A Dragonfly in the Ointment

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Dragonfly

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Salon.com
AUGUST 26, 2008 12:59PM

Lay off Elizabeth Edwards

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This item was on CNN this morning, apparently some people are pissed at Elizabeth Edwards for having the gall to keep mum about her husband’s affair.

 

Excuse me? You mean you’re angry at the cheated on spouse for not trotting her private life for your scrutiny? Dude, you got some cojones there. I mean, how dare she not make public her humiliation? How dare she not play her marriage drama out in public for us to watch, and for Rush to comment on? What was she thinking?

 

Oh, get over yourselves.

 

It was not Mrs. Edwards job to inform us of her husband’s affair for a couple of reasons.

  1. It’s none of our damn business.
  2. She chose what was best for her and her family over what was best for the rest, because the rest don’t get a vote (see reason 1).

 If you expected any differently, I got a nice, if slightly used bridge I can sell you, cheap.

 

And what do the rest get out of this whole mess? Let’s see, we have lost a articulate and passionate public advocate for the little guy at a time when the nation is deciding it’s fate for the next 4 or 8 years. We have lost an articulate and passionate public advocate for better health care, at a time when the nation’s health care system is going down the crapper. Gee, I feel better. Isn’t the game of Morals Gotcha fun?

 

Oh, don’t get me wrong, John Edwards screwed up, royally. If I ever get a chance to whack that man upside the head and scream “What were you thinking?!”, I will. But his “crime” had nothing to do with us, and neither did Elizabeth’s silence. She owes us nothing.

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I almost agree.

She knew that it was out there waiting to emerge in the vetting, yet she allowed us to waste time and a LOT of money on him in the primary. That was a disservice to us all.

She could have done it exactly the way it played out in the last month only it would have been the right time to do it BEFORE wasting all that energy.

Otherwise, I would be with you all the way. Once you reach a certain level of importance in the political and public discourse, you start to have duties to the people who are behind you, not just to your and your family's interests.

And if the Clinton situation is any indication, the jury is in, and it is the whole family running when one of them runs.
Spot on, Dragonfly. Isn't it enough that she had to endure this on her own and probably just got to the point that she was moving on? Isn't it enough that she is battling cancer? Criminey.
I understand what you are saying Priddy, however I think even public figure have a right to certain amount of privacy when it comes to private matters that have no bearing on the public discourse. I don’t think an affair should be in the public discourse, unless secrets were passed during pillow talk. If I believed otherwise, John Edwards deserves the blame for the debacle, not his wife.
I don't believe that John Edwards humiliated Elizabeth. He humiliated himself. Her dignity remains intact.
I'm a bit of a contrarian on this one... since I still think, despite the scandal, that Edwards dropped out of the race too soon.

Their goal of telling the story of the two Americas needed more time. As (someone whose name I cannot remember) said on Democracy Now last night, the real scandal is the 37 million people living in poverty. Not to mention the millions more who are not at poverty-level, but are without health insurance.
Call me a moron, but I supported John Edwards.

But this is clearly a red herring--a story about people's unhappiness with the (wronged!) wife of a former candidate, thrown out there on the same day as some extremely embarrassing news about the presumptive Republican nominee's new running mate. This story should be ignored.
What upsets me the most about the fallout from John Edwards affair was the absence of Elizabeth Edwards' voice concerning healthcare at the DNC. She had important points to make, earned the right to make them, and is not going to be around forever to be heard. I would have liked to see Michele Obama and Jill Biden walking out with her to a podium to support her right to speak. As someone else noted her dignity was intact. They needed to keep the National Enquirer's poster boy far far away. But not his wife.