There has been a lot about writing here lately that was interesting reading.
I work at teaching writing and commenting as a professional on writing all week long. I look for a respite from that here. I do make weird posts about my rhetoric research interests and assignments, but not about improving writing in general. If I was a plumber then I would not be on OS debating say the wisdom of copper vs. PVC pipes. Did that all day already.
How I teach writing is stupidly simple. Ask my students -- yes, Dr. Fox is stupidly simple ;0). And I have had to think about this because a new job application might require a new teaching philosophy (arrgggh --gnashing of teeth). Other writing teachers will understand why in a work setting I will throw around terms like social construction, revisiting the Western perceptions of Sophistic rhetoric, collaboration, structured group work, and Freire. This stuff would bore others to tears. And rightfully so.
Anyway nobody nowhere (wll fix the grammar later) writes well when they are psychologically or emotionally uncomfortable. So I work hard the first few weeks of class creating trust and an open atmosphere regardless of the approach I have chosen or that has been prescribed for me (rhetorical theory, literary theory , technical writing, service-learning etc.). This is also regardless of whether I wake up that day thinking, "I love the world and people and must go see both" or (more likely) thinking, "I just want an hour or three more of sleep." Teaching is above all else performance. If my luck sucks on a given Tuesday it is not my students' fault and I better be able to suck it up and be sociable and informative for an hour or so in their presence. That is after all what I am paid to do.
Really people tend to like being in class. They work hard but they laugh and get to know each other. And when possible we talk about comedy and funny stuff.
OS is generally really good at making it possible for people to feel psychologically and emotionally comfortable while writing. I would hate to see anyone not post because he or she fears unasked for editing.
I edited someone yesterday calling for better writing who in that call misspelled sentence, capitalize, and proofread. If he or she had not been calling for higher standards in writing while not using them I would not have commented. I do apologize and regret my comment. It was a cheap shot. In my defense in my comment I noted that I misspell or misuse words a lot. Most of it is due to writing too fast, multi-tasking etc. Some of it is still due to some cognitive damage from chemo that means on first drafts I often use a homonym or some other similar sounding word for the word I mean. On the board in class the other day I wrote "deep" when I met "dip." A student noticed and I explained my goofiness and asked her to keep noticing and telling me so I could make corrections. This does not happen nearly as often as say in the early Fall so my situation is looking up ;0)
There are two writers here who have satirized or made comments about single mothers being less than others which make my skin crawl. One is a man most likely and the other is a married mother. Please just shut the f* up. Obviously, that is a topic that gets to me. I was once married but am now a single mother. It is a tough, tough row to hoe.
I also teach many exhausted single mothers going to school on little sleep primarily to improve the lives of their children. I am friends with other single mothers whose children are at Tyler's daycare. What we have in common is that we are all dancing as fast as we can. Therefore, I will unleash otherwise worthless skills in discourse analysis on these two writers' vicious and unethical use of text about single mothers either for a cheap laugh or self-promotion.
That was a ramble. Sorry.
Just trying to explain myself.
Tyler and I are going to bed soon.


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Sweetest dreams to both you and Tyler.
Also….some of he best writers in the world = single mothers. Must we point out the obvious...that the most finanacially sucessful writer of all time is JK Rowling. I think anyone who complains about single mothers writing is simply jealous of their vast life expereince that likely make their work of a higher quality than those who are performing the heckling...
nice post. I hope that you can find some calm in your world. Rest assured that people with superiority complexes are often hyper-critical of themselves and that probably can't make them feel any worst. Standing up for what you believe as a person is very important. I hope this stance makes you feel that.
As a single mother 90% of the time, I appreciate your kudos. It's hard to get the dishes clean, babies clean and on their way towards a productive life, let alone to sit down and write. Or ramble. And then take the time to proofread and edit. But we do it because we love it and in many ways it's theraputic. And to recieve praise in a forum such as this is the cake topper. It's a wonderful outlet and for some, the preferred venue for socialization when all you've heard all day is monosyllabic demands. Thank you, my friend. Rated.
As for teaching philosophy statements, if you get a good template, oh let me in on it! Please! I HATE writing those things. I always come off sounding formulaic and insincere in them, even if I really really mean it.
You make an excellent case for NOT editing/commenting on someone's work in that way. I'm with you. I want to enjoy myself here, not take an extended writers' class. Those classes are brutal and evil. Thank you but no.
And now I'll stop rambling. It's early. The Kid wanted to be up at 5:15. sigh.
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Thanks for this.
You've said before that you think it's unforgivable to develop a fictional character who's a single mother. It's not. True, this character isn't uplifting. But part of the intent of my writing is to agitate the reader. People get mad at the thought of bad mothers. That's why Jocelyn is the way she is.
I understand if it's not your cup of tea, but it's also not the ethical issue that you make it out to be. I don't write to offend people personally. I've put my trust in the belief that the real single moms out there have the dignity to read my blog without assuming that Jocelyn stands to represent them in any way.
JTH is a very specific kind of single mother--the tough girl who beat up other children in elementary school, bragged about it, couldn't wait to drop out of school, couldn't stop talking about it, thought education was for fags/pussies/assholes, took up smoking at 11 to look cool, paid for smokes she stole out of her mom's purse, started having sex at 12 for the thrill of it, routinely hung out/hooked up with "boys" 6 to 10 years older than her, started getting drunk on weekends at 13, achieved her much-coveted dropout status at 15 when she got pregnant, never considered giving up the child to somebody capable of raising it, never thought about finishing school, scoffed at the counselor who tried to steer her toward a GED...
JTH is my grade school best friend.
I don't read "her" blog to laugh at her. I read "her" blog because I've known her a dozen times over, and I find the real life JTH types infuriating, and I can't say so in "polite" society. So I appreciate reading JTH's over-the-top, self-satisfied rants, because they let me know somebody else thinks maybe that series of life choices isn't an optimal one. I find nothing admirable about a character who swaggers around boasting about how she got drunk in a bar and cracking a pool cue over some unsuspecting guy's head (or whatever other low-class thing she's cluelessly bragging about in most of her entries).
This fictional character engages in a mountain of patently antisocial and self-endangering behaviors that are rampant out there in the "real world."
Should satirical critique of those behaviors simply be off-limits?
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On another track entirely, Paulo Friere's corpse should be dug up, shot through the head, and set on fire.
There.
Now maybe we can have a nice violent argument among writing teachers about whether a "liberation" teaching philosophy based on third-world experiences is appropriate for the typical college freshman in the first-world.
I am making absolutely none of this up.
Your work is unethical and vicious promoting cheap laughs for self promotion. I don't care if others like it. I do not. So we agree on one point. I never will like your work even though I do get it. It is just inferior.
Since you are here I will answer the comment by noting why I consider your work to be unsuccessful satire. It is formulaic and coarse relying on 25 point lists filled with bathroom humor. If you don't fall back on that you employ descriptions of violence against some perceived Liberal idealized group. A tag line for a joke in your columns . . . . and I have not read any this year is "xyz xyz take a shit." The names of your children in the previous blogs I read were Afrocentric which is not funny. You referred to a Mexican women as "rat-faced." The appropriate adjective for your writing is hackneyed.
There are comedians who can present offensive material in a rhetorically significant way but you are not one of them. Not even close. I like the work of those comedians. I am not a prude. They don't rely on formulas or a coarse persona. They do rely on wit and arguments even when using obscene language. I believe the common wisdom is if one has to explain a joke it is not a good joke. So stop explaining to me why you are funny. You should not have to.
If plenty of single mothers like your work then why in the world do you care if some English teacher in Florida dislikes it?
I am not saying others should not find her funny. I just don't.
I only mentioned this at all because there have been exactly three writers for whom I have written something negative. That was one of the more infamous and please notice I have not done so again until I answered Jocelyn's comment.