#24 “You know how they say we only use 10 percent of our brains? I think we only use 10 percent of our hearts.” John Beckwith -Wedding Crashers 2005
10% of our hearts huh? Well... I don't know about you, but it seems like when it comes to love, relationships and fidelity we use about 90% of our hearts and 10% of our brains. We devote so much time and energy into the person we love that we often at times don't think we are competing for their affection in return.
Is love a one way street? Is love a 50/50 split? What is the difference between love and relationships?
I, along the rest of the population contest that love is most often at times used to get what you want. Love is Power! I have seen so many engage in what they call "love" to excel at a competition with their partner. But, looking at relationships who is giving more love? And why is someone always giving more? Love can't be 50/50 it just can't. Love can be expelled without a taker, or a receiver, yet completely blindsided by the naive and ignored by the loved.
Does love ultimately make you happy?
I look around for symbols of love. I like to see how people exude their love and affection towards one another. Do we maintain our intimate space by being less than 18 inches away from our partners? Or are we cold, non-verbally sustained from intimacy? How close is too close? Is it possible to love your friend, yet not ok to be intimate with them?
When I talk about love and how we all compete for it, I basically want to see what it is about it that we run from.
If love is 50/50 what are we trying to accomplish? We want it, yet we detract it from those we don't want to receive it from. When we use the word "love" to someone we anticipate the transfer or exchange of the word back. When we don't hear it back we feel rejected. Or, if we hear it all the time we don't take it for face value. We want to compete for love, yet we don't want our hearts to break.
Can a heart be broken?
Remember the first time you said I love you, did you mean it? Or were you trying to get what you wanted? Maybe if we spent more time loving ourselves we wouldn't seek the love of others and we'd actually be able to give it out without a hidden agenda. Is love meant to change the relationship or to intentionally better it? I was once called a heart-breaker, but maybe, just maybe.. I wasn't open to love and that heart never had a reason to break. Did I win?
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