After Moore: III; 12/16/10 After Moore: II; 12/15/10 After Moore: I; 12/14/10 -7 c.; 12/13/10 Tannenbaum; 12/12/10 A Walk; 12/11/10 Anonymous #8 (Rain Predicted); 12/10/10 Diphthong; 12/9/10 December Drive; 12/8/10 Recounting #2; 12/7/10 Driving Home; 12/6/10 Goodnight #37; 12/5/10 Mask; 12/4/10 Anonymous #7; 12/3/10 First #2; 12/2/10 Missed; 12/1/10 Goodnight #36
November: 11/30/10 Goodnight #35; 11/29/10 5 Syllables; 11/28/10 Sanctuary; 11/27/10 Solomon Moment; 11/26/10 Goodnight #34; 11/25/10 Gratitude; 11/24/10 Macy's; 11/23/10 First; 11/22/10 Dear Old; 11/21/10 I Um...; 11/20/10 Their Absence; 11/19/10 Anonymous #6; 11/18/10 So There; 11/17/10 Late Autumn; 11/16/10 Rescue; 11/15/10 Award; 11/14/10 Fantasia; 11/13/10 Support Network; 11/12/10 Listen; 11/11/10 Parts of Speech; 11/10/10 Errant; 11/9/10 Curiosity; 11/8/10 Memoirs; 11/7/10 Hunter; 11/6/10 Cusp; 11/5/10 Balance Due #2; 11/4/10 Carmen; 11/3/10 Coffee #5; 11/2/10 Easy Now; 11/1/10 On/Off
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JUNE 6, 2010 11:05PM

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I had my mom this weekend for a visit.
It'd been about two years since she was by.
She'd never seen my place. I'd wondered, is it
Good enough? And does that matter? Why
Would I imagine she might not approve?
She's never criticized my ev'ry move.
On Saturday, we walked about the town.
Today, the kids played soccer back to back.
We all went to a restaurant, sat down
To lunch, and no one talked about the lack
Of husband, or of wife, both at the table.
It's been some time since all of us were able
To sit together, confident of calm.
The weekend was important: any qualm
I had, that kept her home, and uninvited
Is largely eased; I'm cautiously delighted.

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Sounds good, DB. A good visit, a good lunch. Funny how we never stop wanting our parents approval.

trilogy

June 06, 2010 11:11 PM

Today's title will make me ponder for a while, DB. The final two words make me do that. Always, the best. ~R~

FusunA

June 06, 2010 11:21 PM

good for all DB, life is too short for hard feelings..

rita shibr

June 06, 2010 11:41 PM

Glad things went well, DB. Parental visits are never easy. I'm vowing to myself to never ever sigh at my children's housekeeping (or lack thereof). I will not sigh. Not.

froggy

June 06, 2010 11:45 PM

I stood up so fast to applaud I knocked the chair over.

Kim Gamble

June 07, 2010 12:15 AM

good for you!

PattyJane

June 07, 2010 12:37 AM

"cautiously delighted" is a good place to be.

mypsyche

June 07, 2010 12:43 AM

"I had my mom this weekend for a visit.
It'd been about two years since she was by.
She'd never seen my place. I'd wondered, is it
Good enough? And does that matter? Why
Would I imagine she might not approve?
She's never criticized my ev'ry move."

i know this place & wrote about it after my mom's visit last summer. appreciate the sound of this echo.

Renatta Laundry

June 07, 2010 12:54 AM

Family harmony is such a lovely thing, especially when it's genuine and there are no more little tensions in attendance.

ladyslipper

June 07, 2010 02:15 AM

Congratulations on your cautious delight! I am happy for you.

Sparking

June 07, 2010 03:42 AM

Glad your weekend went so well. Calm and delight are here in every line. I can almost see your smile.

anna1liese

June 07, 2010 06:25 AM

After the initial awkward moment of assembling at the table, and one is not there who used to be, it is an act of grace for all there to just relax and enjoy . Your family is graceful.

Linnnn

June 07, 2010 07:46 AM

Good for you, and great poem. R.

SheilaTGTG55

June 07, 2010 09:41 AM

Nice.

Everyone handles divorce differently. I always thought of my post-divorce journey as an "odyssey unto myself," whereupon I "found me" again. No hyperbole there: sometimes we do get lost w/in the confines of a person and/or family. Seven years after leaving, I still have no regrets.

Sounds like you're doing OK.

elsma03

June 07, 2010 10:07 AM

I echo that we never stop seeking our parents approval. But I also remember your mother as a very serene, graceful, "within herself" person -- someone who oozed graciousness from every pore. Glad you made the in-person reconnect...

Chocolate Moose

June 07, 2010 08:06 PM

Hello everyone. Boy the reaction that this one got, wow. Thank you all so much, for reading and commenting.

trilogy, isn't it amazing? I'm over 50, she's the only parent left, and STILL wanting her approval.

Fusun, thank you. I'm glad you like the title. The occasion did feel like I was breaking through something.

rita, you got THAT right.

froggy, correct: you will not sigh. You will not sigh. You will not sigh.

Kim, hey take it easy! I can see the headlines now: POETRY CAUSES HOUSEFIRE, ARTIST KILLED

pattyjane, thanks. Been missing you around here.

mypsyche: hey welcome to my blog! I stopped over to read some of your stuff last night. I hope you are well, and in good spirits.

Renatta, isn't it funny? The worries were all mine. She just came to visit.

ladyslipper, thank you for your hopeful wish.

Sparking, thank you. I do think life in general is on the mend.

anna1. I did cheat a little, by writing in the car on the way home (2 hours). But it really was a nice lunch. Honest.

Linnnn, actually we were all there -- I worried that the poem might not be clear. That was what made the event so graceful, indeed.

SheilaTGTG55, thank you for your positive words. I'm glad you stopped by.

elsma03, welcome to my digs! I wandered through your favorites tonight, and found someone else's work to follow. I'm glad you stopped by.

Moose, welcome back. I haven't seen you as much lately. I'm pleased and impressed that you remember her that way. Thanks.

And goodnight, everyone. I promised myself I'd get to bed at a decent hour tonight. Failed again.

And thanks again.