I really don't think what I expected in life was that far beyond the demands that other people make.
I really don't think friendships are that hard or should be that hard. I really don't think my stalkers were ever trying to be friends.
I would rather have friends than enemies. However I am not going to do just anything and everything somebody wants me to do in order to be their friend. A true friend understands and accepts a person for what they are and understands that human beings learn and grow in life and that friendship is a journey through life where both individuals grow and neither is perfect.
Harsh judgement is not a way to nurture a friendship and after harsh judgement is passed over and over again it becomes harder to want to learn from the person delving out the harsh judgement.
I am of and have the perspective that people make mistakes and it is better to forgive and forget that to bear grudges. However I have been placed in the position in life by certain un-named individuals that my life was put in danger and career path ruined because of harsh judgement passed where I had to do and be just like somebody else wanted me to in order to fit in with their plan.
Things and people just don't work that way and these people were so aggressive about what they wanted in life it was hard not to see that their ways were wrong. It is not the way of things to force your views and plans for other people on them as it would naturally become obvious that one is there forcing their will on another and altering the natural balance of things.
If this is the way they practice; than this is the way they practice. I wouldn't expect that someone wouldn't notice their intrusive behaviors and be leery of them and avoid doing what their intrusive ways insist be done for there might be obvious observations that would lead an individual of conscience that would have reservations towards being DIRECTED by another in such a way. Just because one of these people insist that is the way something is doesn't mean that is the way it is. I leave room to question things as another individual presents them for I know that perspective is a relative experience and subjective to the conditionings and understanding of other individuals around one and allow for the differences in those perspectives and don't force my way into the realm of others to do my silly things to them.