#9 “Well, you think what you want about me; I’m not changing. I like me. My wife likes me. My customers like me. ‘Cause I’m the real article. What you see is what you get.” Del Griffith - Planes, Trains & Automobiles 1987
How much do we compete in relationships? Is it a constant battle to seek assurance that there is commitment? I always feel like the term relationship is like a courting of two people with an alias. The I has become We! Are we deemed, "couples, partners, mates, significant others"? What happened to our own identity? The person that you've been your whole life. Have we given in to the greatest competition of all? Hmmm...
While in the relationship have you lost your competition with your identity?
You are no longer you, you are the "other half", the "dynamic duo", every one's "dream couple". I find it funny that we seek our identity throughout our lives, and then we meet someone, and become two instead of one. That's right.. two, we are responsible to be two people. Your not just you. I'm not just me. Its "US", "WE", "THE TWO OF THEM". Isn't it great? Not only are we held liable and accountable for ourselves, our mate is equally measured.
We spend our lives teaching our kids to be independent, to be solid, and yet, when they are in a relationship they have lost that individuality we've only spent 18 plus years developing.
I'm not knocking relationships, they are great.. ups, and downs; right and wrong; happiness and sadness.... joy and lust. But, honesty do you walk around in a relationship and not feel labeled? Are you competing with every other relationship and now judging yourself against theirs? Its inevitable, we can't step away from competition. We are damned if we do and damned if we don't.
For relationships do we have to change? Are we now becoming reluctant to change because of the pressure to conform in a society full of skepticism and twosomes? I just want to be me.
"Its not you, its me".
That is my favorite line. What a cop out. We are so pathetic, yet it's so true. "It really is you, I just didn't know how to tell you that without getting the blame for it". So funny. Ok.. enough, remember... we all compete for love, we all compete for time, relationships were invented to put the two together. Hallelujah, what a success, competition is born. I guess we just strive to be labeled.
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