"Good morning. Lucy! Lucy! Hey, hey, hey. Okay, I know this is hard for you to understand right now, but we are actually seeing each other."
Henry
- 50 First Dates 2004
Think about this.... if you had to start all over, every day, to prove to someone who you were; just how creative would you have to get for them to re-fall in love with you? I imagine a day full of frustration, sacrifice, rejection, apathy and tryst. We as human beings relate to the routine, the commonality in which we align ourselves with our other halves, and anything outside the routine takes a patience man. So, by challenging the proving of worth; love; and commitment to your mate, it can takes years for some, and lifetimes for others, and the clock is just ticking. If you imagine having to reinvent that spark each day, think about the challenges you'd face each night before you wake.
I sometimes think if we spent everyday in that mindset; would we ultimately be better friends, lovers and mates? I would suffice to say that creating love leads to love, and reinventing the love leads to commitment. But, given the circumstance...
Just how would I start my day if I was a blind reflection to someone else..
Well, I would make sure I got up first... we don't want any shocking, flying fists, or elbows type of introduction. Then I would secondly make sure that the coffee was brewed, the paper was unfolded and the video montage I created of our life was playing. I'm sure I would mimic the movie here and play a catchy tune in the background. One that is similar to the life in which I lead; yet something I wouldn't get sick of and highlighted the greatest moments of my love's history. I would then find the little things that made the relationship tick at such an early period of time.
Maybe its an article of clothing, or a favorite food that creates the tone. Either way, it would have to be consistent and something that I know my mate would like. Something that provided the "wow" factor of .. "I can't believe you remembered that".
I'd bring out the movies we watched, the songs we've sung to. I would steer clear of pictures because we all know pictures are memories... and we need to re-create the future of love, not the past of love. I would have to take a stretch here to say that this is already challenging to say the least. Life is full of ups and downs, and yet, trying to reinvent the relationship each day would just be a moot point, right?. Ok.. time to re-focus. I need to dig deeper... hmmm
Maybe a destination would entice the relationship. Board a plane each day to a different destination. A trip to New York, a trip to Chicago, Miami, even Boston. Take the day to explore the history of the city to see if the city creates history of the spark once had.
Is this do-able? Is this realistic? How is it that falling in love and building friendships are so easy, and trying to re-discover them is much much harder. Wouldn't it be safe to say that love, relationships, friendships and even partnerships are work? We have to think harder, play quicker, judge less and enjoy more. It may be a few minutes a day that makes the whole week. It may be one wrong word that sets the tone of silence. Either way... how do we know when its time to reinvent? Is it too late? Have we woken up in the wrong bed this whole time?
"You erased me from your memories because you thought you were holding me back from having a full and happy life. But you made a mistake. Being with you is the only way I could have a full and happy life. You're the girl of my dreams... and apparently, I'm the man of yours." - Henry
The Beach Boys... "Wouldn't it be nice..."
Lyrics:
Wouldn't it be nice if we were older
Then we wouldn't have to wait so long
And wouldn't it be nice to live together
In the kind of world where we belong
You know its gonna make it that much better
When we can say goodnight and stay together
Wouldn't it be nice if we could wake up
In the morning when the day is new
And after having spent the day together
Hold each other close the whole night through
Happy times together we've been spending
I wish that every kiss was neverending Wouldn't it be nice
Maybe if we think and wish and hope and pray it might come true
Baby then there wouldn't be a single thing we couldn't do
We could be married And then we'd be happy
Wouldn't it be nice
You know it seems the more we talk about it
It only makes it worse to live without it
But lets talk about it Wouldn't it be nice
Good night my baby
Sleep tight my baby
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L--cqAI3IUI
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Thanks scanner
Probably the best advice I can think of on that elusive subject. I love your analysis and play on ideas, and I love the hidden logic. Enjoyed this piece very much, rated.
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