#46 “She’s gone. She gave me a pen. I gave her my heart, she gave me a pen.” Lloyd Dobler - Say Anything 1989
Just how much do we know about the path we want to take. Career, life, relationships, family... friends. Are we trying to find our way and mimic the roles that are laid out for us already? Are we becoming more of a unit, instead of an individual in the label of life? Have we lost our own identity? If so, who's to say we can find it again.
"You used to be fun. You used to be warped and twisted and hilarious... and I mean that in the best way - I mean it as a compliment! " - Lloyd
What dictates a successful relationship? Not just a lovey dovey relationship, I mean a career relationship. A friend relationship. Even a family relationship. If you had to pin point why you are engaged in the time and energy with these folks, would you be able to identify yourself through all the judgment? Do we tend to adapt to our surroundings for ultimate survival? Or are we adapting to another for ultimate acceptance?
When we put it all out there, are we waiting for someone to reciprocate? Or are we hoping to be rejected? Is rejection safe? Why don't we accept it?
Its a classic case of need want and want need. We want what we want, we need what we need, yet to obtain the middle underline no-pressure desire of the want; we just end up needing. Can we ultimately "say anything"? Are we allowed to speak up, not be ashamed, or feel embarrassed? Why is it when people are drunk, they throw out "I love you man's" like they really mean it? And the funny thing is...people believe them.
If we continue to put our internal desires on the outside, have we crossed the line of security within our relationships?
To determine a "safe-net" with people, we must determine our own boundaries of humiliation. Are we supposed to speak subconsciously, or are we supposed to think before we speak? The best words of advice I've received was to tell it like it is, yet, not everyone is as eager to hear it like its said. If we are so cautious on words, and less responsive to action, there really wouldn't be anything to challenge or even talk about.
Alot more action... and a lot less talking... I mean really!
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