"Would you like me to seduce you?"
Mrs. Robinson
The Graduate
1967
I am back to doing what I love doing. Talking about films, life, and how the two just intertwine and piggy back one another. I chose The Graduate for my kick off back from my blog-cation! A few reasons come to mind...
First, I've heard this movie title in random conversations over the past week.
Second, the word seduction seems to be a bit classifiable in today's society.
So here we go...
Life, life is and always is a seducing act. We are seduced by the media, we are seduced by marketing products and most importantly we are seduced by gratification and satisfaction. Life goes about a few different philosophies when seduction is introduced. A person can seduce, a smell can seduce, an act can seduce, and a visual can seduce.
But when has seduction gone too far?
I always embarked on this interest in marketing. Knowing just what buttons to push to get someone to make a choice or act upon an uncomfortable circumstance to step outside ones comfort zone. It is a situation where you know you want something, do not need it and ultimately you are suckered in.
Is seduction about being suckered in?
I tend to find that it takes one to seduce and one to jump, but, both to engage. Seduction of choices beyond a marketing campaign or in product isolation is far fetched from seduction of intimacy. I used to think that "making love" was just something married people said to express their "seduction" in the bedroom. I used to think that "screwing" was something non-married people referred to to make a point that they "nailed" that hard to reach catch, or someone they've called a conquest.
So what do I think about seduction outside of willing and able participants to evoke on a purchase, or dive into a great slice of pie or even a curious wine or cheese? I think seduction is turning into the word "infidelity". I don't know why I immediately think of that, but, perhaps the film was strictly about that.
I think that the world's most ambiguous question is "why do people cheat?". I really don't think that can ever be defined or narrowly answered. However, the seduction seen in this film identified that seek for thrill and power. I ultimately have to say that seduction is about thrill and power. The will over the way, the way into the will. Seduction is not just sexual it is mental.
I was talking about the difference between mental affairs and physical affairs the other day, thinking which is worse. Thinking how can one claim "mentally" that that is not an affair? Or how can the physical just strictly be considered an affair? Sometimes life test us in making choices, sometimes life gives us mini excerpts of what is a consequence and what is a thrill.
Can one say that seduction is all mental? Can we say that seduction starts out as mental and creates physical temptation? Or do we simply reduce it to a physical act justified through mental interpretation? I have to think, while seducing or while engaging, physical or not, the head game is just as dis-loyal, it is actually even worse. Your body will change as you age, your mind will continue to challenge the world and think with curiosity.
But, since when do we realize that we are seducing?
Is it after we've conquered the conquest?
Is it before the candles are set and the wine is poured?
Perhaps it is in the blink of an eye and we've winked our way into forbidden opportunity.
Or perhaps its when we look into the eyes of our lovers and realize that seduction should be a daily part of a a great relationship. I guess as long as the relationship isn't forbidden.
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It was an unforgettable film for me when I saw it in the theater over 40 years ago. A very early open call on Open Salon in late May, 2008 was to write about a memorable film and I chose "The Graduate." It was my first post to make the cover here, although the editors forgot to give it an EP.
Or opinions.. I would be burned at the stake at high noon..:)
designanator... the music was so important as well. Congrats on your cover. Bummer about the EP. I am sure it was fabulous. Send me the link if you still have it around. I'd love to read it.
CC... you make me laugh. Too funny!!!! I think you were onto something there, keep brainstorming ;-)
Dr. Spud.. brilliant is true!!! I tried to touch on cheating as seduction, but, I think in reality life is a huge seduction of temptation. Food, material things, even attention. It's interesting to say the least.
Linda.. you'd get nothing but hugs!! You are awesome!