"YOU ARE NOT THAT INTERESTING” or....can you write a memoir?
“I dislike modern memoirs. They are generally written by people who have either entirely lost their memories, or have never done anything worth remembering.” Oscar Wilde

Like many of you here at OS, I regularly surf the bookshelves at my local bookstore and spend a good deal of time checking out new releases. In all my years (and I’m not telling how many) I have not seen so many “memoirs” on the shelves. I call it the Me, Myself, and I phase of book publishing; and, dear lord, I hope it is just a phase. Disclosure: I once thought about writing my own memoir (is that redundant?) but after listing five things interesting about my life, I decided not to do it, because even those five things weren’t very interesting. So how was I ever going to get through maybe 92,000 words (which, according the great gods of agenting, is the norm. Norm. Be normal and write a boring memoir?)
I could list the recent memoirs I’ve looked at, but I don’t want to get tacky on a Saturday morning. Let’s have a good weekend. (However, get this! There’s this loooooog memoir by some guy named Bush who claims to have been the President of the United States! Hahahaha).
I’m slurping my second cup of coffee -Community Coffee from New Orleans. Nah, nah Starbucks – and decided to list some memoirs I have read that I found rather fascinating. PLEASE ADD TO THE LIST….OS PEOPLE LOVE TO READ! Here’s my 10.(ps I’m leaving out what are called “misery memoirs” like that guy that fell into a million tiny pieces or whatever)
Graham Greene, whose A Sort of Life is a brilliant fragment of an Edwardian childhood containing one sensational (and slightly dubious) revelation that as an adolescent he played russian roulette on Berkhamsted Common.
Winston Churchill, My Early Life. A life well-lived!
Rick Bragg, All Over But the Shoutin” Won the Pulitzer Prize (not that it's always an indicator). The author states: “This is not an important book. It is only the story of a strong woman..."
Memoirs of Catherine the “ Great II” of Russia as Written in Her Own Hand. Do you really want to know about the part about her sleeping with horses?
James McManus, Positively Fifth Street. The author's journey to the final table of the 2000 World Series of Poker, but also the murder trial for Binon of the Horseshoe Casino, as well as the state of women poker pros. . Maybe you think watching poker on TV is boring, but this book is not!

Eudora Welty, One Writer’s Beginnings. "I am a writer who came of a sheltered life. A sheltered life can be a daring life as well. For all serious daring starts from within."
Edward Abbey, Desert Solitaire: A Season in the Wilderness

St. Augustine, Confessions . Perhaps the first autobiography in Western literature, the “ Church Father” recounts his journey from sinner to saint, from the boy who stole pears from a neighbour's tree to the voice of key Christian doctrines.
Simone de Beauvoir, Memoirs of a Beautiful Daughter. "The most innocent conversations were full of hidden traps; my parents construed my words with their own idiom and ascribed to me ideas that had nothing in common with what I really thought. I found myself repeating Barres' phrase: 'Why have words when their brutal precision bruises our complicated souls'. As soon as I opened my mouth, I provided them with a stick to beat me with, and once more I would be shut up in that world which I had spent years trying to get away from, in which everything, without any possibility of mistake, has its own name, its set place and its agreed function, in which hate and love, good and evil are as crudely differentiated as black and white, in which from the start everything is classified, catalogued, fixed and formulated, and irrevocably judged; that world with the sharp edges, its bare outlines starkly illuminated by an implacable flat light that is never once touched by the shadow of doubt."
Jack Douglas, My Brother Was an Only Child. Privately printed in 1947 and sent to 400 of his friends, stayed on the bestseller lists for months in 1959. Douglas won an Emmy in 1954 for best-written comedy material.


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Well, I might read Petraeus, but he's pretty damn smart.
I'd add Leonard Woolf's five-volume autobiography about life before, during and after Virginia. Also Kate Hepburn's "Me: Stories of My Life".
Of your list, the only one I've read is Douglas's. Wilde's is now on my list. Thanks, Lyn.
AND LISTEN to your very smart words.
Catherine the Great.. one of my faves..
rated with hugs
So when I dream up this list, the one thing that unites all these examples is that these people are all writers of the highest caliber.
1. EB White. Any of his memoirs.
2. Jim Harrison. Can't remember title
3. Jim Thompson. Roughneck. OK maybe it;s not all literally his
memoir. But the guy is so good--who cares?
5. Walter Benjamin at the Dairy Queen--Larry McMurtry. Avoid the
later memoirs on books and Hollywood.
6. Studs Terkel. Touch and Go. Because it was written with the
delightful and wonderful Syd Wolf.
7. John Steinbeck. Travels with Charley.
8. Patti Smith. Just Kids.
And if you search for Kate Flannery here on OS you'll see the point being made right here on OS.
To create a memoir that a stranger wants to read---you gotta be really good.
Memoirs should resonate with us as do classics.
Before I got a gadget (I still have no cell phone, credit card, i-pod, but since blogging there's a sorta pudgy tummy, and more headaches - and sore heartaches.)
You wear a school cap and gown with a tassel? You lead to great resources. I was told to read a lawyer bloh etc.,. I was told before I blogged that there are contemptible folks, and living great thinkers to read on the Internet. No blog. Buy mules. Blogs mean you no get heehaw friendly donkey to help plow with a expensive lame mule.
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I an glad I bought the contraption, any hoot way. I try to share and do learn from You etc.
I always say that todays books (not all) have too many words and pages between the front flap and the back flap. No pictures. No read good. No read divorce lawyer.
Some folks fallout with Smokey.
Smokey The Bear loves Leffe Ale.
Smokey carries a fire shovel. snow.
Lawyers that I've met argue with beer.
Some (no awe) pick fight with chip-monk.
Nuns in the boondocks sticks slurp bares.
I best get out to the sauna and enjoy cooky.
I keep ranting about this but it is worthwhile. ;-)
I want to hear the dish about the Tsarina's pet horse.
And, Jack Douglas was a real gem.
"Travels with Charley" is far more fiction than fact. A great read to be sure, but really a device for the author to share his thoughts. Half the stuff he writes about never happened.
But, as long as we're talking about fictional memoires, let us include "Decision Points" by George W. Bush.
~Oscar Wilde
That said:
Autobiography of Eleanor Roosevelt
Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramhansa Yogananda
Freedom in Exile: The Autobiography of The Dalai Lama
@ Vulgarious Fett ~ thanks for the tip on Chuck Klosterman
Bob Schieffer's This Just In is nowhere near as artful as that one, or, I'm sure, your suggestions, Elijah, but it's an interesting perspective on the news biz, with lots of stories about those big events geezy Boomers lived through.
Mary Antin's The Promised Land is a fascinating look at adaptation, Jewish American life in NYC in the early 1900s, and the period of the great immigration.
Carlos Eire's Waiting for Snow in Havana explores life in Cuba before and after the coming of Fidel, mixed in with a lot of weird family drama.
My research centered on Augustine's "On Christian Doctrine" which is viewed by many scholars as the main source of the predominant medieval view of women as evil temptresses, luring men into sexual snares....
"Nothing is worse than a house where the women commands and the man obeys."
"A good Christian hates in his wife conjugal connection and sexual intercourse."
He also prayed, "Give me chastity...but not yet!" (How does one know he prayed this?)
....and he only became devout in his older age after many many romps with whores, having mistresses...then he creates the classic doctrine on sin: the woman's fault. This shaped Christianity's morality evermore, placing blame for his own lust issues squarely with the temptresses, called Woman.
should be "...woman commands...."
Another title by Jack Douglas I'm fond of is I Am A Prisoner in a Chinese Fortune Cookie Factory. Love that.
Jack Douglas. Love the title. Must go research him....
Great list
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That said, some of my favorites are A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius (Dave Eggers kind of turns the thing on its head); Making Toast (it is astounding to me what Roger Rosenblatt can convey in the fewest words possible) and anything by David Sedaris (personal essays.)
To me a good story is a good story, regardless of how it's told.
Don't Let's Go To The Dogs Tonight, by Alexandra Fuller (her African childhood); When A Crocodile Eats The Sun by Peter Godwin (ditto). These are two of my favorite books ever.
Keith Richards' new book is fantastic.
I would like to recommend one called "Amber Gold". It's the auto-biography of an illustrious citizen of my island Trinidad, Arnold Hamilton Maloney. Actually he was born not far from my natal village. He migrated to the US in 1908 at the age of 18. He is famous for discovering the antidote for barbituary poisoning.
I hope you can locate a copy, it's a very good read and you would get a glimpse of life from another perspective.
In terms of memoirs, one of my favourites is Pamela Des Barres' "I'm With the Band" while two of the best I've read were published in the last year: Keith Richards' "Life" and Patti Smith's "Just Kids." Bob Dylan's "Chronicles Vol. 1" was also excellent.
Since all I read is fiction and medieval history (the perils of choices) I'm terribly ignorant of biographies.
Thank you for this post, a wonderful starting point.
I would add to your list Alexander King and his autobiographical "Mine Enemy Grows Older" and "May This House Be Safe From Tigers"!
In two volumes no less. Weird eh?
:-) R
Rated!
My additions (some mentioned by others):
Alexandra Fuller -- "Don't Lets Go to the Dogs Tonight" Jeanette Walls -- "The Glass Castle"
Mary Karr -- "The Liar's Club"
Dave Eggers -- "A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius"
Mikal Gilmore -- "Shot in the Heart"
Russell Baker -- "Growing Up" (Pulitzer Prize winner)
Gene Cheek -- "The Color of Love"
(The common thread is that all are are full of tragedy and sorrow, but are without rancor, surprisingly entertaining, self-aware and redemptive.)